When Being Trans Is Not Trans Enough

When Being Trans Is Not Trans Enough
The terms transgender and trans are increasingly being used in community circles to denote those who are who are transitioning from their birth-assigned gender to more closely align their bodies with their authentic sense of self. Let us not forget that transgender is an umbrella that encompasses all persons whose authentic identity does not conform unambiguously to conventional notions of male or female genders and assigned gender at birth. The current narratives that are coming from the trans community seemingly refer solely to those who transition, and the language that is increasingly being used by the community is becoming more and more exclusionary. Even the labels MTF and FTM are still being thrown around as descriptors both for and by a large portion of those who transition, which reenforces both gender assigned at birth and also the idea that there are only two boxes to choose from. Male and female are increasingly being presented as two distinct states, with nothing between.

The two gender binary system is neat and tidy for a society that has constructed roles and expectations around each term, with there being no common ground between the two. It was not always this way. In antiquity there is ample evidence that there were many genders exhibited, as referenced in classical writing. The advent of Abrahmaic religion resulted in a series of stories that were written to encourage people who had been persecuted in their own land by imperialist invaders to engage in and promote behaviors — such as reproduction for the sake of self-preservation, and therefore set the binary. These texts later became fodder for those who would persecute both them and us. In this world, one was either male or female. Genders outside of the binary were ignored. Sexual orientation and activity of those other than would potentially produce offspring, became demonized by a society based on biblical concepts.

In a world of only two choices, I became very self-aware that I had been placed in the wrong box and that everything about me — my sense of self, my behaviors, my likes and dislikes, were mostly assigned a female gender by those around me. Physically and genetically I was always between the two, but in a world where there were only to options, at first it made sense for me to try harder to behave as masculine as I could; particularly under the influence of a parent for whom my mannerisms had become embarrassing to the point where they felt the need for physical correction. Yet despite overcompensation in many areas, boys just didn’t wear pink lip-gloss and blue eyeshadow while they were walking around town on weekends when not playing with their bands. I did. When I became aware of what it means to be transgender, my new-found awareness gave me a solution. I could transition to further align my body with my gender. As time progressed I felt the need to suppress any behaviors or thoughts that were socially gendered male lest I be further rejected by both external society and the transgender community, so once more attempted to fit the expectation of the gender binary, though now female rather than male.

Trans originated as a shortened form of transgender, which includes myself and all other non-binary identities. However In the activist community, trans has largely become a more politically correct form of the word transsexual; touted as more inclusive, but yet still as exclusionary. Because of this, in saying that I am a trans woman, the listener usually forms the assumption that I am both transitioning and binary-identifying. If we accept the true meaning of trans as being all of us under the umbrella term, then saying that I am a trans woman does not exclude my being a feminine-of-center transgender person transitioning towards a physiology that more closely matches but does not thoroughly encompassmy identity. I am non-binary in a world where Male and female are just two terms that sit on opposite ends of a line. I exist upon that line, at the high end of the female spectrum. My presentation generally reflects this. However, while some non-binary people identify more towards either male or female, others exist more towards the center, at various points along the line, or don’t identify as a gender at all. The increasing use of trans and transgender when writing solely about those who are in transition or who have transitioned is inadvertently damaging the umbrella and erasing identities.

According to the only study done of it’s kind, “A Gender Not Listed Here”, the differences between those who identify with a trans binary identity and those identifying as a non-binary trans identity shows that it’s time that those of us under the umbrella that have a binary trans identity to take a difficult look at themselves and examine their privilege. Yes, I said privilege.

There is a de-facto hierarchy under the umbrella, whereby those who identify with a binary gender have become the primary focus of our outreach and advocacy and therefore fare better than those who not. I am not going to dissect the past 20 years or so of activism or discuss the reasons why. It does not matter why this has happened, the numbers gathered by NCTE shows that this just simply cannot continue to be left unchecked. While the data on trans binary individuals shows unacceptable incidence of harassment, assault, attempted suicide, joblessness, homelessness and murder, the data for non-binary transgender respondents in the NCTE study shows HIGHER rates when compared to those with a binary trans identity. Often staggeringly so.

According to the study, 20 percent of non-binary identified trans people said that they had been involved in drug sales, sex work, or other underground economies, versus 15 percent for binary-identified trans people. Non-binary individuals have a 43 percent suicide attempt rate, versus 40 percent for binary-identified, are more likely to have experienced harassment, and 7 percent more likely to have been assaulted. Job loss for non-binary individuals is 19 percent lower than binary trans individuals, yet they are 20 percent more likely to be unemployed.

Non-binary individuals are oftentimes refused medical transition-related care. The WPATH standard of Informed Consent is still not being followed in the majority of the U.S, where many trans care providers still insist on the exclusionary real life test often resulting in heightened dysphoria for non-binary individuals who do not meet the requirements. Oftentimes a non-binary person in need of care will have to suppress part of their identity in order to receive care, or declare themselves as binary. The language used in of the majority of transgender legal protections that have either passed or are being proposed within the U.S., should offer binary and non-binary trans equal protections; yet identity markers are still largely binary, and trans healthcare is often overlooked.

With the legal protections added in various states, D.C., and the federal government’s acknowledgement that trans people are covered by the Civil Rights Act and Title IX, there exists a clear area of opportunity for language to be added to ensure transgender related healthcare providers are adhering to the current WPATH standards so that at least in basic care services no trans person is excluded based on where they identify under the transgender umbrella.

There is also a need for those non-binary identities who are not almost at one end of the spectrum or the other, to have their identities officially and legally recognized. Facebook added almost 50 different gender options and combinations to their users in 2014, largely due to the work of Brielle Harrison, who is a trans woman working for the company. If a corporation such as Facebook can add gender options, so can the federal government here in the U.S., and other Western countries such as the U.K. The simple inclusion of an “other” option where one can write in one’s own gender with the addition of a preferred pronoun would be simple enough to incorporate on the vast majority of current forms.

The issues are not particularly difficult to address — most of the protections are already in place in a large number of states. We simply need to amend our language to ensure the inclusion of all those under the transgender umbrella when discussing trans issues, and not just the few who take steps to transition towards the opposite binary option from the one coercively assigned at birth.

Please join me in adding your voice using the #NBRightsNow hashtag on twitter.

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The Mind/Body Connection: Mentally Preparing Yourself Before Your Workout

The Mind/Body Connection: Mentally Preparing Yourself Before Your Workout

SethBefore you start that quest to become a shirtless Brad Pitt in Fight Club, I need you to think about something.  

Your mind is the master of your body.  

I have heard the “lack of willpower” and “girl, I got lazy” excuses… let’s say… more than a few times. However, that’s the condition. What is the cause?  The cause is that we haven’t developed a clear vision, concept and belief in our new body. 

Instead, we mindlessly curl, squat and run into someone’s vision for our body. We develop no personal connection to the end goal. Also, many of us unfortunately run around with warped negative perceptions of our bodies and abilities. Then when times get tough, we fold like a cheap deck of cards.  It’s a new year and we need a new truth.

In my experience, you must connect the mind to the body to achieve significant and long-lasting results. It’s also my experience that all the people I’ve met with truly bangin’ bodies having either knowingly or unknowingly connected their minds to their bodies.

Here are two of many powerful ways to do that: First, grab a paper and pen (no computer or phone) and write out every detail of your ideal body: What does it look like?  What does it feel like? What it is like to move in this body? What do other people think and say about this body? Write specifically about each body part. There are absolutely no limitations here. Set aside any negative beliefs you have about yourself or your abilities. Go for it. Play make-believe.

Group-Shot1-360x2211Next write affirmations and claim your new body.  Such as: “I will be lean and fit” and “I will have a bigger chest” or “I will have an ass of death.” You get the idea. (Bonus: eliminate “will” and just claim the entire thing now. After all, there is no time but the present.)

Now, here is the easiest part. I want you to read the description of your body and speak the affirmations daily. When you do this you are connecting your mind to your body and visualizing the results that you want to achieve.  If you do this consistently over time, your workouts will improve and your mission will become engrained in your mind and body.  You will begin to believe in your abilities and the results will follow.  

Pretty soon your “make-believing” will turn into pure belief in yourself and your resolution will become part of you DNA. It is the ancient art of visualization and manifestation broken down for fitness.  

It worked for me. The most powerful physical transformation I ever created for myself started from my mind. Happy New Years.

Jeremy Kinser

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Mike Huckabee Quits Fox News Because God Might Tell Him to Run for President in 2016: VIDEO

Mike Huckabee Quits Fox News Because God Might Tell Him to Run for President in 2016: VIDEO

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After six and a half years together, Mike Huckabee and Fox News are parting ways – a devastating blow to anyone who enjoyed getting their misinformed Republican Party propaganda in a neat little 700 Club-esque wrapper.  

Said the Pat Robertson-lite on Huckabee last night:

“I’ve never had so much fun in my life. I’ve met people I never dreamed I’d meet and I’ve played music with legends in the music business. But I also realize that God hasn’t put me on Earth just to have a good time or to make a good living, but rather God has put me on Earth to try to make a good life. There’s been a great deal of speculation as to whether I would run for president. And if i were willing to absolutely rule that out, I could keep doing this show. But I can’t make such a declaration.”

Huckabee added that he wouldn’t make a final decision on 2016 until late next spring.

Watch the farewell address, AFTER THE JUMP

 


Kyler Geoffroy

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Sam Smith and His New Boyfriend are Lovers on Holiday in Boatload of Instagram Pics: PHOTOS

Sam Smith and His New Boyfriend are Lovers on Holiday in Boatload of Instagram Pics: PHOTOS

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British singer Sam Smith, who was coy about his new relationship in an interview last month in which he confirmed that he was dating an extra from his “Like I Can” music video, spent the holidays with his special guy, a dancer named Jonathan Zeizel.

Smith shared a boatload of photos of Zeizel and friends on a trip to Sydney, Australia and a lush resort area. The two appear smitten with one another after sharing their first selfie (above) last month, and not concerned about going public with it.

The cheeky Instagram shots include one in which Smith and Zeizel recreate the iconic scene from Titanic, captioned, “I’m flying Jack, I’m flying…”

Check out more shots that suggest Smith is currently feeling like he’s ‘King of the World’, AFTER THE JUMP….

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Looking happy on a boat in Sydney harbor they later traveled to a more tropical place.

Said Sam of this photo: “Literally woken up in Heaven”.

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Caption: “Lol x”

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And of course some fine cuisine and champagne to top it off.

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And some mid-December holiday cheer:

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Looks like 2015 is starting off on a high note for Sam Smith.


Andy Towle

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Madonna Says Controversial 'Rebel Heart' Photos Are Not 'An Insult Or Racist'

Madonna Says Controversial 'Rebel Heart' Photos Are Not 'An Insult Or Racist'
Madonna is on the defensive after critics slammed the singer for tweeting photoshopped images of Nelson Mandela and Martin Luther King Jr. to promote her upcoming album, “Rebel Heart.”

In a Facebook post shared on Saturday, the 56-year-old apologized before explaining her decision to share the photos. She wrote that her fans were the creators of the images, but added that neither she nor her fans are racist:

The controversial photos of Mandela and Martin Luther King Jr., which were posted on Madonna’s Twitter account on Saturday, feature the men with black rope bound to their faces, àla Madonna’s “Rebel Heart” cover art.

For comparision, here is Madonna’s “Rebel Heart” cover art:

X-mas is coming early! Pre order my album and download 6 tracks! Happy Holidays! ❤️#rebelheart pic.twitter.com/YBiJccfQQ4

— Madonna (@Madonna) December 20, 2014

Here are the altered photos of Nelson Mandela and Martin Luther King Jr.:

This❤️#rebelheart fought for freedom! pic.twitter.com/7OxGT28TuY

— Madonna (@Madonna) January 2, 2015

This ❤️#rebelheart had a dream! pic.twitter.com/PIwcwosS2G

— Madonna (@Madonna) January 2, 2015

Madonna also tweeted similar photos of Princess Diana and Bob Marley in the style of the “Rebel Heart” album cover on Saturday:

Yes Princess Diana was. ❤️#rebelheart! Anyone who fights for freedom is a ❤️#rebelheart pic.twitter.com/GDH6W6NFPC

— Madonna (@Madonna) January 3, 2015

This❤️#rebelheart sang about ONE LOVE! pic.twitter.com/7RGdpL4yzy

— Madonna (@Madonna) January 2, 2015

In December, Madonna tweeted various photos of people wrapped in black cords, including fans and celebrities like Miley Cyrus, Lady Gaga, Marilyn Monroe, Skrillex and Diplo. She also shared an altered photo of a statue of Jesus Christ with the “Rebel Heart” ropes wrapped around it.

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My Chemical Romance Guitarist Dedicates New Song to Trans Teen Leelah Alcorn: LISTEN

My Chemical Romance Guitarist Dedicates New Song to Trans Teen Leelah Alcorn: LISTEN

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Saddened and angered by the tragic suicide of 17-year-old Leelah Alcorn last Sunday, My Chemical Romance lead guitarist Ray Toro has dedicated his new song “For the Lost and Brave” to the deceased trans teen.

Wrote Toro on his blog:

AlcornI wrote this song about a year ago, waiting to release it on my record when it was complete.  There have been many times that I’ve almost put it out, but have always found a reason to hold it back.  But lately there seems to be so much hate and misunderstanding in this world.

As I’m sure many of you felt after reading the news of young Leelah Alcorn taking her own life, my heart sank.  I felt sick.  Yet another young life gone because of not being heard, not being understood, and not being unconditionally loved for who they truly were.  After hearing her story, and reading her final Tumblr post, I finally felt it was time to share this song.

It is time we learn to accept each other for who we truly are.  Being seen, heard, and truly loved as our authentic selves is something we all want, and something we all deserve.

Listen to “For the Lost and Brave”, AFTER THE JUMP


Kyler Geoffroy

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