The misconception of what being in love, loving<\/i> and lusting<\/i> over someone<\/i> means is what gets us confused. The movies we watch and the series we binge, lead us to believe that<\/span> \u201cbeing in love\u201d is the ultimate condition to \u201cloving\u201d someone<\/span><\/a> when the truth is quite different. Often interchangeably used, these three terms are oftentimes three different stages in a relationship, each with an individual significance and meaning, which should gradually evolve Here\u2019s how:<\/span><\/p>\n LUST<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n Lust is often the first stage in a relationship when two people feel immediate sexual attraction towards each other. When in its beginning stages, lust has the same effect on the brain as a drug. The seemingly<\/span> never-ending debate on lust vs love should end<\/span><\/a> (or at least get a bit clearer) when we say that lust is a state of consciousness that is entirely altered by hormones, idealization and projection, which is why this stage in a relationship shouldn\u2019t be taken as a measurement of the relationship\u2019s quality.<\/span><\/p>\n When you\u2019re lusting over someone, you may be more interested in hooking up, than having meaningful conversations<\/a>. You also may not want to do the things couples<\/a> tend to do, like cuddling or having breakfast the next morning.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n \u00a0BEING IN LOVE TO FINDING THE ONE<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n Oh the beauty of being in love! Similar to lust in some aspects, being in love is the rush and excitement we get when we\u2019re around the person we are dating. Still hopped up on feel good endorphins, this stage can sometimes fall under an idealization: instead of objectively looking at the person before us, we are projecting and seeing someone we want to see in them.<\/span> Wearing rose-colored glasses<\/span><\/a>, the couple<\/a> does have some insight into the other person\u2019s qualities, and personality traits but we can be very forgiving, lust-driven and would rather focus on what they believe is true than seeing what actually is. As idealization is a very strong weapon with long-lasting effects, once the \u201creal person\u201d surfaces, we sometimes still refuse to see.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Being the right fit for each other and finding that true love, is the holy grail of relationships. Although this type of love doesn\u2019t exclude lust and being in love; it doesn\u2019t necessarily depend on them. You build an intellectual connection with your partner based on shared values; mutual understanding, mutual support and emotional honesty. You love everything about your partner; their strongest qualities and areas of weakness.<\/span>\u00a0And, most importantly, real love is having someone love you for you, with the same impulse, always \u2013 even when the rose-colored glasses are off. When you start caring for your partner\u2019s well-being, success and health (almost) as much as you care for your own \u2013 you\u2019ll understand this type of love.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Having a best friend for life doesn\u2019t sound too shabby, does it? You\u2019ll have a support system, a hand to hold, a caring soul to bring you soup when you are sick, a partner who shares your values, and someone you appreciate (and who appreciates you) from the bottom of your heart.<\/span><\/p>\n The post The Difference Between Love and Lust \u2013 How to Identify the Two<\/a> appeared first on PlentyOfFish Blog<\/a>.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n The Difference Between Love and Lust – How to Identify the Two<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n![\"\"](\"http:\/\/blog.pof.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/fish-small.png\")
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