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What To Do With “Gay” Click-bate

What To Do With “Gay” Click-bate

 

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BY CHARLES PULLIAM-MOORE

Over the past few weeks Buzzfeed’s squad of “Try Guys” have made a dent in the internet with a series of videos designed to go viral. The formula for the series is fairly straight forward: each video features the guys trying something you’ve probably never seen the average man doing in the middle of a work day.

As a series Try Guys reads a lot like your average TLA coming of age dramedy: lacking in plot, but rich in fleshy, softcore nonsense. It started with the guys trying to out drink one another, and then waxing philosophic about the hottest male celebrities. Soon they were trying drag, seeing each other naked for the first time, and experimenting with same-sex kissing.

The guys in these videos are coded as straight, and that same straightness is meant to make the clips as “funny” as they are titillating. Whether or not Try Guys accomplishes either of its goals is open for debate, but what seems rather obvious is Buzzfeed’s newfound fondness for queer clickbate (it’s like queerbait and clickbait but…racier.)

Try Guys both is and isn’t standard fare for publications like Buzzfeed. We’re no strangers to sharing clips of hot guys doing silly things here at Towleroad. Content like this drives traffic, and hey–who doesn’t like little bit of eye candy? There comes a point, though, where one questions the intentions of content like Try Guys that isn’t clearly operating from expressly queer-positive perspective. As J. Bryan Lowder writes in Slate, BuzzFeed’s clickbate reads simultaneously as provocative and laughable:

“The men are clearly feeling bashful about activities that, from a gay point-of-view, are laughably low-stakes, so it’s hard not to feel a certain amount of puppy-dog pity for them. That BuzzFeed’s producers have been able to cast and shoot these micro-docs in a way that encourages responses both erotic and tender is a credit to their powers of manipulation.”

Though Lowder sees the Guys’ “first time” experimentations as endearing, there’s something inherently off about treating gay intimacy like a low-budget episode of Fear Factor. We’re living in a gilded, glittering age where depictions of gay men kissing, touching, and being close with one another have almost become the rule, rather than the exception. Not only that, but today’s objectification of the male body is infinitely more open.

That shirtless guy baking cupcakes? Cosmopolitan knows (and is banking on) the clicks of gay men and straight women alike. The actors and models vying for our collective attention may not be gay themselves, but their intentions are clear. Our gaze as gay men is invited, and in that invitation there’s an implicit affirmation of gay desire.

Though it isn’t setting out to be malicious, Try Guys is trafficking in an all too common narrative. The intended hotness of the videos is undercut by the fact that the guys in it, and the overall theme, is supposed to be a spectacle. “Look at this straight guys doing gay things, how novel!”

That isn’t to say that gay sex and the media built around it can’t be funny–quite the opposite. Rather, when we’re mining the internet for scantily clad guys who can give us a good chuckle, we’ve got to make sure that we’re thinking with two heads as opposed to just one.


Charles Pulliam-Moore

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'You're Really Nice, but I Don't Date Black Guys': Racism or Preference? (VIDEO)

'You're Really Nice, but I Don't Date Black Guys': Racism or Preference? (VIDEO)

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I’m From Driftwood is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit archive for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer stories. New stories are posted on the site every Wednesday.

Nelson Moses Lassiter was excited about coming to terms with his sexuality. He imagined that, upon venturing out into the gay scene, he’d encounter a world more accepting than the one he was used to. What he discovered was not unlike the one he came from, though. He recalls what happened after hitting it off with a guy at a bar:

I was like, “Oh, would you want to grab a drink sometime?”

And he’s like, “You’re really, really sweet, you’re really nice, but I don’t date black guys.” And he’s just like, “Well, you know, they’re just not my type.”

And I’m like, “Well, what does that mean? You just don’t like me because I’m black? That’s weird.”

It wasn’t long after that experience that Nelson encountered more racism, this time from a black friend:

He was actually rather upset at the fact that I was dating a white guy. We were hanging out, and I was telling him about this guy, and he was just like, “Why are you dating white people? You know that they don’t like us.”

And I was like, “What do you mean ‘They don’t like us’? Because I’m dating someone who likes me a lot. So what are you getting at?”

And he goes, “What? You think you’re too good for your own race?”

Hear what Nelson has to say about racism in the LGBTQ community in the video below.

WATCH:

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Looking, Pride And Sam Smith Top The Year In Queer Entertainment

Looking, Pride And Sam Smith Top The Year In Queer Entertainment

Each year there’s chatter about how queer culture has finally reached the mainstream, but there’s no denying that 2014 was a benchmark. We were literally everywhere you looked. RuPaul ruled with airwaves with her game-changing hit RuPaul‘s Drag Race and was a staple in headlines after a misguided columnist for The Advocate called the icon “transphobic.” Even several of Ru’s burgeoning performers became superstars, such as Bianca Del Rio became a ubiquitous, but very welcome presence. On the music front, new songs from our Queen Madonna came out months ahead of schedule. Sam Smith was touted as the second coming of Adele. The debate over whether James Franco was gay-baiting us with his queer-themed projects and teasing Instagram posts took second stage when he got served by Nick Jonas. All things considered, 2014 was a very good year.

So scroll down for the TV shows, films and music that were truly standouts during a very progressive year.

TV

Winner: Looking

Honorable mentions: Transparent, The Normal Heart, RuPaul‘s Drag Race

It’s been a banner year for LGBTs on TV. Amazon’s original series Transparent won wide acclaim, particularly for Jeffrey Tambor as a trans woman of a certain age, a character based on creator Jill Soloway’s father. Ryan Murphy always makes the list for his LGBT-inclusive projects and foremost among them was his adaptation of Larry Kramer’s searing, fact-based The Normal Heart delivered an indelible history lesson to younger gays while reminding older viewers of the horrors they survived. Murphy also filled his deranged anthology American Horror Story: Freak Show with a queer sensibility and cast numerous LGBT actors such as Eve Erkin as Amazon Eve and Matt Bomer as a tragic gay hooker. Gay storylines and fully dimensional characters popped up on countless network series, such as The ComebackScandal, Marry Me and How To Get Away With Murder, which featured gay sex scenes so racy that conservative viewers complained to creator Shonda Rhimes, who promptly shut that bullshit down. Looking, HBO’s insightful dramedy about a group of friends in San Francisco with relationship problems, received some criticism from viewers for its leisurely pacing, but haters can tune into any of the aforementioned programs for speedier thrills. We love Looking not just because it’s one of the few series written, produced and directed by gay people, as well as starring out actors Jonathan Groff and Russell Tovey, but because it subtly and convincingly portrayed the complexities of everyday life. It’s the pro-sex series many of us have been hoping for and we can’t wait for season two.

Film

Winner: Pride

Honorable mentions: The Skeleton Twins, Stranger By The LakeThe Imitation Game

Stranger By the Lake stunned viewers with its gritty sex. Gay fave Benedict Cumberbatch did justice to the story of late queer hero Alan Turing in the riveting The Imitation Game. Bill Hader’s astonishing performance as a suicidal gay man in The Skeleton Twins made the comedy-drama a must-see. The Brazilian drama The Way He Looks was spellbinding. The documentary The Case Against 8, which examined the historic battle for marriage equality in California, was short-listed for an Academy Award. Plus, on a shallow note, we finally got a brief peek at the prodigious penises of Ben Affleck and Neil Patrick Harris in the chilling Gone Girl. But Pride, which tells the true story of a gay rights group who went to the aid of striking coal miner’s in Thatcher-era Britain, was not only a compelling drama, it was one of the year’s most buoyant crowd-pleasers.

 Music

Winner: Sam Smith, In The Lonely Hour

Honorable mentions: Sia, 1000 Forms of Fear; Fly Young Red, “Throw That Boy Pussy;” Jimmy Somerville, “Travesty”

If anything good came from all the hacking scandals of the year, it’s that eternal Queen of Pop Madonna responded to the early leak of demos from Rebel Heart, her due Spring 2015, album by releasing half a dozen of them on iTunes. Bi pop star Sia delivered one the year’s biggest and most inescapable hits “Chandelier.” Bearded Conchita Wurst was the take-no-prisoners winner of Eurovision. Fly Young Red dropped what was undoubtedly the year’s raunchiest jam “Throw That Boy Pussy,” while Drag Race fave Adore Delano released several songs that quickly became queer anthems. Veteran queer artist Jimmy Somerville previewed his upcoming disco album with the release of the thrillingly retro “Travesty.” But let’s all give it up for Sam Smith, who with his rich baritone all-but-owned radio and iTunes this year. His debut album In the Lonely Hour heralded a brilliant new talent and sold more than a million copies.

Jeremy Kinser

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California Gov. Jerry Brown Appoints Openly Gay Lawyer To Head Department of Fair Employment and Housing

California Gov. Jerry Brown Appoints Openly Gay Lawyer To Head Department of Fair Employment and Housing

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California Governor Jerry Brown has appointed Kevin Kish, an openly gay law professor at Loyola Law School, to head California’s Department of Fair Employment and Housing. Before his appointment Kish served as the director of the Employment Rights Project at Bet Tzedek, an LA-based public interest law firm specializing in advocacy for low-income individuals and immigrants.

Kish’s appointment represents a strategic move for the Department at a time when it’s facing allegations of unfair hiring and promotion practices.

The State Personnel Board responsible for enforcing the Department’s merit-based system of advancement expressed “serious concerns that civil service laws and rules pertaining to the selection of qualified candidates are being willfully ignored or disregarded by DFEH’s personnel and management staff.”

The Board’s comments came after an the DFEH was found to have twice promoted an employee into jobs that she was underqualified for. While the employee in question found that she acted in good faith, the Board’s findings were cause for a higher degree of critical scrutiny into the Department. Not only did DFEH officials know that she was unfit for the job, but they were also found to have let internal investigations languish.


Charles Pulliam-Moore

www.towleroad.com/2014/12/california-gov-jerry-brown-appoints-openly-gay-lawyer-to-head-department-of-fair-employment-and-hous-1.html

Gay Men: What Is Your New Year's Contribution?

Gay Men: What Is Your New Year's Contribution?
January is often the month when many of us feverishly start to fulfill or come up with what we want to change in our own lives in the coming year. We become a nation of wide-eyed idealists, hell-bent on doing more, becoming more and repairing the so-called chinks in our armor.

While I’m certainly all for personal growth and developing ourselves as gay men (and humans), it’s super easy to get sucked into that rat race, becoming a human doing rather than a human being.

I adore this quip from Lily Tomlin:

“The trouble with the rat race is that even if you win, you’re still a rat.”

So, let’s take a moment and shift our mindsets. As gay men, our own “resolutions” and plans for improvement vary widely. Some want to lose weight and get “fit”, while others want to make it big, landing that corner office or singing in the spotlight on Broadway. Others still hope to take adventures cross-country or overseas, soaking up all life has to offer. Some hope for a new relationship, a revitalized relationship, the means to take care of an ailing parents, or completely starting anew.

Step back, for a moment, from this dizzying game of success. The rat race. The rapid, doing, doing, doing that often leaves us exhausted and knocks our priorities out of whack. Slow down. Take a deep breath in and cleansing breath out.

Now, step into this idea of contribution. Contribution is all about what you are bringing to the table of humanity.

In the book “The Art of Possibility”, which I highly recommend, the authors note that when we live from a place of contribution, we escape the seduction of comparison and the black and white thinking of “failure” and “success.”

Imagine waking up each morning and asking yourself: How will I be a contribution today? How will I be a gift to others? This shift in thinking gets me so excited, not only for my personal life, but for what all of us can create, next year, in our own community.

What if, as gay men, we stepped into the new year with this insatiable thirst for contribution to the gay men around us?

How will you bring more light into our community in 2015? What small gestures can you take or make to help enrich the lives of the gay men around you? What would you say? What would you do?

I firmly believe that gay men are uniquely gifted with being the people we are. We are here to shed some light for the rest of humanity about what it means to be human. For me, this includes inserting graciousness where there is little. Forgiving, when rage is more popular or seems fitting. Being gentle when the crowd is hoping for revenge. Being thoughtful when it’s often easy to stay wrapped in our patterns of thoughtlessness.

As we all head into 2015, I want every gay man to think about the contribution he can be to his community, family, friends, and to the larger LGBTQ community. How will you be of service? This isn’t limited to “community service,” which we often put into an “other” category.

Wake up with that question: How will I be a contribution today, in every area of my life?

www.huffingtonpost.com/joshhersh/what-is-your-new-years-contribution_b_6396074.html?utm_hp_ref=gay-voices&ir=Gay+Voices

Newspaper Tweets, Deletes Aaron Rodgers Penis Joke Just In Time For Everyone To Take A Screen-Shot

Newspaper Tweets, Deletes Aaron Rodgers Penis Joke Just In Time For Everyone To Take A Screen-Shot

The St. Paul Pioneer Press ran a story Tuesday about the good luck charm of Packers’ quarterback Aaron Rodgers — the beard of a sideline technician. Rodgers is known to give it a little yank for good luck during games. OK, fun little fluff piece.

But whoever is running the Press’ Twitter feed didn’t think the story was quite fun enough, and went ahead and posted this gem:

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The post was quickly deleted, and the Press offered blogger Romanesko this defense:

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If anyone lost their job over the Tweet, be sure to get in touch with us. There’s got to be a place for you at Queerty.

h/t: Deadspin

Dan Tracer

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Dan Savage: Prosecute Transgender Teen Leelah Alcorn's Parents for Abuse

Dan Savage: Prosecute Transgender Teen Leelah Alcorn's Parents for Abuse

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Yesterday we reported on the tragic suicide of Leelah Alcorn, a transgender teen who took her own life by walking in front of a truck near her home in Cincinnati on Sunday (full story here).

Alcorn’s death, suggested to be an accident by her mother Carla Wood Alcorn on Facebook, was revealed to be a suicide after a note Leelah wrote appeared on a Tumblr account. The note also detailed the issues she faced due to her parents’ intolerance.

Alcorn’s parents, who had taken her to a Christian therapist because she sought to begin transitioning when she turned 16, removed her from high school and confiscated her laptop after she then came out to them as gay, cutting off her contact from the rest of the world.

The story is now getting national attention and friends are speaking out about Alcorn.

DavisChris Davis, a childhood friend of Alcorn’s, discusses the teen’s struggles with WCPO (referring to her with a male pronoun):

“One day he finally posted on Facebook, ‘Hey, I’m coming out. This is me. This is who I am. Everybody was like, ‘Yeah man, this is great.’ He came to school and everyone gave him massive support. Occasionally he’d tell me, ‘Oh, I feel like I’m something else or I’m someone else,’ and wouldn’t go too far with it. I feel like it was something that was really personal to him that maybe he didn’t tell anybody about because he was nervous about it.”

Watch the interview, AFTER THE JUMP

Others are speaking out as well. Activist and anti-bullying advocate Dan Savage is calling for Alcorn’s parents to be prosecuted for abuse:

If Tyler Clemente’s roommate could be prosecuted—and he was—then the parents of #LeelahAlcorn can & should be: t.co/VC1W4wCQ7k

— Dan Savage (@fakedansavage) December 31, 2014

It risks incentivizing suicide—take revenge on hateful parents by killing yourself—but an example needs 2 be made of #LeelahAlcorn‘s parents

— Dan Savage (@fakedansavage) December 31, 2014

We know that parental hostility & rejection doubles a queer kid’s already quadrupled risk of suicide—rejecting your queer kid is abuse.

— Dan Savage (@fakedansavage) December 31, 2014

#LeelahAlcorn‘s parents threw her in front of that truck. They should be ashamed—but 1st they need to be shamed. Charges should be brought.

— Dan Savage (@fakedansavage) December 31, 2014

The “Christian therapists” who counseled #LeelahAlcorn should also be charged. pic.twitter.com/UrxJFuI2jq

— Dan Savage (@fakedansavage) December 31, 2014

Marriage Equality Ohio is holding a vigil for Alcorn on January 3 at Kings High School in Cincinnati.


Andy Towle

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Film Review: <i>Two Mothers</i> or 'How Do Lesbian Birds Make Babies?'

Film Review: <i>Two Mothers</i> or 'How Do Lesbian Birds Make Babies?'
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“How do lesbian birds make babies?”

“They don’t.”

“Are you sure?”

Such is the conversation between Katja (Sabine Wolf) and Isa (Karina Plachetka), two middleclass German women in their late 30s who are happily wed and now want to go one step further: motherhood.

Anne Zohra Berrached’s Two Mothers (Zwei Mütter) engagingly chronicles the duo’s obstacle-strewn journey, which is based upon the actual experiences of several lesbian couples identified in the end credits. Adding to the reality is the casting of many of the subsidiary characters (doctors, sperm donors, a pharmacist) with their real life counterparts. For example, Dr. Marten Van Santen is portrayed by Dr. Marten Van Santen, and very convincing he is.

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Commencing in the first few minutes with tender lovemaking, the film quickly changes focus and concentrates on Isa’s fruitless phone calls to various sperm banks everywhere from Munich to Hamburg. Apparently, while Germany has sanctioned “registered life partnerships” for same-sex couples (Eingetragene Lebenspartnerschaft) since 2001, full marital unions have still not been legalized. Although approaching an evenhandedness in most areas, some rights are still not completely in the grasp of gay couples. So it is with artificial insemination for the LGBTQ crowd, which the screenplay claims is only administered by five to six doctors across the country. After locating an MD who will service lesbians, the not-affluent Katja and Isa discover they must also meet financial requirements that do not apply to heterosexual couples.

Finally, an amenable physician is found, and the costly treatments begin. Eleven inseminations and many months later, the relentless Isa, who will be the birth mother, is still barren, but she’s not the only one distraught. Increasingly, Katja is stressing out about how both the financial and emotional costs of this tot-trek are affecting their once perfect relationship. For example, in the kitchen, perusing Isa’s shopping bag, she notices over a half dozen pregnancy tests and only one cucumber.

Isa finally does come around, acknowledging the economics of their situation. Forced to entertain a less certain fertility route, she enters an apothecary and states, “I’m looking for something that can inject sperm into the vagina.” The woman at the counter showcases several syringes and then recommends that Isa see a veterinarian.

Instead, a home impregnation kit is purchased, and the couple sign onto a sperm donator web site. Now the interviews begin with a motley group of candidates, some who desire to directly ejaculate into Isa as opposed to into a jar. Worse, some of the more desirable applicants insist on becoming part of the forthcoming child’s life if one of their spermatozoa unites with an egg of Isa’s.

“I want to be the daddy,” Katja murmurs. Stepping into Ingmar Bergman territory, Katja begins withdrawing. What role will she play if Isa is the mother and a man shows up every once in awhile claiming to be the father? And what about the vacations she and Isa used to take — and the hugging and loving that are deteriorating a bit with Isa’s ascent/descent into motherhood.

Splendidly acted, Two Mothers is a brisk 75-minute, matter-of-fact look into the inevitable risks of complete assimilation into what was once considered a “heterosexual” lifestyle. With marriage comes the possibility of divorce. With children comes the possibility of an ebbing intimateness. Yes, there are also the joys, the Legos, the hugs, the anniversaries, and the family trips to the Black Forest and Disneyland Paris, but that would be another film.

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(Available January 13th on DVD. Available for preorder.)

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Matt Barber: 'Non-Discrimination Policies Are Discriminatory Against Christians'

Matt Barber: 'Non-Discrimination Policies Are Discriminatory Against Christians'

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Matt Barber is outraged after San Jose State University’s InterVarsity Christian Fellowship chapter lost its’ status as an officially recognized campus organization after refusing to comply with the school’s non-discrimination policies reports Right Wing WatchBarber went so far as to say on the Faith and Freedom radio program that not allowing Christians to discriminate against gays is, itself, discrimination against Christians.

Said Barber:

“It’s an excuse to discriminate against Christians … That’s all it is and it’s stupid. It’s just plain stupid. Imagine going to the African American organization on your campus and saying that you have to allow an open, avowed white supremacist as the leader of this African American organization, maybe a student branch of the NAACP. That is no different than what we are talking about here, but because it’s Christians, and this is the truth, really the last group here in the United States that is fair game, that is an open target for discrimination such as this are Christians.”

You can listen to Barber’s nonsense, if you can stomach it, AFTER THE JUMP

 


Anthony Costello

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