Paul Saltalamacchia Talks Planning a Fabulous Wedding and LGBT Equality (AUDIO)

Paul Saltalamacchia Talks Planning a Fabulous Wedding and LGBT Equality (AUDIO)
2014-09-16-HuffWed.jpgThis week I talked with Paul Saltalamacchia, Senior Catering Sales Manager for Hilton Worldwide, whom I’m working with to plan my own wedding. Saltalamacchia is currently based at DoubleTree Suites by Hilton Hotel Boston, overlooking the Charles River in Cambridge, Massachusetts. Understanding the full range of emotions that goes into preparing for your momentous day, he guides you through the sometimes-overwhelming process.

I talked with Paul about wedding options and preparations and his spin on LGBT issues. When asked about his personal commitment to LGBT civil rights, he stated:

I believe that every person deserves equal rights, regardless of their sexual orientation, their nationality, religious beliefs or physical or mental restrictions. I truly believe that, and I’ve believed that my entire life, that everyone should be treated equally. So it’s really important to me that gay couples receive that same treatment when they come into the hotel. I remember when it first became a law in 2004, I would have couples call me and say, “I have a question: I’m inquiring about a wedding, but do you allow gay weddings at your hotel?” I was really shocked to hear that a lot of other hotels in the city were actually turning away gay couples because of their sexual orientation, and I thought that was crazy. I went to my general manager when the question was asked of me, and I said, “We’re OK with doing gay weddings at the hotel?” And he said, “Of course we are. It doesn’t matter to us.” I met with my staff for an hour-long kind of orientation to question them to see if they were comfortable working a gay wedding, and it was very surprising how open all the people that worked at the hotel were to it. It was a big deal. The word got out, and it became very popular. I would say maybe 15 to 20 percent were gay weddings.

LISTEN:

Paul Saltalamacchia began his career in healthcare nutrition and made the switch to
hotel event catering and sales in 1998. He has been a certified social event planner since 2006. His focus has been on social events, mainly weddings and bar mitzvahs, and enjoys turning people’s vision into reality. My partner and I are working with Saltalamacchia and acclaimed chef Steve Ali, who are committed to making our dreams come true for our wedding day. Trendy or traditional, extravagant or tastefully modest, they’ll make your exciting day everything you imagined it would be.

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The Business Case for Ally Engagement

The Business Case for Ally Engagement
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Around the world, major companies are waking up to the fact that creating a diverse and inclusive workplace requires more than policy change.

For LGBT inclusion in particular, policy alone doesn’t drive culture: 91 percent of Fortune 500 companies prohibit discrimination based on sexual orientation, yet 53 percent of LGBT workers remain closeted at work. Deloitte has documented the detrimental effects of this form of “covering” in the workplace, including negative impacts on sense of self, sense of opportunities available and commitment to the organization. Thus, companies that fail to create environments that enable employees to bring their full selves to work are inhibited in their ability to attract, retain and get the most out of their diverse employee pools.

The modern workplace environment

What makes these work environments so inhospitable for LGBT workers? By and large it’s not overt homophobia and disrespect; it’s more of a subtle feeling that they’ll be misunderstood. In a recent Human Rights Campaign survey, the top 3 reasons LGBT people state for not being out at work are fears of making people uncomfortable (38 percent), being stereotyped (36 percent) and losing connections with coworkers (31 percent). Conversations about social and dating relationships come up all the time (80 percent say on a daily to weekly basis), so an LGBT employee’s only choice is often to withdraw from their coworker community or search for new employment.

This uninclusive culture is not the result of active anti-LGBT sentiment. In fact, approximately 77 percent of Americans consider themselves LGBT allies, and nearly 90 percent believe people should not be discriminated against for employment based on their sexual orientation or gender identity. Modern societal inequality is perpetuated less by a conscious effort to discriminate, and more by a lack of awareness among fair-minded people about the small, unconscious biases and stereotypes that affect those who are different from them, and which they may be inadvertently perpetuating. Workplace environments reflect societal culture, so without explicit efforts to raise awareness and create the conditions for employees to change their behavior, it is only natural for these subtle biases to persist and play out in everyday workplace conversation.

What we can do about it

How can companies create an environment where LGBT employees feel comfortable enough to come out at work, enabling them to thrive and produce better business results? The solution lies in the non-LGBT employees: educating and activating them to proactively and consistently show their support for their LGBT colleagues, through everyday behaviors: language, conversations, items they display on their desks, activities they participate in at work. By tweaking these small behaviors — asking a new employee if she has a significant other rather than a boyfriend, or bringing up the latest LGBT news story at lunch instead of the latest celebrity gossip — and doing it consistently over time, LGBT-inclusive behaviors become the default rather than the exception. And this creates results: in the same HRC study, one in four LGBT workers said they have stayed at a job specifically because the environment was accepting.

Professionals lead busy lives. For non-LGBT people who are not directly affected by LGBT bias every day, it is easy to forget or deprioritize the trainings, email updates and events that maintain momentum and behavior change over time. To address this problem and create the motivation for employees to prioritize inclusiveness, at Friendfactor we launched the first-ever Workplace Ally Challenge earlier this year. The Challenge, a friendly competition among businesses to activate as many employees as possible as allies, utilizes competition and intrinsic motivation to encourage employees to take action to address LGBT bias in their workplaces by tracking their participation and measuring their impact against peer companies.

The results so far have shown that critical mass and consistency lead to results. Within just six months, participating companies activated between 5 and 20 percent of their workforces, and an average of 58 percent more employees reported hearing colleagues speak up about LGBT issues at work as a result.

The future of workplace culture

Imagine what this buzz could turn into if companies kept up the momentum. To give a view of what’s possible, we’ve also been running an MBA Ally Challenge in business schools since 2012, which has doubled year over year and is now in 23 schools across the country. In the most recent school year, participating schools activated an average of 40 percent of their student bodies, and up to 67 percent at the top performing schools. This participation not only got people talking, but improved campus culture such that nearly 50 percent more LGBT students were comfortable being out to everyone on campus by the end of the school year — an increase from 42 percent to 62 percent. As a result, those students are able to be themselves on campus, know they are welcome and concentrate on being the most productive they can as they prepare to re-enter the workforce as managers.

By committing to continuous ally engagement over time, companies can achieve similar results in share of employees engaged and impact on workplace culture. When companies invest in engaging their employees to take action on their values, the sky is the limit on employee engagement, inclusive workplace culture and maximizing employee potential.

Friendfactor is currently accepting registrations for the 2015 Workplace Ally Challenge. Interested companies can learn more and sign up at www.friendfactor.org/workplace-ally-challenge.

Photo: PG&E at San Francisco Pride 2014

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Meet the McCardles – the Totally Happy, Totally Straight 'Ex-Gay' Couple: VIDEO

Meet the McCardles – the Totally Happy, Totally Straight 'Ex-Gay' Couple: VIDEO

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The Second City Network – the team behind those hilarous videos over the summer of women reading Grindr, Scruff, and GROWLr messages – are back with a video that asks whether ‘ex-gay’ therapy really works. 

The McCardles – played by Abby Mcenany and Tim Paul – are just your average, everyday couple who just happen to have met at “ex-gay” reparative therapy. Since then, their hetero love for one another has really blossomed and the two are living totally happy, not-at-all-gay lives of personal fulfilment. 

See for yourself, AFTER THE JUMP

 


Kyler Geoffroy

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Principal Phillip Brock II Suspected Of Sexual Relations With Teen

Principal Phillip Brock II Suspected Of Sexual Relations With Teen
An elementary school principal in Troy, Missouri, is behind bars after being charged with 10 counts of sexual contact with a teenager.

Phillip Brock II, 37, the principal of William Cappel Elementary School, was arrested Thursday after the alleged underage victim told police he had engaged in sexual contact with the suspect at least 20 times since May

The student said that the last encounter was Sept. 14, KMOV.com reports.

The teenager consented to a search of his cellphone, and police found text messages sent from Brock, according to the Troy Police Department.

Armed with a search warrant, officials seized several items from Brock’s home in Lincoln County, Missouri.

Brock is currently at the Lincoln County Jail in lieu of $500,000 bond.

He has been placed on paid administrative leave by the Lincoln County R-III School District, which issued a statement to the St. Louis Post-Dispatch.

“We strive each and everyday to protect our students while educating them. William Cappel Elementary faculty and staff will work diligently to minimize distractions and focus on classroom instruction.

“Every employee in the Lincoln County R-III School District undergoes Smarter Adults, Safer Children training annually. Prior to hiring, all employees also undergo criminal background checks and child abuse checks. In this specific instance, there was nothing indicated on either background check that would have prompted cause for concern.”

Investigators ask any parents who believe their child may have had inappropriate contact with Brock to call 636-528-6100.

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