Gay Hero of Sydney Hostage Crisis Died a Second Class Citizen

Gay Hero of Sydney Hostage Crisis Died a Second Class Citizen
Often in times of crisis we find unlikely heroes; individuals who go well beyond the call of duty. Often these people are gay.

In ages past, this fact would be ignored, or not spoken about. It could even be a burden. Oliver Sipple was a Marine who saw combat duty in Vietnam. At home he was in the closet, but in San Francisco he had some chance to live his own life.

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He was standing outside the St. Francis Hotel in 1975 where President Gerald Ford was appearing. As Ford left the building, a woman standing next to Sipple raised a pistol at the president. She fired, but not before Sipple saw what was happening and lunged at her, deflecting her arm and causing her to miss.

This act earned him the attention of the media–something he did not want. He didn’t want his name known. But the media was relentless. He asked them to not reveal he was gay, something he hid from his family, but, of course, the story got out–media feeding-frenzies rarely respect people and journalists feel themselves immune from consequences of their actions–after all, they sell a lot of papers and it’s not their lives that are screwed up.

Sipple’s mother did learn her son was gay and she disowned him, precisely what he feared. While he later reconciled with his parents, his mental health deteriorated. He drank heavily, became morbidly obese, and was found dead at the age of 47.

In Sydney, a mentally disturbed man, grabbing hold of religious extremism as his excuse, took customers of a coffee shop hostage. For hours, he threatened and used them as shields. Police negotiations were apparently going nowhere and the siege lingered past human endurance.

This lone man had more than a dozen people in his grip but was getting sleepy. He started nodding off, even though he would try to fight it.

The hostages were tired, but having a shotgun pointed at you has a way of keeping you alert. As the terrorist nodded off, the hostages ran for the door and safety–but not all of them.

One man charged the terrorist. Tori Johnson was 34. He managed the Lindt Chocolate Café for two years. Employees and customers all said he was a good man, a kind man. He was also a gay man.

Johnson tried to take the gun to protect the other hostages as they fled, but he was shot in the attempt. His attack distracted the terrorist. The others escaped and the sound of the gunshot brought in the police, who killed the armed man. Another hostage also died on the scene, but of a heart attack on the way to hospital after being shot.

Tori Johnson never went home that day, he died in hospital. He never again got to tell his partner of 14 years, Thomas Zinn, that he loved him, or that he wanted him to pick up his socks or any of the things one says to another who is the love of their life, with whom they share heart and home.

Tori’s partner Thomas, and his family, issued a statement: “We are so proud of our beautiful boy Tori, gone from this earth but forever in our memories as the most amazing life partner, son and brother we could ever wish for.”

Mark Bingham was a gay man on United Airlines Flight 93 on September 11, 2001. The plane was in the hands of hijackers. He was rushing home to San Francisco to be an usher at a friend’s wedding. Hijackers took the plane and Bingham and other passengers were herded to the back of the plane. He called his mother and left a message telling her what was happening. Other passengers also called home and learned of the attack on the Twin Towers. Bingham and other passengers decided to rush the cockpit and take the plane back.

The fought the hijackers who lost control of the plane, crashing into an empty field instead heavily populated Washington, DC.

Father Mychal Judge was a priest and the chaplain to the New York Fire Department. When he learned of the attacks in New York he rushed to the Twin Towers and began offering last rites to those who died. He entered the Towers and began helping those who needed it. As the South Tower collapsed debris flew through the windows and he was killed.

His was the first body recovered and taken to the medical examiner, earning him the dubious distinction of “Victim 0001.” Father Judge was also a gay man. He disagreed with Catholic teaching and said, “Is there so much love in the world that we can afford to discriminate against any kind of love?”

Besides their sexual orientation, what Tori Johnson, Oliver Sipple, Mark Bingham and Mychal Judge had in common is that they were heroes, but not by design. Fundamentally they were good men thrust into horrific circumstances who acted in a way consistent with their own moral character. Heroes are good people facing unusual circumstances and remaining true to character.

Yesterday we learned that Tori Johnson was a good man.

Australian Prime Minister Tony Abbott called Tori Johnson, and the other victim “good people.” Yes, Tori was good people, but to Abbott he still wasn’t good enough, at least not when it came to marriage.

Tori and his partner of 14 years, Thomas, could never be married, not in Australia. Tori and Thomas deserved the same rights as other Australians. But that right was denied them, and now, for Tori, it’s too late.

Prime Minister Tony Abbott laid flowers and said nice words but he’s still fighting to deny marriage rights to “good people” such as Tori Johnson.

If Abbot wishes to honor the heroism of Tori Johnson he should push for marriage equality. At the very least, he should get of the way and allow his own party caucus freedom to vote their conscience. For all couples like Tori and Frank it’s time to pass Senator David Leyonhjelm’s marriage legislation.

(Photo by Linda Black, used with permission.)

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First Nighter: Samuel D. Hunter Puts <i>Pocatello</i> on the Theater Map

First Nighter: Samuel D. Hunter Puts <i>Pocatello</i> on the Theater Map
Throughout MacArthur Fellowship recipient Samuel D. Hunter’s outstanding play The Whale, at Playwrights Horizons in 2012, the main character is a gay man isolating himself by virtue of his obesity. Now back at PH with Pocatello, Hunter watches — in a series of highly animated scenes — another gay man who’s isolating himself and has been isolated. Which condition came first is, like the chicken or egg, unclear.

Whereas the protagonist in The Whale can barely move, Pocatello‘s Eddie (T. R. Knight) is constantly on the go, as if trying to run away from himself. His personal racetrack is a financially troubled Italian restaurant that’s part of a chain and might be an Olive Garden. Although it’s on the brink of shuttering, Eddie is hoping he can revive it. His strategy is establishing family week, which is ballyhooed in a banner declaring “Famiglia Week” that Lauren Helpern includes on her amusingly generic eatery set.

Not only do the bright letters say it’s Family Week inside, but they tell the audience that Pocatello is a play about families. Oh, yes, this is a play that gives a real workout to Leo Tolstoy’s comment about unhappy families being unalike.

While restaurant staffers Troy (Danny Wolohan), Max (Cameron Scoggins) and Isabelle (Elvy Yost) — all three of whom Eddie is keeping in the dark about business prospects — attend to their duties, two families regularly invade the premises. They’re Eddie’s estranged mother (Brenda Wehle); older brother Nick (Brian Hutchison) and Nick’s wife Kelly (Crystal Finn); and Troy’s father Cole (Jonathan Hogan), wife Tammy (Jessica Dickey) and daughter Beth (Leah Karpel).

To the exclusion of other customers ever darkening the restaurant’s doorstep, they air their woes ceaselessly. What’s eating at Eddy’s clan as they eat — or don’t — is that his father shot himself a few decades earlier, and his demise splintered the immediate survivors seemingly beyond repair. Indeed, as much as Eddie’s motivation is saving the Olive Garden branch (is there a pun somewhere about olive branches and peace?), he’s even more fixated on reuniting the family.

Troy and Tammy find their 19-year-old marriage ossifying while they figure out how to handle daughter Beth’s eccentricities. These involve her repeatedly throwing up not from bulimia, as she explains, but from disgust with pesticides and food insults of that sort. They’re also dealing with dad Cole’s senility. Though they make little headway with Beth, Cole or themselves, Eddie does get through to Beth by offering her a waitress stint she reluctantly takes.

Family reconciliation, then, is on Moscow, Idaho-born Hunter’s agenda, as it is in The Whale, where father-daughter rapprochement surfaces. Whether the nonstop nagging, insulting, bickering and alienation — in addition to waiter Max’s meth addiction flaring — remains consistently engaging is questionable.

Credulity is further strained by Hunter’s allowing all the confrontations to be aired in the midst of a public place. If this is an Olive Garden or something along those lines, why aren’t there ever any other diners? There are multitudes in commercials for Olive Garden et al.. I know there’s such a thing as dramatic license, but there’s also such a thing as taking too many liberties with it.

Hunter calls his play Pocatello because he’s also examining small-town mentality — or mentalities. (FYI, Moscow is separated from Pocatello by 348.15 miles.) Implying that Pocatello is a synecdoche for small towns everywhere, Hunter presents Eddie, who refuses to look anyplace else for a better life, in contrast to brother Nick, who left Pocatello for just that reason and is attending the family get-together against his wishes.

Obviously, Hunter is in Nick’s corner but also concerned about the Eddies of this world. He’s memorialized both in a good-but-not-surpassing work that does benefit greatly by a more-than-able cast — Knight, especially — and by regular Hunter collaborator, director Davis McCallum.

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Nine-Year-Old Girl Writes Letter To Her Gay Teacher, Totally Nails It

Nine-Year-Old Girl Writes Letter To Her Gay Teacher, Totally Nails It

File this under d’awww: A 9-year-old girl handwrote her teacher this letter after he came out during a class lesson on homophobia, and it’s safe to say she aced this one.

Unfortunately there are millions of people in the world who aren’t quite as emotionally intelligent as a little girl. Come on, world, keep up.

Here’s what she wrote:

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It reads:

Dear Mr R,

Even though you’re gay, I will always treat you the same way as I do now. I still think about you the same way as I used to. You’re a great teacher and these are just some of the word’s (sic) that I would describe you as: great, amazing, fantastic, brilliant, awesome and brave.

The reason why I say brave is because you shared a personal secret which was very brave.

You don’t have to feel scared because I know that everone in the class feels the same way as I do.

From A x x

PS. We are all proud of you

The teacher told PinkNews:

“As a primary school teacher I’d always worried about mentioning my sexuality, despite the fact that my colleagues talked about their husbands, wives and significant others all the time.

Then, as part of anti-bullying week, I’d asked who’d heard ‘gay’ being used as an insult. Almost every one of my class put their hands up. I was stunned.

Then I asked who thought that people who were gay or lesbian were bad or wrong in some way, again almost every hand went up.

After speaking to my Head, who was very supportive, we agreed I could tell the class that I’m gay so they at least knew one gay person and hopefully explain that when people use that word they’re talking about me.

The reaction was fantastic – there were a lot of gasps and shocked looks and some basic questions – do you have a boyfriend, etc – but after a couple of minutes they were over it and we moved on to the rest of the lesson.

The letter came a couple of days later. The little girl who wrote it gave it to me at the start of the day with all the other slips about dinner money, school trips and doctors appointments.

Reading it brought tears to my eyes and it took me a little while to compose myself. When I thanked her she just shrugged and repeated something one of the boys in the class had said during the lesson, ‘It’s just your life’. Then she went back to her maths.

For my class it was a surprise sure but, to them, it was just something simple and easy to file away as another piece of information. There was no judgement, no follow up, just acceptance.

Now, I can mention my fiance as easily as any other teacher and my class know me a little better. I’ve had a lot of letters and cards over the years, but this one I know I’ll keep forever.”

Related stories:

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This Kid’s Rap About Transgender Acceptance Is Just Plain Perfect

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What To Watch This Week on TV: The End of 'Colbert,' 'White Collar'

What To Watch This Week on TV: The End of 'Colbert,' 'White Collar'

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Check out our weekly guide to make sure you’re catching the big premieres, crucial episodes and the stuff you won’t admit you watch when no one’s looking.

— Where do you go after you’ve interviewed Smaug? Say goodbye to The Colbert Report Thursday at 11:30 p.m. Eastern on Comedy Central. He may be leaving the conservative character behind, but the charismatic Colbert will take over for Letterman in 2015, sans schtick.

Goodbye, White Collar; hello, Real WorldAFTER THE JUMP …

 

— Season 30 (yes, 30) of The Real World premieres Tuesday at 10 p.m. Eastern on MTV, in case you forgot what happens when people stop being polite and start being drunken idiots. This season’s twist — Skeletons — surprises the housemates with unwanted visitors from back home. 

 

— It was a smart move to reimagine NBC’s The Sing-Off as a one-night competition during the holiday season. It’s about the only time of the year when our collective sentimentality allows for a momentary boost in our a cappella tolerance. (Plus, I’m sure it’s hard to tear host Nick Lachey away from his super busy schedule.) Get ready to see folks use their mouths in the most interesting ways they can show on broadcast television, Wednesday at 9 p.m. Eastern.

 

 

— Get ready to bid farewell to the Freak Show as American Horror Story airs its winter finale Wednesday at 10 p.m. on FX. Will Jimmy (Evan Peters) fare better than Meep in prison? What’s got Pepper (Naomi Grossman) so upset? And, most importantly, will we see Dandy (Finn Wittrock)’s butt again?

 

— It’s the end of White Collar Thursday at 9 p.m. Eastern on USA. The Matt Bomer-led drama brings the six-season series to a close.

What are you watching this week?


Bobby Hankinson

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