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#LimitlessAfricans: Queer African Motherhood – Tobi & Gabi
#LimitlessAfricans: Queer African Motherhood – Tobi (Queer Nigerian) and their daughter Gabi. Essex, England.
“I have always been a mother – in all senses of the word, I like to think that I am a very nurturing person and pretty much looked after both physically and emotionally a lot of the children in my family when I was growing up – being the first grandchild always comes with an extra sense of responsibility – which was reinforced by the ways that the older members of my family. I stayed in this weirdly undefined position of responsibility till we moved to England and at that point, it was me caring for the physical and emotional wellbeing of my sisters. Although it was unexpected, being pregnant at 19 and having a baby at 20 I would say was smoother than I had been lead to believe it would be – in terms of motherhood I mean.
Society definitely has its ways of shaming individual decisions that do not necessarily fit in with the ‘average narrative’ and my journey through motherhood so far has been far from average.”
– Tobi Nicole Adebajo (they/them, non-binary queer bisexual Yoruba femme, IG: @tobiadebajo, Twitter: @tobiadebajo)
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