Donald Trump Takes a Day to Get Up To Speed on Kim Davis
Donald Trump leads polls in the race for president, but he was among the last to respond to news about Kim Davis.
Lucas Grindley
www.advocate.com/politics/election/2015/09/04/donald-trump-takes-day-get-speed-kim-davis
Call Me Caitlyn. Sincerely, Miss Ross.
“Well what did you expect? It’s reality TV,” a few people said once I hit Twitter after watching the I Am Cait, “Road Trip Part 1” episode. Maintaining my skepticism, I said yes to appearing on the show because I expected more from Caitlyn, who professed that this would be different, not just your ordinary reality show, but a docu-series. Caitlyn kept saying “I want to get this right.” She seemed earnest and genuine, and I trusted her. However, I believe a combination of Caitlyn being soaking wet behind the ears in lived trans experience, as well as the sense of separateness she displays between her and the rest of the community that led to such a gross misuse of power and privilege as an Executive Producer of her own show. Overall, I would characterize I Am Cait as a “missed opportunity.”
@angelicaross I worry that E! & the producers of #IamCait are not the best fit to tell this story w/nuance.
— Joyce P. (@jtp4evr) August 3, 2015
Our conversation with Cait spanned over two episodes, with the start of the conversation being a cliffhanger to tune in next week. Although the title under my name on the screen read “CEO of TransTech Social Enterprises,” my story and my experience as a black trans woman founding a startup tech company focused on improving the economic landscape and overall well-being of the trans community was completely erased from the show. The full conversation was nuanced, but ultimately what I said about TransTech and what we do was left on the cutting room floor. What the producers ended up using highlighted my life and work in past tense as I explained, “I felt like I would never in my life choose to do sex work, but after being fired from so many jobs what other choice did I have?”
My first response was “no.” I had no interest in appearing on I Am Cait. After the Diane Sawyer interview aired, media outlets asked for my opinion, but I didn’t have one because I had not bothered to watch the interview. I, along with many other trans people, were contacted by the media to comment on Jenner before we even knew if she was in fact transitioning or what we would even call her. Soon, the Vanity Fair cover story hit the stands and she had spoken for herself: “Call Me Caitlyn.” Even then, I still exercised caution when called to comment on Jenner’s story. Media is a double edged sword and has the power to change hearts and minds through authentic storytelling, as well as the power to paint a person, or an entire community in a dim and misleading light.
“Would you consider being on Caitlyn Jenner’s reality show?” Jen asks me over the phone. It had only been a few months since my best friend, Jen Richards, and I vacated our Chicago apartment for opposite coasts. Jen moved to L.A. with our dog, Mia, and I moved to D.C. We were scheduled to see each next in May to film a new media series she co-wrote with Laura Zak called, Her Story. Jen wrote a part tailored for me as, “a driven, top attorney who projects an image of composure and success, while tending to mask her vulnerability with her ambition.” My friend was telling my story as well as her own to challenge our ideas and assumptions about being women and being trans. Jen’s intersectional perspective would prove to the most valuable asset to I Am Cait, and the reason I eventually said yes to appearing on the show.
Jen and I talked about the opportunity it would give me to talk about why I started TransTech, and the work we’re doing providing trans people with solutions and opportunities to save themselves from drowning in the debt of transition. Being trans comes at a high cost, but being black and trans can cost you your life.
Every hour of every day for me is occupied with juggling the challenges of building a social enterprise that addresses the unemployment epidemic in the trans community without the access to a big budget or donors with deep pockets. I often hear Renée Zellweger in my head from Jerry Maguire shouting, “Do you know (she) is working for you for free?! And she’s broke! Broke, broke, broke!” As the founding CEO, I write checks weekly to trans and gender non conforming workers, yet I still am not able to draw a salary for myself. I get by mostly on speaking engagements, but as soon as I try to pay myself, I end up having to give it back to the business to cover operating expenses or other unplanned costs.
I left my salaried job one year ago, aware of many of the challenges I would soon face, but I have yet to fully speak on why I really left my job to launch TransTech Social Enterprises. I badly wanted to speak out, but could not afford anything that would feed the angry black woman narrative so I cried in silence instead. For months, I floated by on a life raft made of food stamps and support from friends like Jen Richards who covered the rent until I could pay her back and Precious Davis, a friend and fellow educator and activist who told me to take the time to heal and listened to me cry out loud.
Before saying yes to appearing on I am Cait, I finally watched the Diane Sawyer interview. I was moved by the interview and Caitlyn’s apparent earnestness and believed her when she said, “I want to do this right.” I agreed to come to San Francisco to meet and talk with Caitlyn on camera with a few other trans women of color and folks from HRC. As the CEO of TransTech, I have been developing a partnership with HRC who has given me private office space in D.C. to not only expand our mission in connecting the trans community to more resources and employment opportunities, but also to repair a bridge that had been burned between the trans community and HRC, which has long been thought of as a “White Man’s club.”
I Am Cait would air in 123 countries and 24 different languages. Technology has flattened a world where trans people are demanding their rights in the U.S. and abroad. TransTech Social Enterprises is here to empower, educate and employ them no matter where they are. I could not turn down an opportunity for global exposure that our efforts alone might not have ever afforded us.
Caitlyn and the crew traveled to San Francisco to meet with me and HRC Staff. In the scene leading up to our conversation, Jen Richards warned Caitlyn that the women she was about to meet are, “survivors of violence because they are trans, but we don’t want to reduce them to these traumas.” However, in the very next scene that is exactly what happens. Jen goes on to say, “They are so much more than these things that they suffered,” but from the editing the viewers at home would never know that Laya is an incredibly talented Muralist and Artist, that Chandi works with trans women of color directly helping them navigate a myriad of challenges in Los Angeles and that I founded a tech social enterprise focused on educating, employing and empowering trans people to become their own heroes and authors of their own success stories. All these things were discussed but not depicted on I Am Cait.
You all have no idea. There could have been a full hour of the brilliance @angelicaross shared there. They better show more. #IAmCait
— Jen Richards (@SmartAssJen) August 3, 2015
As we sat down for our conversation at the HRC store in San Francisco, there was a palpable sense of sisterhood in the air, Cait included. We began sharing our stories and together shed light on the systems of oppression that impacts trans people, but more acutely affects trans women of color. I felt seduced into a false sense of safety in opening up for the cameras and sharing our stories. After all, I knew most of the people there way before the show.
After months of being silenced by a non-disclosure agreement, my excitement and anticipation to finally see the conversation on television turned into me feeling hurt and further silenced by the end of the episode. My story — and the story of TransTech — had been truncated down to the fact that I had once been involved with sex work. Tons of media outlets were publishing recaps of the show the next day. The LA Times writes:
“She (Caitlyn) hears from one woman who’s been transitioning since age 19 and wound up as a sex worker after being trans got her fired from four jobs. And then it’s time to hear from Blossom Brown, who’s not about to hold back.”
In that LA Times recap of I am Cait episode 2, the writer begins to name ALL of the trans women who appear on screen in the order that they appear, and summarizing their contribution to the show. But, when it came to talking about me, the writer says Caitlyn “hears from one woman” not from Angelica Ross CEO of TransTech Social Enterprises. Because if they had mentioned my name and title then it would not have made sense to say that I “wound up a sex worker,” when to be more accurate, I wound up a CEO and so much more. A basic google search would tell you that.
I spoke about @TransTechSocial, employing trans people, being a black trans CEO, but they only showed me speaking on sex work #IamCait…ok.
— Angelica Ross (@angelicaross) August 10, 2015
I was asked to appear on the show to talk about TransTech and how we’re using technology to economically empower the trans community. After watching that episode I was disappointed that I was only seen speaking about sex work when that is not why I was asked to be there, but something told me to reserve my commentary until I had seen the rest of the conversation in next week’s episode.
At the top of “Road Trip Part 2”, Episode 3, I was the first voice to speak saying, “A lot of people who want to be seen as heroes and want to save our community…” and the camera then cuts to Caitlyn looking a little overwhelmed, as I continue saying, “they want these kind of direct, wrap a bow around it, now this person is all better and they have a job,” followed by the rest of the girls chiming into what is starting to sound like an argument. The true reality is that sound bite was cut out from another part of the conversation where I was explaining what TransTech does and how it’s different from what other organizations are claiming to be doing for the trans community.
The editors then make it seem like Chandi is coming to Caitlyn’s defense when she says, “We made it clear to Caitlyn that a lot of girls are going to be jaded,” as the camera cuts to a silent closeup of my face as a visual backdrop while Chandi is speaking. Chandi continues to explain, “…Jaded because the things that Caitlyn has been able to achieve in a few months, some of them will never achieve those things their whole entire life.” During this part of the show, the camera cut to me a total of 8 times not saying a word.
When I first saw the episode with Chandi talking and the camera cutting to me, I thought, Alright girl, you look sickening! But, after the eighth closeup, I felt silenced — a feeling all too common for trans women of color.
Moreover, the show’s editing pits trans women of color against each other. I spoke with Chandi after the episode aired and she spoke the warmest encouraging words to me. She had also hoped that the editors would not turn our words against each other, but acknowledged that is how it appeared. As trans women of color our intersectional identities as black women face us with the challenge of being portrayed as angry black women. At no time during the filming of those episodes was I angry, not at any of the other trans women, and certainly not at Caitlyn. Actually, I laughed, teared up and snapped my fingers encouraging my sisters to speak the truth. What you were really seeing was a group of women passionate about the change they want to see in our world and speaking about a system and not about individuals.
I want to take this opportunity to hold Caitlyn Jenner responsible as an Executive Producer for the editing and misuse of her new found power. The first step to dismantling a system of oppression is recognizing your role in its perpetuation. This is a step we all have to take regardless of race or ethnicity. If Caitlyn wishes to be a part of the solution, then she must be willing to examine the ways she has contributed to the problem. The way “The Road Trip” episodes parts 1 and 2 were edited, were just some of the ways she is contributing to the problem. I urge Caitlyn to retreat from the “White Savior” narrative. As trans women of color we are capable of saving ourselves if given the tools.
Blossom messaged me well before the show aired, saying that she didn’t know what she was going to do and that she needed $800 in order to pay for her summer courses. Maybe Caitlyn’s offer hadn’t been finalized by then, but Blossom asked if I would donate and share her fundraiser. Not only did I donate, along with HRC and a few others, but I told Laverne Cox about Blossom’s struggles and story; how she was a straight A student who needed help paying for college. Soon after Laverne retweeted my tweet, and a few hours later Blossom’s fundraising campaign was fulfilled.
Believe me when I tell you that I walked away from the experience also inspired by Blossom and her hard work and dedication in school, but I also recognize the White Savior narrative when I see it. The editors even go the extra step to make it seem like Jen Richards is wiping tears when hearing Blossoms story. Jen and I now laugh about it, but you can tell that Jen is actually getting emotional about something I am speaking about. The editors forget to cut my moving hands out of the frame. People who have seen me speak know that I talk with my hands, but I’m not usually moving them when others are speaking.
We have enough individuals and organizations offering bandaids to a community that has already lost too much blood. As I type this response there are a total of 19 trans women who have been murdered this year alone. Advocates like Sylvia Rivera, Marsha P. Johnson, Miss Major, Laverne Cox, Janet Mock and countless other trans women of color have been far better “spokespersons” for the trans community, than self-proclaimed Jenner. You want to make real change, Caitlyn? Like Chandi says, start using the word “we.” Abandon your conservative respectability politics that have you highlighting trans suicides while casting a judgemental look on the lives of trans women of color who have been killed because you think they somehow asked for it. Suddenly you’ll begin to hear gays advocating for the legalization of sex work and for the rights of sex workers, not because trans women of color are dying, not because gay men are dying, but because RentBoy.com has been busted for allegedly operating as an illegal brothel. The LGBTQ community is fighting for the freedom and the privilege to be who they are and to love or have sex with whomever they choose on their terms.
I understand however, Caitlyn, that sexul freedom and sex worker rights may not be your thing, another option would be to join the board of a trans-led organization; TransTech Social Enterprises would love to have your support. You can even participate in some of our workshops that break down “Power, Privilege and Oppression” and learn more about social, racial and economic justice. Refuse to contribute to a system that puts white cis gay men, and those of similar experience, as the gatekeepers in charge of resources that trans women of color are trying to access. You can help turn this around! Trust me, as much as you can fly a few of us girls in to become your instant entourage, it’s not your money that your new found community is after. It is your potential to facilitate change, your access to people and resources that could help trans people beyond the individual level and create massive change on a systemic level. THAT is where you can make the greatest impact. Call me Caitlyn.
Sincerely,
Miss Ross
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First Arkansas Transgender Legal Clinic Assists More than Two-Dozen
Eleven attorneys wrote up 43 notarized documents ready to file, including 25 name changes and 10 gender changes.
HRC.org
Judge In Oregon Refuses To Wed Same-Sex Couples, Ethics Investigation Launched
At first glance Kim Davis seems an unlikely trendsetter, but, alas, another public servant has followed her lead and is citing his religious beliefs as way to prevent same-sex couples from marrying.
Marion County Judge Vance Day, a former chairman of the Oregon Republican Party, has requested his clerks send same-sex couples planning to be married to other county judges. An ethics investigation has been launched as a result of his decision.
Day has been granted permission by the Oregon Government Ethics Commission to create a legal defense fund for himself to cover expenses he anticipates to incur during the pending investigation.
Marion County judges are not required to perform any marriages of any kind and Day stopped performing them last Spring, just prior to the United States Supreme Court’s ruling on same-sex marriage in June.
H/t: LGBTQ Nation
Jeremy Kinser
Steve Backshall Loses It Over Blue Whale Live on Camera: WATCH
Wildlife lovers everywhere will relate to naturalist Steve Backshall’s reaction to seeing a blue whale live on air during a recent episode of Big Blue Live, a live television and online event celebrating various types of marine creatures.
There is nothing like seeing the most massive mammal earth has ever known in its natural habitat, and Backshall can’t contain himself:
“I’ve heard word that we have on our helicopter, a BLUE WHALE! I can see it now. The largest animal ever known to have lived on our planet. Larger than any of the dinosaurs. A creature we hunted so that 99% of its numbers disappeared is back, is here, is in the bay right now – LIVE! This is one of the most extraordinary things I’ve ever seen!”
“Ahhhh,” Backshall gasps as the whale breaths and dives. “Ahhhh.”
Watch:
And if you haven’t seen enough of beautiful creatures, check out what Backshall looked like back in 2007 on his program In The Wild.
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Andy Towle
Steve Backshall Loses It Over Blue Whale Live on Camera: WATCH
5 Years Later: See Lady Gaga's Meat Dress Now
The Rock and Roll Hall of Fame has acquired Lady’s Gaga’s infamous meat dress, and you won’t believe what it looks like now.
Bil Browning
www.advocate.com/arts-entertainment/music/2015/09/04/5-years-later-see-lady-gagas-meat-dress-now
Kentucky Clerk's Husband Says His Wife Is 'Not Gonna Bow'
The husband of a Rowan County, Kentucky, clerk who’s in jail because she refuses to issue marriage licenses to same-sex couples spoke out on his wife’s behalf Thursday.
“They have illegally put my wife in jail so we’re gonna ask the sheriff to do his job or step down,” Joe Davis said outside the Rowan County Courthouse.
His wife, Kim Davis, was jailed on Thursday after she refused to comply with U.S. District Judge David Bunning’s order to issue marriage licenses to gay couples, citing her religious beliefs and “God’s authority.”
“We’ve had people running for president that knows more about the law than Bunning does,” Joe Davis said. “That’s sad that we have a judge that’s sitting behind the bench with a black robe on that don’t know the law.”
Bunning said he would keep Davis’ wife in jail until she complied with his order.
“They’re not gonna let her out and she’s not gonna bow,” Davis said. “I promise you that.”
A reporter asked him how long his wife would be willing to stay in jail.”As long as it takes,” he responded.
The entire matter could be resolved for Kim Davis, and the gay couples of Rowan County, if the clerk resigned.
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Find out why Fort Lauderdale’s gay wedding campaign is winning awards
Fort Lauderdale’s tourism bureau has won some awards for its successful ‘Love Is Love‘ gay marriage marketing campaign.
The project won The Henry (gold) award in the Creativity in Public Relations category at the annual Flagler Awards, as well as an award in the Mixed Media Campaign and ‘Best in Show’.
The awards, established in the year 2000, are held annually in Florida in recognition of statewide excellence in tourism promotion, as the Sun Sentinel reports.
The Love Is Love campaign famously included the mass wedding of 100 couples in the gay-friendly city on 5 February, following the legalization of gay marriage in the state of Florida on 6 January; the official ambassador was *NSYNC’s Lance Bass.
‘While we can measure the success of the ‘Love is Love’ campaign with numbers and awards, this initiative was about creating a memory, a lasting impression, and a genuine celebration of marriage equality,’ said president of the Greater Fort Lauderdale tourism bureau Nicki E. Grossman.
‘To us, the success is measured in smiles, happy tears and hugs. And there were lots of those,’ she added.
The post Find out why Fort Lauderdale’s gay wedding campaign is winning awards appeared first on Gay Star News.
Jamie Tabberer
www.gaystarnews.com/article/find-out-why-fort-lauderdales-gay-wedding-campaign-is-winning-awards/
HRC Mississippi’s First Statewide Equality Summit
Saturday was a day of history.
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Judge Tells Straight Couple They Can’t Divorce Because Of Gay Marriage
It looks like Kim Davis isn’t the only government employee refusing to do her job. Now, a local judge in Tennessee says he will not grant a divorce to a straight couple because of gay marriage.
Thomas and Pamela Bumgardner were wed in November 2002. The couple have no children together and filed for divorce in September 2014 because of “irreconcilable differences.” But Hamilton County Chancellor Jeffrey Atherton give a damn about their wishes. Instead, he denied the couple’s request for a divorce last week after hearing from seven witnesses over the course of four days and going through more than 75 exhibits, the Chattanooga Times Free Press reports.
Related: Texas Forces Same-Sex Couple Seeking Divorce To Remain Married
Atherton’s reasoning? In his words, the Supreme Court needs to clarify “when a marriage is no longer a marriage.”
“The conclusion reached by this court is that Tennesseans have been deemed by the U.S. Supreme Court to be incompetent to define and address such keystone/central institutions such as marriage, and, thereby, at minimum, contested divorces,” Atherton wrote in his judgment.
In other words, the judge believes SCOTUS changed the definition of marriage when it ruled in favor of nationwide marriage equality earlier this summer, therefore it must also change the definition of divorce, and until then he won’t allow anyone, same- or opposite sex, to end their unions.
Good thinking, your honor.
When asked what exactly the couple should do now that they can’t get divorced, Atherton shrugged and said: “Hopefully, they can reconcile” unwittingly letting the world know that he was substituting his judgement for the couple’s own.
Related: In Alabama, Gay People Can’t Get Married… But They Can Get Divorced
Graham Gremore
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