You Got It All Wrong, Melissa Etheridge

You Got It All Wrong, Melissa Etheridge
Shame on Melissa Etheridge for using her privilege and public platform to blame herself for her breast cancer and, by extension, blame all lesbian and bisexual women for our disproportionate burden of the disease. Cancer is a disease caused by the uncontrolled growth of rogue cells. Period. Of course, there are some things, like genetics and tobacco use, that increase the likelihood of occurrence. But Etheridge didn’t cause her own breast cancer, and she didn’t make it disappear once she “got [her] body back into balance.” She had a genetic mutation that made her more susceptible, she used to be a chain smoker, and, considering that not everyone in those categories gets cancer, she was also unlucky. Then she had surgery (a lumpectomy) and five rounds of chemotherapy and radiation to get rid of her cancer. She was not cured by simply fixing her diet any more than she caused her cancer by eating poorly.

In a recent article in AARP: The Magazine, Melissa Etheridge and Sheryl Crow also used their soapbox to call cancer a “gift.” Really? As the founder and executive director of the National LGBT Cancer Network, I tend to think of the disease as terrifying, time-consuming, disfiguring, expensive and isolating. Having just mourned the death of my fourth dear friend to cancer, I think of the disease as more of a thief than a benefactor. Last night I had dinner with a friend, a transgender man who is facing down the end of his life and wanted to talk to me about hospice. Melissa Etheridge tramples my grief and my work by thanking cancer for waking her up to her poor diet and stress level.

Cancer excessively punishes LGBT people. And as a group, lesbians have the densest cluster of risk factors for breast cancer. Moreover, because of multiple barriers to accessing health care, including previous discrimination and lower rates of health-insurance coverage, we fall behind in our cancer screenings, like mammograms. Once diagnosed with cancer, many lesbians face additional challenges that our heterosexual sisters are spared, like invisibility, healthcare providers’ rejection of our families of choice and lack of information about cancer’s impact on lesbian sexuality, fertility and relationships.

What do we need from the people who get airtime, ink and blog space? We need plenty, and Melissa Etheridge blew the chance to help us, instead offering self-indulgent and incorrect information. We need encouragement to take better care of our bodies, yes, but that has to go beyond diet to also include cancer screenings. She could have suggested that we harness the power of our friendship networks and go in packs for mammograms, offering each other support and encouragement during the scary procedure. Instead of feeding individualized victim blaming, I wish she’d spoken out about the social determinants of our health, specifically how discrimination directly impacts LGBT bodies. We are not just a product of our personal habits. We are a community of people who need those with a voice to work for change for all of us.

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Ryan Seacrest Convinces Nick Jonas To Manscape By Playing Ball With His Crotch

Ryan Seacrest Convinces Nick Jonas To Manscape By Playing Ball With His Crotch

Screen Shot 2014-11-11 at 2.08.04 PM“I made it through [Nick Jonas’] crotch,” says Ryan Seacrest. “Come again?” says us.

“It’s crotch ball,” says Ryan Seacrest. “Come again?” says us.

You know, crotch ball. The game where the guest (in this case Nick Jonas) straps a hoop to his crotch and Ryan Seacrest tries to throw a ball through it. If he makes it, Nick is off scot-free, but if he misses, he has to complete a dare.

It’s like what we’d do at a sleepover when we were twelve if we were somehow lamer than we already were back then. Which would have been hard to pull off, and that’s saying something.

The first two balls make it in, but the third one misses and Nick has to — drum roll — shave his chest. You know, because he just said he doesn’t do that.

It ends up being a less-than-satisfying shave. A technicality, really.

Still, Ryan Seacrest really loves fueling those gay rumors.

“Nick Jonas shaving his chest. I thought this was just something I dream about. I like it smooth, bro,” says Ryan Seacrest. “Come again?” says us.

Watch the whole stunt here:

Dan Tracer

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European Space Probe To Make Historic Landing On Comet Tomorrow: VIDEO

European Space Probe To Make Historic Landing On Comet Tomorrow: VIDEO

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The European Space Agency will (hopefully) make history tomorrow with the perilous, first-ever landing of a man made probe on a comet some 300 million miles from Earth.

In 2005, NASA made first contact with another comet when it slammed its Deep Impact craft into Tempel 1, ejecting material that scientists were able to study. Later that same year, the ESA launched its much more ambitious Rosetta spacecraft on a nearly 10-year trip to rendezvous with a dumbbell shaped comet, 67P/Churyumox-Gerasimenko. The unmanned craft made the news in August when it finally caught up with the comet, joining it in an irregular orbit.

But the real action will start early Wednesday morning when the main craft ejects a landing pod called Philae (pictured above) that will make an intricately plotted, 7-hour descent to the comet’s rapidly spinning surface, which should end with touchdown at 11:00 AM EST. If all goes well, the pod will claw into the comet with drills that will keep in place for 3 days of intensive study of the celestial body before its batteries run out.

ESA will be streaming all the tense action from mission control if you want to follow it live as it happens…sorta. The comet is so far away that radio signals take 27 minutes to travel back to Earth. For a more dramatic take on the mission, you can check out Rosetta’s very Hollywood-style “trailer,” which rivals the outer space action (and pounding score) in Interstellar

You can watch it AFTER THE JUMP


Brian Sloan

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Man Declares He's Been 'Delivered' From Homosexuality At Christian Event In St. Louis (VIDEO)

Man Declares He's Been 'Delivered' From Homosexuality At Christian Event In St. Louis (VIDEO)
Video footage of a young man reportedly claiming to have been “delivered” from homosexuality at the Church of God in Christ’s 107th Holy Convocation in St. Louis, Missouri is making the blogosphere rounds.

The man, who has not been identified in media reports but is reportedly 21 years old, tells the crowd, “I’m not gay no more. I am delivered! I don’t like mens no more. I said I like women. Women women women women!”

In the clip, he goes on to note, “I would not date a man! I would not carry a purse! I would not put on make-up! I will, I will love a women.”

Immediately following the speech, the pastor rewarded the man with $100, noting, “God said he’s going to bless you because of your commitment. Just to prove it, He just told me to give you $100.”

A note on the YouTube clip, which appears to be hosted by someone affiliated with the church, states, “A young man received deliverance from the spirit of homosexuality during the Saturday night altar call after Supt. Earl Carter preached the fire down from heaven.” The video has already been viewed over 290,000 times by Tuesday afternoon.

The Huffington Post reached out to a spokesperson for Church of God in Christ’s 107th Holy Convocation for a comment about what transpired during the service but did not immediately receive a response.

Prayer is one of many controversial “cures” for homosexuality that have been touted over the centuries. In September, a man claimed that a teacher at his church forced him to have oral and anal sex in an effort to treat his homosexuality. Another man, Raymond Bell, a pastor of the Cowboy Church of Virginia, made headlines with claims that sessions involving the stroking of horses could help “cure” certain “addictions” like homosexuality. For more ridiculous gay “cures,” check out the slideshow below.

H/T Towleroad

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