{"id":36175,"date":"2016-04-08T10:30:46","date_gmt":"2016-04-08T14:30:46","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.gayfriendschat.com\/socialblog\/be-not-afraid-scott-richard\/"},"modified":"2016-04-08T10:30:46","modified_gmt":"2016-04-08T14:30:46","slug":"be-not-afraid-scott-richard","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.gayfriendschat.com\/socialblog\/be-not-afraid-scott-richard\/","title":{"rendered":"be not afraid, scott richard"},"content":{"rendered":"

be not afraid, scott richard<\/b><\/p>\n

torbakhopper<\/a> posted a photo:<\/p>\n

\"be<\/a><\/p>\n

the transgender flag flew in the castro in 2012 for the first time. <\/p>\n

these images have been used, stolen, misappropriated, attributed to the pakistan liberation army or some such as a means of suppressing the truth.<\/p>\n

and here’s the truth:<\/p>\n

if a person is gender confused, help them find themselves.<\/p>\n

it’s okay if they make mistakes. they are experiencing a type of confusion that very few suffer at this same level.<\/p>\n

all of us have internal suffering.<\/p>\n

this world is empty of the kind of satisfaction that humans ultimately crave — we are in love with the idea of stopping time, pausing it, peering at it like it was a non-moving thing.<\/p>\n

but it isn’t.<\/p>\n

and transgender issues are also moving forward very fast.<\/p>\n

be kind.<\/p>\n

be gentle.<\/p>\n

these are the hardest things to do.<\/p>\n

why is the thought of a person surgically and physically transitioning between sexes such a big deal? <\/p>\n

and forcing transgendered people to use the bathrooms of their “born” identity is insane.<\/p>\n

further, using RAPE fear as a justification for why people don’t want transgendered people using their new sex<\/a> identity for choosing bathrooms, is seriously RUDE.<\/p>\n

rape is fundamentally an anti-transgendered concept! <\/p>\n

being trapped in your own body and then being verbally and mentally and sometimes physically assaulted by others is no easy life. but remember this, all the outside punishment is NOTHING compared to the internal punishment that comes from feeling out of sorts in your “own” body.<\/p>\n

as a gay<\/a> man<\/a>, i feel like my own struggles were so much easier. i was and am able to “fit in” to this society. sure, i’m outspoken about it and i fight back, but i still fit in.<\/p>\n

and i can tell you this, when you say you’re gay<\/a> or trans<\/a>, people start picturing you having sex<\/a>. they can be ruthless about it. does this happen when a man<\/a> or a woman<\/a> say they’re married?<\/p>\n

do we immediately picture the woman<\/a> on her back with her ass<\/a> up in the air begging to be pounded from behind? do we imagine the man<\/a> naked<\/a> and heaving with his face buried in her under parts?<\/p>\n

but that’s what an awful lot of people do to members of the LGBT community.<\/p>\n

they sexualize our entire lives and play it out like a movie in their minds. we become these creatures that live<\/a> for sex<\/a> and supposedly have it all the time. we are mythical in their minds.<\/p>\n

put that out of your mind now and try replacing it with something less salacious, something less exciting and sensationalized, something much more human, much more lonely and sad and deeply hurt by our hideous and constant judgments and reiterations of what we think is “normal”.<\/p>\n

imagine how it would feel to only fit in inside a tiny place in your mind where you can see and be yourself. now imagine that this became your primary focus in life and your goal was to be normalized and to love and to fit in and be loved.<\/p>\n

and remember, when someone is confused, your words of hatred and unkindness will be multiplied by the anxiety and frustration and past transgressions that a person has suffered. you will be ADDING to the legacy of hate that life has created against the person in question.<\/p>\n

but they don’t deserve the amplification. so be gentle, be kind.<\/p>\n

and lastly, there are so few of these rare and beautiful human creatures that there is no reason to develop a hostility against someone you will probably never meet. and don’t ruin it for the rest of us who are waiting with great hope that the discoveries these individuals make will open a door to whole new world of opportunity and enhancement.<\/p>\n

as always, my photos are available under the creative commons as public but NO DERIVS.<\/p>\n

\nwww.flickr.com\/photos\/gazeronly\/26241477411\/<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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