Diving Paws-First into the Weekend with @negrito.the.kitcat
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Hello, world! We’re pleased to introduce you to Negrito (@negrito.the.kitcat), our #WeeklyFluff and a fearless explorer of frigid Swiss snowbanks. Take a page out of Negrito’s book and dive paws-first into this weekend.
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Could Frozen’s Elsa Be the First Disney Princess With a Girlfriend?
There’s been a push to #GiveElsaAGirlfriend, and the writer of the sequel is open to it.
www.advocate.com/film/2018/3/02/could-frozens-elsa-be-first-disney-princess-girlfriend
The Oscar-snubbed gay drama “BPM” just won France’s Best Film Award
Everyone should see this film.
Greg Berlanti Announces Winner of 2018 Queerties Up & Coming Award Winner
Read Mike Huckabee’s Response to Being Chased Off CMA Board: ‘Hate Wins’
The former governor of Arkansas is angry there are repercussions for bad behavior.
www.advocate.com/politics/2018/3/02/read-mike-huckabees-response-being-chased-cma-board-hate-wins
Pursuing a Life Full of Self-Love with @_kellyu
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This post recognizes @neda Awareness Week in the US. #NEDAwareness
“I’ve been in recovery for about a year, which does not mean healed. It means I’m aware of my struggles, and now I’m working on it,” says 24-year-old Kelly Uchima (@_kellyu), who lives in Chicago. From elementary school through college, Kelly struggled with eating disorders. In 2015, she sought support from a therapist, and her relationship with herself started to transform, both IRL and on Instagram. Today her account, previously focused on fitness, is devoted to self-love. “Pursuing a relationship with yourself, your body and food in self-loving ways is such a journey that’s forever,” says the academic researcher. “I think that’s my biggest mission in social media: showing people how to become their own friend, their own supporter.”
Catholic church rocked as 60 allegedly gay priests exposed during corruption trial
After a male escort blew the whistle on Father Luca Morini, the disgraced priest is now on trial for fraud, embezzlement, extortion, and drug dealing.
Good, Clean, Gay Sex: Best Practices for Better Bottoming
Body Conscious: Gay Men’s Health, Sex, and Self is a new regular twice-monthly feature from Towleroad covering the unique issues gay men face with regard to physical and mental fitness.
The results of a new survey of 300 gay men were recently released by Bespoke Surgical, a self-described “elite anal surgery practice” focused on sexual wellness. The company focuses on preventative screenings, anal rejuvenation including botox and bleaching as well as anal restoration services like skin tags, anal warts, hemorrhoids, abscesses, fistulas, and fissures.
So it’d make sense they would want to know more about how gay men feel about anal sex and their preparation for it.
One question posed by the company focused on condom usage. They found that 37% of their respondents always use a condom during anal sex, 21% occasionally do, and 16% never use a condom.
The company found that among its respondents hygiene was a major concern before and after anal sex.
78% of those polled said they think about cleanliness always or most of the time during anal sex, while just 9% never think about it. And clean-up was important to 61%, who said they would feel more comfortable if they used some sort of anal cleanser afterwards.
As for the frequency of anal sex:
39% – a couple times a week.
24% – a couple times a month.
13% – daily
Writes Bespoke: “Put another way, 5 in 6 gay men have anal sex at least a few times each year. Only 1 in 6 partake less than once each year. This information has implications: it confirms that the topic of anal sex preparation is something that impacts many people. Plus, if it’s something that most people don’t do properly, it’s a issue about which people need to be educated.”
As far as preparation goes, those polled by Bespoke on their use of a douche before sex replied with these answers:
42% – always or frequently use an anal cleanser
38% – rarely or never
21% – sometimes
They add: “Interestingly, gay men who have anal sex daily are 1.3 – 2.1 times more likely to always use an anal cleansing product, compared to those who do it less often. We found that, generally speaking, the less frequently someone has anal sex, the more likely they are to never use an anal cleansing product.”
Bespoke also found that, among its respondents, 25% used a water-based enema to prepare for sex, 20% used a saline enema, and 18% used a shower adapter.
But should you even be douching at all? Not according to some experts.
Dr. Evan Goldstein, who founded Bespoke, told VICE that douching too often can lead to other health issues: “If you’re doing it every day, there are a lot of issues with enemas. You can lengthen your colon, and that can lead to constipation later in life. That’s what’s so dangerous about it. It’s not threatening, but it’s a real pain in the ass, so to speak, it can make you uncomfortable and miserable.”
Goldstein said that there’s little chance you’re gonna run into anything up there anyway: “Imagine if you line up ten guys, and you’re going to top them all. Even if they haven’t prepared, nine out of ten would be completely stool-free.”
And Dr. Stephen Goldstone, an assistant clinical professor of surgery at Mount Sinai Hospital and a specialist in anorectal disease and gay men’s health, agreed, explaining that feces stay in an upper part of the colon called the sigmoid colon until you’re ready to take a dump, so encountering them during sex isn’t going to occur most of the time.
Also, don’t use Fleet or other based saline enemas because the chemicals in them are super harsh on your rectum, causing irritation, along with dryness and mucus issues that can lead to bleeding and make transmission of STDs more likely.
If you want to make a change, try adding more dietary fiber to your diet, and consider just washing your anal area before sex. If you absolutely must douche, do it with plain water, and not too much of it.
For some further tips, check out the clips on the top and the bottom of this post.
Bespoke’s survey also asked about sex toys, and anal damage. They reported: “We found that 41% of gay men have experienced tearing or other damage from anal sex. Finally, the data tells us that 45% of gay men don’t use a sex toy for anal sex at all, while 41% use one at least to prepare. 55% use one for pleasure, to prepare, or both. It’s possible that those who use a toy to prepare may be doing so to avoid tearing or other damage.”
Bespoke’s survey found that 39% of men said they were tops, 29% identified as bottoms, and 33% described themselves as versatile.
How do you clean up for sex?
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HRC Calls on Trump-Pence Administration to Withdraw Anti-LGBTQ Nominee Gordon Giampietro
Today, HRC continued calls for the Trump-Pence Administration to withdraw its nomination of Gordon Giampietro, an anti-LGBTQ extremist recently nominated to the U.S. District Court for the Eastern District of Wisconsin. HRC has released a new video highlighting abhorrent comments Giampietro made during radio interviews that previously went undisclosed to Wisconsin’s judicial nominating committee.
“Gordon Giampietro’s disturbing views against the LGBTQ community, women and other marginalized groups raise serious questions about his ability as a Judge to enforce equal treatment for all people under our laws,” said HRC Wisconsin State Manager Wendy Strout. “Someone who publicly and unabashedly voices contempt for equality and diversity has no place on the bench or in public office. HRC will continue to oppose Giampietro and other anti-LGBTQ nominees that the Trump-Pence Administration scrapes from the bottom of the barrel.”
Gordon Giampietro’s disparaging comments include referring to birth control as “an assault on nature,” saying marriage equality is “against God’s plan” and LGBTQ people are “troubled” and unfit to be parents. In online writings, Giampietro attacks a woman’s right to choose and criticized the Civil Rights Act of 1964, claiming that “calls for diversity” are “code for relaxed standards.”
The Trump-Pence administration has appointed and nominated scores of extreme and unqualified anti-LGBTQ officials to crucial agencies and court benches — some of whom will serve lifetime appointments. Giampietro’s nomination is part of a larger trend of Donald Trump nominating radical, anti-LGBTQ judges to the federal bench, including Jeff Mateer, Damien Schiff, Leonard Steven Grasz, Mark Norris, and Stephen Schwartz.
