Will The Obama Administration Challenge Cuba To Treat LGBTs Equally?

Will The Obama Administration Challenge Cuba To Treat LGBTs Equally?

cuba gaySo after half a century of Cold War posturing by both countries, the U.S. and Cuba have decided to get over themselves and normalize relations between the two countries. For most Americans, this amounts to an anti-climax; even young Cuban-Americans think the embargo against Cuba should be lifted. After all, if we can have diplomatic relations with Vladimir Putin’s Russia, why not Cuba?

But the Putin example raises an interesting question for the Obama Administration. Cuba is nowhere near as harsh as Russia in its treatment of LGBT citizens. But Cuba has a horrible record on human rights, and that includes its treatment of gay people. After all, this is the country that quarantined HIV-positive people during the height of the AIDS epidemic and cracked down so hard on the gay population in the 1960s and 1970s that Fidel Castro admitted (in 2010) that it was “a great injustice.”  You can complain about America’s history of LGBT oppression, but Cuba’s has been far worse.

Things are better than they were, but Cuba is hardly a lavender paradise. There is no independent LGBT rights movement. Instead, the only legal entity representing the community’s interests is led by Mariela Castro, a straight woman who is Fidel’s niece and the daughter of the current president, Raul Castro. And Mariela hardly has a track record of embracing a diversity of opinion. In essence, the state is the LGBT movement.

There are no pride parades in Cuba. The only official event is the International Day Against Homophobia. Harassment of gay men by authorities is still common, particularly if they are considered dissidents. Beatings by police — even fatal beatings — are not unheard of. The strong vein of homophobia that pre-dates the Revolution and that owes a lot to Catholic condemnation may not be as prominent as it once was but it is still very much present.

Now that the U.S. is talking to Cuba, will the Obama Administration be willing to raise these issues as part of the conversation? The Administration had a few moment of forcefulness at the height of the Olympic Games homophobia. But when the spotlight faded, so did the rhetoric.

The U.S. and Cuba have a lot of things to discuss, and in all fairness, LGBT issues aren’t going to be at the top of the list. But the question will be, where are they on the list? Or are they on the list at all? It’s worth keeping on eye on the developing relationship to see just how much the Administration thinks our community in Cuba really matters.

JohnGallagher

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As Not Seen On TV: Holiday-Themed Bedroom Accessories You’re Missing Out On

As Not Seen On TV: Holiday-Themed Bedroom Accessories You’re Missing Out On

‘Tis the season to be jolly, and what better way to spread the joy than by giving your loved one a holiday-themed sexy toy. Lucky for him (and you!), there are no shortage of them out there. From peppermint flavored lube to dildos shaped like candy canes, you could stuff any stocking with x-rated trimmings.

Here are some holiday-themed bedroom accessories guaranteed to keep your season merry and bright.

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Candy Cane Flavored Lube

Not only does this lube come in an adorable teddybear-shaped bottle and will make your man taste like peppermint, but it’s packed with all sorts of vitamins and minerals, including A, C, D, E, B1, B2, B3, B6 and B12, plus folic acid and amino acids.

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The X-Mas Tuggie

Measuring 8.5-inches long and 2-inches wide, with a generous sized pouch for your nuts, the X-Mas Tuggie looks just like a candy cane. An adjustable drawstring at the base ensures a secure fit that will keep you cuddly and warm no matter how low the temperature dips.

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Embrace your inner abominable snowman and spank your lover senseless with this sexy Frosty crop.

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Chocolate Santa Surprise

Okay, okay. So this one isn’t a sex toy, per se, but we couldn’t resist including it on the list. It may look like just another chocolate Santa Claus until you peel back the foil wrapping. Just think of the possibilities.

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Present Boxer Briefs

Show off your package in these sexy low-rise boxer briefs made from green soft stretch velvet and topped with a festive red bow.

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Or maybe candy canes are more your style. If so, you’re in luck! They make those, too.

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Santa Vibe

Every wonder what it feels like to ride on Santa’s “sleigh”? Here’s your chance to can find out.

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Peppermint Peckers

Keep your breath fresh between love sessions with these penis-shaped breath mints.

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Candy Cane “Pleasure Wand”

11-inches in length and 1-inch in diameter, this glass “pleasure wand” is curved and striped to look like a candy cane. (For safety reasons, the manufacturer recommends you clean and inspect all of your glass pleasure wands before and after each use. And never use a damaged glass wand.)

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Merry Memories Holiday Massage Candle Trio

At long last, someone has found a way to combine our two favorite things into one: sex and cookies. These arousing massage candles come in three holiday scents: Candy Cane, Harvest Moon, and delicious Sugar Cookie.

sz-1000x-warm_trim-360x640Astroglide’s Warming Liquid

Less holiday and more winter-themed, Astroglide’s Warming Liquid is perfect for fellas who like it hot. One dollop to your most sensitive spots will ignite your loins and keep the heat cranked up. It’s perfect to have in hand for a cool, wintery night.

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Why Won't the FDA Let Me Donate Blood?

Why Won't the FDA Let Me Donate Blood?
I have type O-negative blood; I am what’s called a “universal donor.” My blood is the most sought-after because no matter what type of blood you have, you can receive O-negative blood. For that reason, in the event of an emergency, first responders bring O-negative blood to the scene.

I was in New York City on 9/11, and blood banks, which were inundated by people who wanted to donate, would only accept O-negative blood.

I am a happily married man; we’ve been together for seven years, and we are monogamous and happy. We live in a row house with a porch swing and a white fence; we volunteer in our communities; we both work in the public interest.

Our nation is facing a major blood shortage, “one of the worst [shortages] that the Red Cross has seen,” according to the Red Cross.

But a blood bank won’t take my blood, because they can’t. I am a gay man, and the FDA forbids it.

I tell this to my straight friends, and they can’t believe it, but it’s true. According to the FDA:

Having had a low number of partners is known to decrease the risk of HIV infection. However … [the FDA has been unable to] reliably identify a subset of MSM (e.g., based on monogamy or safe sexual practices) who do not still have a substantially increased rate of HIV infection compared to the general population or currently accepted blood donors.

You heard that right: Despite being in a seven-year monogamous relationship, I am still, somehow, at a higher risk of contracting HIV.

Recently, an FDA advisory panel considered walking back that prohibition by proposing a rule that would have allowed gay men to donate blood if they abstained from sex for one year. By their logic, if I stopped sleeping with my husband for 365 days, my risk for HIV would be magically reduced and I would be allowed me to donate blood.

The lack of logic, on its face, is mind-boggling, especially when you consider that both the American Red Cross and the American Medical Association have said that the ban is scientifically outdated and unnecessary.

But this is far more than just a policy relic that is caught in the slow churn of bureaucratic regulatory reform. No, this is of course another in a litany of double standards that the LGBT community faces.

Heterosexuals (regardless of their character) can serve in the military, but the LGBT community had to fight for our right to fight (and die) for our country. Heterosexuals (regardless of their character) can marry (and divorce) in all 50 states; the LGBT community has had to push — state by state, one by one — for our right to commit to the person we love. Heterosexuals (regardless of their character) can adopt; same-sex couples can jointly petition to adopt statewide in only 23 states and D.C.

On 9/11, after the towers fell to ash, I approached Second Avenue, headed toward the New York Blood Center. There were no cars on the streets, just thousands of people making a slow exodus north to their homes. The line to give blood was three blocks long.

Standing on the corner of 67th Street, I faced one of the most acute moral quandaries I’ve yet to confront: Do I lie about my identity to help my fellow brothers and sisters, or do I stay true to myself and know that the Red Cross would, by law, dispose of my blood?

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The FDA recently rejected the Advisory Panel’s one-year-abstinence recommendation and elected to keep the permanent ban in place.

One of the doctors who voted for the ongoing ban clearly found the debate to be an irritant; she was quoted complaining that “[i]t sounds to me like we’re talking about policy and civil rights….”

Damn right. And no policy should force me to lie so I can give back.

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