LGBTQ Immigrants On Same-Sex Marriage: 'History Went Along With Us'

LGBTQ Immigrants On Same-Sex Marriage: 'History Went Along With Us'
WASHINGTON — Same-sex marriage arguments before the Supreme Court on Tuesday stem partly from a dispute over a few words on a piece of paper.

Jim Obergefell, one of the lead plaintiffs, wanted to be listed as the surviving spouse on the death certificate of his late husband, John Arthur. Because they live in Ohio, where their marriage is not recognized, the question of whether Obergefell should be allowed to do so has made it to the Supreme Court.

Isabel Sousa-Rodriguez, 25, understands Obergefell’s desire to ensure his spouse’s death certificate reflects the existence of their marriage. Isabel, who identifies as genderqueer and who prefers the use of “Isabel” rather than a male or female pronoun, is married to Felipe Sousa-Rodriguez, 29, an activist who will speak at a rally outside the Supreme Court on Tuesday.

In 2013, Isabel and Felipe — who both were once undocumented — had been married for about a year when Isabel applied for citizenship. At the citizenship interview, Isabel filled out the forms as a married person. The agent apologized, but said he had to change the form back to single, because Isabel’s same-sex marriage wasn’t recognized by the federal government.

The next day, the Supreme Court struck down the Defense of Marriage Act, the law that kept the federal government from recognizing marriages like the Sousa-Rodriguez’s.

Isabel went to be sworn in as a U.S. citizen later, and received a naturalization certificate. It said “married” — Isabel said the agent must have gone back to change it in light of the Supreme Court decision. It was an emotional day for a lot of reasons, but Isabel said just seeing that word was the biggest one.

Reading about Jim Obergefell and John Arthur reminded Isabel of how that felt.

“It just struck a chord for me because I remember that feeling at the courthouse and just how desperately I didn’t want it to say I was single because it was a lie and I didn’t want to be living a lie,” Isabel said. “Having that recognition, I know how badly Jim wanted and continues to want that to be the case in his fight at the Supreme Court, so I feel so connected to him in that sense.”

Isabel and Felipe are among the estimated 900,000 LGBT immigrants living in the U.S., including about 267,000 who are undocumented, according to a 2013 report from the Williams Institute at UCLA Law.

Isabel and Felipe met in Miami in 2007, when they started immigration activism with the group Students Working For Equal Rights. Felipe was born in Brazil and had been living in the U.S. without status since he was 14. Isabel was originally from Colombia and was undocumented until being granted a green card through Isabel’s stepmother.

Isabel and Felipe were friends at first, but their “activist love,” as Felipe called it, grew quickly. A few months after they started dating in 2008, they moved in together. Felipe came out twice — first as an undocumented immigrant, then as a gay man.

They were active in immigrant rights issues, and walked with two other activists from Miami to Washington in 2010.

In 2011, when Isabel proposed, it came after a walk around Charleston, South Carolina, that ended on the steps of a Department of Homeland Security building, and a discussion about the injustices that had transpired there.

“The only thing that we really promised each other was always to fight for justice and do it together,” Felipe said. “That was really our number one promise to each other when we first started dating.”

They were married in Florida on May 18, 2012, but it wasn’t recognized by the state, so they traveled to Massachusetts the next day, waited the state-required number of days, and were legally married. Felipe said they were unsure what it would mean for his immigration status, but they didn’t think it would be a factor.

But it eventually did matter. He received work authorization and temporary reprieve through the Deferred Action for Childhood Arrivals policy, or DACA, in 2012, but was still undocumented. When DOMA was struck down, Isabel was finally able to petition for legal permanent residency for Felipe. He got his green card in December.

“We didn’t [get married], thinking about how there is this potential benefit of not having to face deportation if I had a permanent status,” Felipe said. “It was not in the plans, it just happened like that. History went along with us.”

They now live in New York, where Isabel is set to begin a PhD program in sociology at CUNY in the fall and Felipe works with the immigrant advocacy group United We Dream. Eventually, they hope to move back to Florida and adopt children. They also want to keep advocating for better treatment of immigrants and LGBTQ people.

If the Supreme Court rules in favor of same-sex marriage, Felipe said it will be bittersweet, since other courts have held up President Barack Obama’s deportation executive actions that would help many undocumented immigrants.

“What I hope is that allies of LGBTQ people and also LGBTQ people in general can see that immigrants are still struggling,” he said. “Through the same pathway that we found rights, they also have taken away rights from folks. This is a moment for the coalition to be coalescing.”

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NYC's Gay-Owned 'OUT Hotel' Faces Wrath of Protesters Angry Over Reception for Ted Cruz: VIDEO

NYC's Gay-Owned 'OUT Hotel' Faces Wrath of Protesters Angry Over Reception for Ted Cruz: VIDEO

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A large crowd of protesters demonstrated outside The Out NYC Hotel on 42nd Street this evening, angry at the intimate reception its owners, Ian Reisner and Mati Weiderpass, held at their home last Wednesday for anti-gay conservative and presidential hopeful Senator Ted Cruz (R-TX).

The protesters yelled “shame” and read off a list of other properties included in a boycott, including those recently purchased by Reisner in the business district of the gay resort Fire Island Pines.

The protest was recorded on a series of Vines by DNAinfo reporter Danielle Tcholakian.

Watch all the Vines, AFTER THE JUMP

After initially defending the reception, Reisner and Weiderpass apologized on Facebook.

Said Reisner, feeling the backlash: “I am shaken to my bones by the e-mails, texts, postings and phone calls of the past few days. I made a terrible mistake.”

Added Weiderpass: “I share in Ian’s remorse. I, too, lay humbled with what has happened in the last week. I made a terrible mistake.”

Since the reception, several gay organizations and individuals have pulled out of events scheduled at the Out NYC hotel.

In a statement following the reception, Cruz issued a statement apparently meant to appease conservatives which said, “The purpose of the meeting and the primary topics of conversation were national security, foreign policy, and America’s commitment to standing with Israel. On the subject of marriage, when asked, I stated directly and unambiguously what everyone in the room already knew, that I oppose gay marriage and I support traditional marriage.”

Cruz continued his anti-gay crusade at an event in Iowa over the weekend, where he urged Republicans to “fall to our knees in prayer” that the Supreme Court does not rule for marriage equality.

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Andy Towle

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Jake Gyllenhaal Was In A Boy Band And Joe Manganiello Still Knows How To Grind

Jake Gyllenhaal Was In A Boy Band And Joe Manganiello Still Knows How To Grind

Jake Gyllenhaal told Ellen DeGeneres that he was once in a boy band called Holeshot (insert your own joke here) because, of course, he was. There’s nothing he can’t do.

Behold perfection in the guise of Joe Manganiello, who is back and bigger than ever in the forthcoming Magic Mike XXL.

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RHOA‘s Kenya Moore might be Gone With the Wind fabulous, but the jury’s still out on her upcoming s(h)itcom titled Life Twirls On.

Mariah Carey dropped a new single called “Infinity” that reminded us of her ’90s hey day. Viva la Mimi!

Freddie Smith (below) won a Daytime Emmy Award for his portrayal of Sonny, a gay character on the soap Days of our Lives.

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In other awards news, Laverne Cox becomes the first out transgender woman to receive an Emmy as an executive producer for the Logo special Laverne Cox Presents: The T Word. She chatted with Janet Mock on the red carpet before the Nerd Prom AKA the White House correspondents’ dinner.

The history and impact of Gay Bob, the world’s first homosexual doll, is uncovered in this HuffPo story (some photos might be NSFW).
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Jeremy Kinser

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Plaintiffs Fighting for the Freedom to Marry Gather Outside SCOTUS Ahead of Tomorrow's Oral Arguments

Plaintiffs Fighting for the Freedom to Marry Gather Outside SCOTUS Ahead of Tomorrow's Oral Arguments

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On the eve of the Supreme Court’s historic hearing on the freedom to marry, the plaintiffs families and attorneys from Michigan, Ohio, Kentucky, and Tennessee gathered outside the high court’s chambers.

Happening now: #Marriage plaintiff families gather at Supreme Court on eve of arguments. Their message #LoveMustWin pic.twitter.com/laEbXLNvJE

— Scott Wooledge (@Clarknt67) April 27, 2015

Need a primer on what to expect at the oral arguments tomorrow? Check out our legal editor Ari Ezra Waldman’s latest column HERE.

Towleroad will also be outside the court tomorrow filming reactions and the expected rallies so be sure to add us on Periscope. Download the live-streaming app on the App Store, search for Towleroad and then add us. You’ll be notified when we start streaming. 


Kyler Geoffroy

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