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WATCH: UK’s version of Dancing With The Stars features same-sex dance duo

WATCH: UK’s version of Dancing With The Stars features same-sex dance duo

Emeli Sande sings while Johannes Radebe and Graziano di Prima dance together (Photo: @johannesradebe | Instagram | BBC)

UK TV show Strictly Come Dancing – forerunner to Dancing With The Stars in the US and other countries – featured its first same-sex dance routine on the weekend.

The hit BBC show has often been criticized by LGBTQ advocates for refusing to have any of its celebrity contestants teamed with professional dancers of the same sex. This is despite often featuring gay contestants.

In 2018, it did feature two professionals dancing together as part of a group routine. However, the broadcaster – perhaps testing how audiences would react – featured a spot on Sunday during its results show with two male dancers.

They were Johannes Radebe, who is gay, and Graziano di Prima, who is heterosexual.

Originally from South Africa, Radebe has recently spoken out about being bullied when younger and how difficult it was to grow up as a gay man in South Africa. He says he was out from an early age, but the bullying culminated in another boy calling him “faggot” and attacking him with a baseball bat when he was 17.

He is now based in the UK. He and his celebrity partner Catherine Tyldesley were eliminated from the show last week. However, he told Hello magazine what being asked to take part in the historic dance with another man meant to him.

“I’ve never felt so liberated. For the first time in my life, I feel accepted for who I am. That says so much about the people of this country.

“To be able to dance with a friend I respect and adore is joyous. There’s bromance galore between us, but there were no male and female roles, just free movement. It was beautiful, classy and elegant.”

Both men took to social media to comment on the dance.

Radebe posted photos of him and di Prima with the comment, “Love knows no boundaries.”

Meanwhile, di Prima posted a clip to his Twitter with the message: “REPRESENTATION always matters!?️‍?unforgettable moment, loved to dance with you @johannesradebe.”

REPRESENTATION always matters!????
unforgettable moment,
loved to dance with you @johannesradebe @bbcstrictly pic.twitter.com/RJQnrjhLbl

— Graziano Di Prima (@GrazianoDiPrima) November 3, 2019

The tweet has had over 24,000 likes and thousands of comments. Some expressed disappointment and said they would not watch the show in the future if it featured more same-sex couplings.

I won’t watch if this is the future of the show. I’m sorry

— Marina Rutherford (@marina_r85) November 4, 2019

However, the majority applauded the routine.

I loved watching it – I’d happily watch a lot more of it. I love dance, full stop, especially when done well – as that was.

— Helen (@Dogearedtatty) November 4, 2019

In an Instagram story, Radebe thanked people for their support.

“I see all those messages coming in and I feel the love. I’m going to take time to respond to each and every message. There’s a lot! I’m really grateful and I’m really thankful.”

You can watch the full dance below. The men danced to singer Emeli Sande, performing her track, Shine.

Last year, Italy’s version of Dancing With The Stars, Ballando con le Stelle, featured a gay celebrity partnered with a male professional dancer. The duo reached the competition’s grand final and came third.

The Israeli version of the show has featured a same-sex female competing couple and the Austrian version has featured a male competing couple. Earlier this year, Courtney Act danced with a male partner in the Australian version of the show.

There has yet to be a same-sex competing pairing on the US’s Dancing With The Stars. Nyle DiMarco did participate in a brief, same-sex routine in a January 2016 episode of the show. He went on to win the series with his female dance partner, Peta Murgatroyd.

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Woman worried her flamboyant bi boyfriend is really gay

Woman worried her flamboyant bi boyfriend is really gay

A woman terrified that her self-labeled bisexual boyfriend might actually turn out to be gay has sought advice from a therapist writing in The Atlantic. In short, the therapist’s advice had a high dose of tough love.

“I’m worried because (a) he’s never been with a man before and being with me means he won’t get that experience (assuming he doesn’t cheat) and (b) he comes from an extremely religious family in the South who would likely not be able to accept his homosexuality (or even bisexuality),” the woman writes. “I once asked him when we first started dating if he was with me to appease his family, whom he’s very close with, and he said “Kind of” but that he still found me attractive.”

The woman goes on to express her fears that her boyfriend is really gay and eventually will leave her, or that he is transgender and will want to transition later in life. “He sometimes acts effeminate and dresses extremely flamboyantly,” she writes. “I have no problem with people who identify in these ways, but I personally don’t have an interest in being romantically involved with someone who does. I have a very strong sneaking suspicion that he’s biding his time until his parents die or until he decides that he’s going to come out to them as gay.”

Related: Legendary record exec Clive Davis opens up about learning to embrace his bisexuality

The therapist of The Atlantic empathized with the woman, but pointed out something more glaring. “What strikes me most about your letter, though, is the amount of emotional energy you’re putting into guessing your boyfriend’s state of mind,” the therapist writes. “The more you ruminate about his potential turmoil, the more turmoil you create for yourself. And even as you worry about whether he might be keeping his thoughts from you, you’re also keeping your thoughts from him.”

The problem for the couple then is not the man’s sexuality, but rather a failure to communicate. The therapist encourages open dialogue about gender, family, sex and what the couple wants from their future. “Now’s the time to have these discussions, and you can start by making sure that you broach the topic as a conversation and not as an accusation…You’ll also want to be mindful not to pressure him to take a stance, especially because he may not know how he feels, or he may not be ready to say. The point of these initial conversations will likely be less about getting answers and more about hearing each other.”

Ultimately, the therapist cautions the woman not to jump to conclusions. Homosexuality, bisexuality and transgenderism are not the same thing, and one does not lead to the other. Therefore, the problem isn’t the man’s sexuality but the woman’s insecurity, and the failure of the couple to have real conversations about love and sex. In that way, the lessons apply to all couples: talk about your fears, your problems and your hopes for the future. Sexuality isn’t the issue: communication is!

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