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Supreme Court To Hear Four Cases Challenging Same-Sex Marriage Bans In KY, MI, OH and TN

Supreme Court To Hear Four Cases Challenging Same-Sex Marriage Bans In KY, MI, OH and TN

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The Supreme Court has announced that it will consider four cases that are challenging states’ bans on same-sex marriage in Kentucky, Michigan, Ohio and Tennessee. From the Court’s order:

The cases are consolidated and the petitions for writs of certiorari are granted limited to the following questions:

1) Does the Fourteenth Amendment require a state to license a marriage between two people of the same sex?

2) Does the Fourteenth Amendment require a state to recognize a marriage between two people of the same sex when their marriage was lawfully licensed and performed out-of-state?

A total of ninety minutes is allotted for oral argument on Question 1. A total of one hour is allotted for oral argument on Question 2. The parties are limited to filing briefs on the merits and presenting oral argument on the questions presented in their respective petitions. The briefs of petitioners are to be filed on or before 2 p.m., Friday, February 27, 2015. The briefs of respondents are to be filed on or before 2 p.m., Friday, March 27, 2015. The reply briefs are to be filed on or before 2 p.m., Friday, April 17, 2015.

SCOTUS Blog reports that the cases are set to be heard the week of April 24. Lyle Deniston of SCOTUS Blog weighed in on the impact the justices’ decisions will have:

Taking on a historic constitutional challenge with wide cultural impact, the Supreme Court on Friday afternoon agreed to hear four ne cases on same-sex marriage.   The Court said it would rule on state power to ban gay and lesbian marriage and state power to refuse to recognize such marriages performed out of state.  A total of one hour of ninety minutes for the hearings, likely in the April sitting.

The New York Times has heralded the decision as a move by the court to definitively decide whether same-sex couples can marry nationwide:

The pace of change on same-sex marriage, in both popular opinion and in the courts, has no parallel in the nation’s history.

Based on the court’s failure to act in October [when 5 other states sought intervention from the Court to prevent same-sex marriage from taking hold] and its last three major gay rights rulings, most observers expect the court to establish a nationwide constitutional right to same-sex marriage. But the court also has a history of caution in this area.

It agreed once before to hear a constitutional challenge to a same-sex marriage ban, in 2012 in a case called Hollingsworth v. Perry that involved California’s Proposition 8. At the time, nine states and the District of Columbia allowed same-sex couples to marry.

Be sure to check back for legal analysis from Towleroad’s legal eagle, Ari Ezra Waldman. And read the order below:

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Sean Mandell

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Learning to Love My Selfie: Confessions of a Supposedly Psychopathic, Narcissistic Gay Man

Learning to Love My Selfie: Confessions of a Supposedly Psychopathic, Narcissistic Gay Man
I probably post more selfies to social-media accounts than the average male. According to a recent study this would indicate that I may be more inclined toward psychopathic and narcissistic tendencies with a dash of self-objectification thrown in for good measure. I suppose that’s fine by me, considering that, not so long ago, I despised the face staring back in the mirror.

When I created my online dating profile seven years ago, I posted one picture. It was the only one that I liked. The angle covered up a bad haircut, and the close-lipped smile hid my crooked teeth. I had just come out as gay, so I didn’t have many photos for which I had spent any time choosing body-conscious clothing, standing in the best light or angling my face so that my jaw line appeared stronger. For most of my life, I had been too frightened that doing any those things would reveal my secret.

Years of living in the closet can destroy any sense of self-confidence. When I looked at my face, all that I could see were the flaws. The eyes were like slivers, the chin was too weak, and the furrows that lined my forehead were like the deepened ruts of a muddy country road. The landscape of my face was as unappealing to me as the workings of my heart. When you’re convinced that what you’re feeling on the inside is ugly, it has a way of bubbling up.

But then I met a man who liked the shape of my face. He had the type of rugged good looks that are appealing in any light, which was both a blessing and a curse. It can be confusing to love someone’s handsome face and feel envious of it and insecure about it at the same time.

I thought he was either foolish or blind when he first told me I’m good-looking. But, day after day, he continued to repeat it until, eventually, it became a routine.

“What’s your job?” he would ask whenever I offered up some piece of dubious advice.

“To sit here and look pretty,” I’d reply.

“And what a good job you’re doing,” he’d smile.

Amusing as it was, it worked. His daily affirmations allowed me to see something I had never seen before. After 40-odd years, I finally became comfortable with and — I’ll admit it — appreciative of the way I look. When this handsome man made a promise that my face would be the first one he would wake up to every morning and the last one he would kiss every night, something amazing happened. My reflection in the mirror, or my image as seen through the front-facing lens of a smartphone, became more of what he saw and less of what I hated.

So I take more selfies than most men, and that’s a big deal, but not because I value my looks more than I value my soul. It’s quite the opposite. The happiness I have finally achieved on the inside has bubbled up to the surface. You can call me psychopathic and narcissistic if you want, because labels don’t define me anymore. After so many years of unhappy pictures taken by others, I’ll make a record of my own face, because the beauty I see on the outside has finally replaced the ugliness that was inside.

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William Dameron’s personal blog is The Authentic Life.

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Reflection: Supporters of Equality Gather in Cincinnati to Honor Leelah Alcorn

Reflection: Supporters of Equality Gather in Cincinnati to Honor Leelah Alcorn

Nearly 600 supporters of equality, regional leaders, and local and national press gathered at the Woodward Theater in downtown Cincinnati to honor Leelah Alcorn and hear from members of their Trans* community.
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Yes, Your Penis Is Shrinking. Deal With It.

Yes, Your Penis Is Shrinking. Deal With It.

man-covering-crotch-3“We don’t have much data on adult male penis size from 60 years ago, despite Alfred Kinsey’s efforts,” Dr. Phil Hammond (not to be confused with Oprah‘s Dr. Phil) writes in a new op-ed dedicated entirely to the subject of penile shrinkage. “However what we do know is that men are living a lot longer and carrying more weight than they used to. Sixty years ago, half of us died before the age of 65. Now one in three of us live to 100.”

So what does this mean, exactly? (For our penises, we mean.)

Well, as Hammond puts it, “many of us are having to carry our penises around for another 30 years or more.”

Naturally, as things get older, they wear out. You see it all the time. Cars stop running. Clothing falls apart. Relationships splinter and decay.

Dongs are no exception.

According to Hammond, “the older penis droops more, just as all parts of the body seem to hang down lower, but it doesn’t always stand up and swell like it used to and so may appear smaller.”

“Drugs like Viagra can help a failing erection,” he continues, “as can a cock ring. Indeed, any penis is capable of expanding hugely if it has enough blood in it.”

But beware those cock rings, fellas! Too much use can actually cause your penis to turn black and maybe fall off.

“A cock ring stops the blood escaping but you should never have it on for more than half an hour and always choose one with handles,” Hammond advises. “If you just put the ring on, you might not get it off again. It swells up like a wedding ring on a septic finger, and eventually turns black.”

Yikes!

But it’s not just droopage that causes the penis to appear a different shape or size. Bellies, too, can make your pecker look smaller by swallowing it up in fat.

“A big belly makes your penis look smaller,” Hammond explains, “and if you can’t see it at all when you look down you need to get a grip quickly. You’re at high risk of type two diabetes and arterial disease, which can also affect the frequency and firmness of your erections.”

The bottom line, Hammond says, is that “a good erection is a sign of good physical and mental health.”

But don’t worry too much about it. Most likely your wiener will be just fine. And even if it does droop or shrink as you approach your golden years, don’t let the bastard get you down.

“Creativity, love, laughter, soap and good communication are much faster route to a happy love life than six months alone in the dark with a penis enlarger,” Hammond says. “Trust me.”

Related stories:

Man Reveals The Good And Bad About Having An Unusually Small Penis

A Lot Of Men Are Unhappy With Their Penis Size, So Here’s What Can Be Done About It

Amazing New Technology Allows Guys To Photograph Their Penises In 3D

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Adam Lambert Recreates His 'American Idol' Audition, Announces New Album: VIDEO

Adam Lambert Recreates His 'American Idol' Audition, Announces New Album: VIDEO

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Adam Lambert’s American Idol story has come full circle: from nervous audition-er to “superstar” judge. While shooting a round of auditions with Harry Connick Jr. and Jennifer Lopez for the upcoming season of the popular singing contest, Connick asked Lambert if he would be willing to recreate his original audition for the show from season 8. The current Queen frontman originally auditioned with the Queen uber classic, “Bohemian Rhapsody.” Foreshadowing of things to come. Lambert took Connick’s challenge and delivered a pitch perfect performance even better than his original.

Watch, AFTER THE JUMP…

Lambert has also just announced a new album that marks the beginning of a partnership with Warner Bros. music. Said Warner Bros. CEO Cameron Strang of his decision to sign Lambert after Lambert left RCA

“The potential is worldwide superstar. He has fans all over the world. He’s he’s got one of the great voices and he’s coming into his own as a person and as a man. He more comfortable with himself and his artistic vision of himself and I think there’s a confidence and a freedom that comes with having made more than one record.”

Lambert’s new album will see him re-team with Swedish pop god Max Martin (“Baby One More Time”) and Shellback, who together gave Lambert the hits “Whataya Want From Me” and “If I Had You” off his debut album “For Your Entertainment.” 

Lambert told Billboard that this new album feels like a departure for him: “The album feels like a new era for me — emotionally, lyrically, sonically. It feels fresh, it feels new. It’s still me. It’s still stuff that fans know and love but it’s a new chapter 100 percent.”

The first single is due out in April.


Sean Mandell

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Social Media Might Actually Help Women Deal With Stress

Social Media Might Actually Help Women Deal With Stress
By: Elizabeth Palermo, LiveScience Staff Writer
Published: 01/15/2015 10:56 AM EST on LiveScience

Face it, ladies: your DIY projects rarely turn out like the ones you see on Pinterest, and your Facebook posts aren’t universally “liked.” But a new survey suggests that despite such woes, social networking is still good for you.

The survey found that women who frequently use social media, along with other technologies, to connect with friends and family report feeling less stressed than women who connect less often.

The researchers at Rutgers University in New Jersey and the Pew Research Center in Washington, D.C., found that women who frequently email, text and use social media scored 21 percent lower on a test that measures stress than women who don’t use these technologies. [Photo Future: 7 High-Tech Ways to Share Images]

The survey’s findings add a new dimension to discussions about the psychological effects of social media. In recent years, frequent use of sites like Facebook and Twitter has been linked to a host of negative outcomes — from narcissist personality disorder to self-destructive behavior. Some attention has also been paid to the connection between social media and stress, with articles in the Huffington Post and Psych Central linking use of social media sites with higher levels of stress and anxiety.

However, claims that social media and other technologies increase stress aren’t well supported by scientific data, said Keith Hampton, an associate professor of communications at Rutgers and lead author of the new survey.

“We were interested in testing the common assumption that social media use — or the use of the Internet or mobile technology — is related to stress,” Hampton told Live Science. “The way that most [researchers] have done this in the past is to ask people if they feel stressed when they use Facebook. But it’s difficult to compare an answer to that question to answers from people who don’t use this technology, or use it less.”

To get a clearer picture of how stress and social media are related, Hampton and his fellow researchers asked about 1,800 people to complete the Perceived Stress Scale (PSS), a widely used instrument for measuring how people perceive stress in their daily lives. The PSS doesn’t measure whether or not certain technologies cause stress; it just asks general questions about the stress that someone has felt over the past month.

After completing the PSS, participants completed another survey related to their use of digital technologies and social media. They were asked which technologies they used and how often, as well as questions related to how many friends or followers they had in different social networks.

“What we found was that, for most people, there’s no relationship between how much they use these technologies or how many Facebook friends they have and their stress,” Hampton said. The only exception was for women who use these social technologies compared to those who don’t, he added.

The cost of caring

The researchers didn’t find evidence to support the popular hypothesis that we’d all be less stressed out if we quit Facebook and stopped responding to email. However, they did find that sometimes, when the conditions are right, the use of certain technologies can lead to higher levels of stress — especially for women.

Although the women who frequently used technology generally had lower stress levels, they were still much more aware of stressful events that occur in the lives of close friends and acquaintances than people who rarely or never use digital technology, the survey found. For example, technology users are more likely to know if someone in their circle has lost a child or a spouse, if a friend got a divorce or if a former co-worker lost his job.

“Other researchers have previously found that when you know about unfortunate things happening to your friends and family [members], it results in more stress for you. In that way, stress is contagious,” Hampton said.

Social media and other digital technologies are designed to keep people up to speed on what’s going on in other peoples’ lives, including these kinds of stressful events. People who use these technologies more are therefore more likely to “catch” stress from others than people who don’t use social technologies, Hampton said. [11 Tips to Lower Stress]

“And women are much more aware of the stressful things that are happening in other peoples’ lives [than men are], which makes them much more susceptible to that kind of contagious stress,” Hampton said.

The researchers found that four stress-inducing events in the lives of others can cause women to report higher levels of stress in their own lives. Women who were aware that someone close to them had experienced the death of a child, partner or spouse scored 14 percent higher on the PSS, for example. And women who knew that a close friend was seriously injured reported 5 percent higher stress in their own lives. Women who knew someone who had been accused of or arrested for a crime, or someone who had been demoted at work, also scored higher on the PSS.

Only two stressful events in the lives of others predicted higher levels of stress in men. Men who had close friends or family members accused of or arrested for a crime scored 15 percent higher on the PSS. Those who had an acquaintance who got demoted at work reported 12 percent higher stress.

The higher incidence of stress among the subset of technology users who are aware of stressful events in the lives of others is something that Hampton and his colleagues call “the cost of caring.”

“You can use these technologies and, as a woman, it’s probably going to be beneficial for your level of stress. But every now and then, bad things are going to happen to people you know, and there’s going to be a cost for that,” Hampton said.

Lee Rainie, the director of Internet, science and technology research at Pew Research Center, put it a bit differently.

“This is the ultimate story of technology. There are enormous benefits that come from it, and sometimes there are really significant social costs,” Rainie told Live Science. “It’s never either/or, never good or bad entirely.”

The full report outlining the survey results can be accessed online at the Pew Research Center’s Internet Project homepage.

Follow Elizabeth Palermo @techEpalermo. Follow Live Science @livescience, Facebook & Google+. Original article on Live Science.

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Pope Francis: Gay Marriage Threatens To Make Family 'Disposable'

Pope Francis: Gay Marriage Threatens To Make Family 'Disposable'

6a00d8341c730253ef01bb07ada0e5970d-250wiSpeaking in Manila, the Philippines, Pope Francis made no qualms about his and the Catholic Church’s opposition to same-sex marriage. The remarks were Francis’ clearest and least progressive on the subject since he ascended to the Papacy in March 2013. Not only did Francis speak of the need to uphold and protect “traditional marriage”, criticizing attempts to redefine it, he also cautioned against the threat of moral relativism and against “Malthusian” attempts to alter the Church’s position on birth control. Crux Now reports:

 “The family is threatened by growing efforts on the part of some to redefine the very institution of marriage, by relativism, by the culture of the ephemeral, by a lack of openness to life,” Francis said.

A Vatican spokesman confirmed Friday evening that, at least in part, the pope had gay marriage in mind.

In November, Francis commented that the heterosexual binary of marriage is “an anthropological fact … that cannot be qualified based on ideological notions or concepts important only at one time in history.”

Francis’ statement in the Philippines follows his remarks less than a week ago in which he criticized “legislation which benefits various forms of cohabitation rather than adequately supporting the family for the welfare of society as a whole.” In Francis’ eyes, this type of legislation marks the family as being “disposable.”

While some, including us here at Towleroad, have speculated as to whether Pope Francis is eyeing a more progressive stance on homosexuality and gay marriage, inspired no doubt by some of the Pope’s more conciliatory remarks towards the LGBT community, the Pope’s most recent statements all seem to be aimed at shutting down any speculation that he, and by extension the Vatican, is considering a dramatic change in dogma when it comes to sexual relations between people of the same gender. 

Crux sums it up nicely:

There was a widespread assumption at the time that Francis was backing the progressive side in that argument, leading to speculation in some conservative Catholic circles that the pontiff had stacked the deck to favor certain outcomes.

In light of the pope’s comments in the Philippines, those conclusions may have to be rethought.


Sean Mandell

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One-Person Shows To See Off (And Off Off) Broadway This Month

One-Person Shows To See Off (And Off Off) Broadway This Month
Off Broadway plays can get really weird. Like, watermelon-being-smashed-to-bits-on-stage weird. So when the basic Broadway lineup starts to feel tired, it can be difficult to navigate theater options that extend beyond seeing “Wicked” for the fourth time. Here to help you avoid being needlessly splattered with fresh fruit, we bring you the January edition of our monthly roundup of Off and Off Off Broadway shows.

“Every Brilliant Thing”
Great For: Sentimental list-makers or just anyone with a pulse / who likes ice cream

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“Every Brilliant Things” is like what would happen if the sweetest and most sentimental feeling you ever had turned into a pot-bellied British man and produced a low-budget show. Jonny Donahue has turned the square Barrow Street space into interactive theater in the round. As the audience fills the seats — multiple rows of which are now on stage — he hands out scraps of paper (and at least one piece of bubble wrap) with items from his narrator’s list of “Every Brilliant Thing” worth living for.

The unnamed central character (played by Donahue) begins the story as a seven-year-old boy, who writes the list for his mother after she tries to take her life. As he moves into adolescence and then adulthood, experiencing his own bouts of depression, the list grows, ultimately blooming into new meaning. It sounds a bit simple weepy written out like that. And there are no promises you won’t cry. Yet, under all the shameless sentimentality that comes with calling out wonderful things on the backdrop of such dark subject matter is a raw truth about the way we handle suicide, and a sense of boundless optimism that could melt even the heart of that miserable prick who stepped on your foot on the subway last week.

In performances until March 29 at Barrow Street Theater.

“Bridget Everett’s Rock Bottom”
Great For: Sexually liberated winos covered in glitter

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In “Rock Bottom,” the oft nipple-bearing Bridget Everett has reached her peak form: goddess of body positivity and also cunnilingus. For reference, this is a woman who makes Rebel Wilson look shy and “Girls” seem like a daytime special on PBS. She bursts out of the curtain no less than 30 minutes after showtime, having chosen a brown-bagged bottle of Chardonnay as a more crucial accessory than a bra.

Things get pretty dirty as Everett moves through 12 songs about sex, abortion, rape culture and more sex, with the accompaniment of “Hairspray” composer Marc Shaiman on the piano. To clarify, here “dirty” means “seriously, at one point, she made two different men lick whipped cream off her inner thigh.” But what we see in “Rock Bottom” is not just gross-out over-sharing. Everett has a powerhouse voice and a sex positive feminist worldview that she will shove in your face along with her glorious bosom. If you get bored during this show, you might actually be dead.

In performances until Feb. 20 at Joe’s Pub at The Public.

“Bad With Money”
Great For: Predatory lenders who know all the words to “Life Is Just A Bowl Of Cherries

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Ben Rimalower’s “Bad With Money” is best described as a David Sedaris reading, if David Sedaris was sluttier and felt more of a direct kinship with Judy Garland based on alcoholism and crushing debt. As a largely autobiographical show (which essentially just consists of Rimalower in front of a microphone), “Bad With Money” starts out feeling a lot like vaguely narrative, early 2000s standup. Although, soon the threads of his stories of spending too much, saving too little and rarely paying people back form a tapestry that includes prostitution, addiction and a tragic ending that make the telegraphed jokes from the first few minutes seem lightyears away. Rimalower is witty and cunning in a way that will make you never lend anyone cash ever again.

In performances until Feb. 26 at The Duplex.

“Winners And Losers”
Great For: Banter-y Canadians who aren’t picky about one-man shows containing two men

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This one either doesn’t count or counts as twofer on this list. “Winners And Losers” is a two-man show that uses bantering as art in the way is only possible with a deceptive amount of practice and a symbiotic collaborative relationship. Over the course of 90 minutes, stars and writers Marcus Youssef and James Long mix about 80% scripted content with 20% improv in the made-up titular game. They discuss everything from microwaves to ISIS, declaring them winners or losers, and eventually de-evolve into a cutting takedown of one another within broader structures of privilege and power. Pretty quick, smart stuff here. Kind of like watching Seth Rogen and James Franco trying to impress each other, if Seth Rogen and James Franco were meaner, middle-aged and slightly less homophobic.

In performances until Feb. 2 at Soho Rep.

“The Accidental Pervert”
Great For: 13-year-old boys with limited Internet access

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This show is such horrific garbage, even the aforementioned 13 year olds might consider it uninspired. Let’s be clear. The general terribleness doesn’t come from a place of basic offensiveness. You don’t see a show with “pervert” in the title not expecting to be made at least slightly uneasy. What Andrew Goffman does on stage is essentially the equivalent of him masturbating while shouting out lazy puns (“I grew up in Blue Ball, Pennsylvania, it’s about six minutes away from Intercourse … PA”) and repeatedly asking the audience, “Do you get it?!” Actually, the show might be better if Goffman did jerk off on stage, because at least that would be new and different. “The Accidental Pervert” is like a two-hour long prodding elbow to the ribs. Really, the only thing about it that is “accidental” is the choice to see it in the first place.

In performances at The 13th Street Repertory Company Theater.

Some Good Shows That Are Still Playing From Previous Roundups:

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