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Towleroad Reader Travel Survey
Towleroad is planning on offering more articles geared toward LGBT travelers in the near future and we’d love to know more about when, why, and where our readers travel. Thanks in advance for helping us out!
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In the coming weeks, after we hear from you, we’ll also be posting some surveys about specific travel destinations.
Andy Towle
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End LGBT Racism
In celebration of Black History Month, I’m asking for action in the LGBT community around racism. #EndLGBTRacism More at: spirituwellness.wordpress.com/
'RuPaul's Drag Race' Will Start on March 2 with New Judges
RuPaul and Logo have finally announced the premiere date for RuPaul’s Drag Race season seven: March 2.
“Yes, Virginia, there is a gay Santa Claus!”, said Executive Producer RuPaul in a statement. “I asked for a new, wickedly funny, smart and experienced judge…and I got two! Ross and Carson are the perfect addition to the ‘RuPaul’s Drag Race’ family because they’re not just show biz experts, they’re superfans and longtime lovers of the art of drag.”
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Ginger Minj
Jaidynn Diore Fierce
Jasmine Masters
Kandy Ho’
Katya
Kennedy Davenport
Max
Miss Fame
Mrs. Kasha Davis
Pearl
Sasha Belle
Tempest DuJour
Trixie Mattel
Violet Chachki
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Despite Social Turmoil, Mumbai's 7th Pride Parade Sees Record Turnout – VIDEO
Mumbai’s seventh annual Pride Parade brought together hundreds of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgendered members of the city’s queer community. The overwhelming joy and irreverence of the most recent parade belies the Indian government’s recent trend of backsliding on LGBT rights in the country.
In 2009 The High Court of Delhi ruled that Section 377 of the Indian Penal Code, which criminalized homosexuality, was unconstitutional. The law had been in place since 1860 when it was first implemented under the British occupation of India. In 2013, however the Indian Supreme Court overruled the decision, stating that repealing the Penal Code was a decision best left to the country’s Parliament, rather than its Judicial body.
Since then the Indian government has slowly continued to chip away at the rights of its queer citizens by denying same-sex couples equal adoption rights and going so far as to suggest state-backed initiatives to “cure” queer youth. Socially, however, there have been moments of progress like the election of India’s first transgender mayor and television news anchor.
Despite India’s social turbulence, Pride-goers were confident in their decisions to march.
“I am marching to spread awareness because of my son who is gay,”a 74-year old mother told Vice. “For the first time in my life, I am fighting for the right cause.”
Watch footage of Mumbai’s 7th annual gay pride parade AFTER THE JUMP…
Charles Pulliam-Moore
Teaching LGBT in schools
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Meet the Lesbian Couple Who Hate Cats
These dog people can’t understand why lesbians or anyone, for that matter, fall for felines.
Allegra Ringo
www.advocate.com/pets/2015/02/05/meet-lesbian-couple-who-hate-cats
The Truth About Sluts
“Boys will be boys, and girls will be sluts.”
That’s how author Leora Tanenbaum sums up the sexual double standard.
Tanenbaum has spent the past two decades researching the word “slut” and how the label is used to shame and police young women, and female sexuality as a whole. Her first book on the subject, Slut! Growing Up Female With a Bad Reputation was published in August 2000. Nearly 15 years later, she re-examines what has changed — and what hasn’t — in I Am Not a Slut: Slut-Shaming in the Age of the Internet, published this week.
I Am Not a Slut focuses on how digital culture has shaped the ubiquitous nature of the “slut” label. “Today we’re constantly on display,” said Tanenbaum in an interview with HuffPost Women, “and certainly men feel that pressure too, but the pressure on girls and women is really inescapable, because so much of our feminine identity is connected with looking sexy and looking sexy all the time.”
We spoke with Tanenbaum about the history of the word “slut,” what it means for girls and women today, and how we can employ concrete measures to stop slut-bashing.
Why do you think the word “slut” holds so much power?
The word “slut” and synonyms like “ho” are remarkably confusing insults. I think a lot of their power comes from the fact that they’re fluid and often ambiguous. For most people, “slut” means a woman who is disgusting, shameful and out of control sexually. And it stems from the sexual double standard. Men are expected, even encouraged, to be sexually active — even in an uncontrolled manner — while women are expected to be minimally sexual.
What is the history of the word “slut?” How far back does its current meaning go?
The very first usage of the term that we know of is from 1386 from Chaucer’s “Canterbury Tales.” It appears as a noun, “sluttish,” and it refers to a man who is dressed in dirty and untidy clothes. Over time, “sluttish” became a noun, “slut,” and eventually it was used exclusively to refer to women — always a slovenly white woman from the poor or working class. From the very beginning, you can see the intersection of race, class and gender in the word “slut.” Over the centuries, it came to refer to a white woman who is low-class and who also is inappropriately sexually forward. Untidiness over one’s home or attire morphed into a sloppiness over one’s sexuality.
Why was the word “slut” historically only used to refer to white women?
The idea that femininity equals sexual restraint has historically been connected to whiteness. For so many centuries, white people regarded women of color as inherently slutty. So at least in the U.S., black sluttiness didn’t trigger a negative reaction among whites, because black sluttiness didn’t deviate from the white idea of what black femininity was.
What has changed about the way women and girls interact with the term “slut” between your first and second rounds of research?
Digital culture and social media. In the ’90s when I was first interviewing girls about the “slut” label, it was before texting, sexting, Snapchat, Facebook. Digital culture and social media have ramped up this unspoken rule of femininity: You’re always supposed to be sexy, but you’re not supposed to be slutty. And today we’re all living in this world of wall-to-wall surveillance. When your female body is being tagged, ed, liked, it creates all this pressure to present yourself as this sexy — yet never slutty — person. But that can backfire on you.
It used to be that, in my observation, every school had one or two girls that were the “school sluts,” and everyone knew who they were and they would be treated horribly. But now, pretty much everybody gets labelled a “slut” at one point or another. I have not met anybody under the age of 25 who has not been called a “slut” or a “ho” at some point in her life. It is ubiquitous.
What is the difference between “slut-shaming” and “slut-bashing”?
“Slut-bashing” is a word I coined in the 1990s to describe a very specific phenomenon: repeated acts of harassment, usually verbal, conducted by peers in junior high and high school who are basically ganging up on a fellow classmate and labeling her as a “slut.” It was a type of repeated harassment with malicious intent in this closed environment — the school. And that still absolutely exists.
But it’s interesting what has been added to slut-bashing. [Today], a lot of [the “slut” name-calling] is more casual, more diffused. It may not even have hostile intent. Sometimes it’s positive or neutral, like somebody’s calling you a “slut” because you look good. You’re left confused — “Am I being shamed or am I not being shamed?” I did not coin the term “slut-shaming,” but I think whoever did was very smart. It’s a good catch-all term.
In your opinion, is it possible to reclaim the word “slut”?
My central argument is that it doesn’t matter what the intent of the name-caller is, because the result is always negative. It always leads to policing and judgment and shame, even when the initial intent is lighthearted or neutral.
There certainly have been good-faith efforts to rehabilitate the word. Kathleen Hanna in the band Bikini Kill, famously scrolled the words “slut” in lipstick on her stomach, and would lift her shirt during concerts. That was a snarky retort to guys in the audience who were thinking she was a slut. There’s a literary blog called BookSlut, which is using the word in a cheeky way to imply that reading promiscuously is a good thing. And then of course we’ve got the SlutWalk movement, which reclaimed the word “slut” to raise awareness that wearing revealing clothing or behaving in a sexualized manner is never invitation for sexual assault. I absolutely recognize that for many individual women, embracing the label “slut” or ho can be empowering for them. And I’m not trying to minimize their personal experience.
I’m more interested in the large-scale feminist strategy. I want to pause and [think about] whether this strategy on a mass scale is a good one. Will it actually reduce slut-bashing and slut-shaming? After speaking with girls and women who have attempted, on an individual level, to reclaim the word “slut,” I conclude that, right now, this is not a safe or effective strategy. My concern is that until we get closer to sexual and racial equality, calling ourselves “sluts” and “hoes” could open up new opportunities for harassment and assault for all women.
So what can we do to combat slut-shaming and slut-bashing?
I think it’s up to us to lead by example and be role models. [We need] to talk about the power of slut-shaming and why it is harmful and damaging — not just for the girls who are labelled, but for all women and girls.
There’s a new movement called the Stop Slut movement, and it’s centered around an excellent play called “Slut: The Play.” But what’s even more exciting is that around the play adult mentors are paired with high school girls who then learn to develop tools themselves to go into their high schools and talk about these issues and to form clubs with their peers.
Also, I work for Planned Parenthood Federation of America, and I feel that we need to do what Planned Parenthood does best which is to talk about female sexuality without any judgment. Planned Parenthood does things every day to show that women are sexual and there’s nothing shameful about that. [They] provide comprehensive sex education, birth control without interference from bosses and politicians, and abortions without judgment. These are concrete ways to destigmatize female sexuality which then leads to diminishing the culture of slut-shaming.
How does our slut-shaming culture contribute to a culture of violence against women?
One theme that I’ve found over and over again, is agency. Even if the girl who’s labelled a “slut” or a “ho” isn’t sexually active, or not more sexually active than her peers, she is perceived to have done something active that provoked the reputation. There was a landmark study done at Duke University, called the Women’s Initiative Study. There was one student who said that femininity is all about “effortless perfection.” The slut is somebody who never understood that or understands it and is disregarding it. She’s being sexy in a way that is considered overt or too attention-seeking.
The element of agency gives ammunition to people who want to judge, shame and police the slut or the ho. Because they say, “Well, that girl deserves to be called a slut, because she chose to do something wrong.” It’s that mentality that always dovetails with the mainstream response to sexual assault. When woman comes forward and says, “I was sexually assaulted,” the mainstream response is to accuse her of exerting agency to provoke that.
If being labelled “slut” is so undesirable, why is it that being perceived as not sexual is also so undesirable?
That is so true. You don’t wanna be a prude and you don’t wanna be a slut. It’s really impossible. We are evaluated and judged through a sexual prism no matter what we do. Either we’re not sexual enough or we’re too sexual. It’s just tiring, man.
It’s god damn exhausting!
There’s really no way to win. And I’m so glad that you raised that issue, because so many adults are judgmental about the way young women present themselves in public. They just don’t understand how these young women have to walk on this razor-thin tightrope to not be a prude, not be a slut, be sexy but just the right amount, not show that they’re exerting any effort — you just woke up looking sexy in this very understated way.
It’s impossible for anybody of any age. That’s why we’re in this muddle. Because just existing while female puts us at risk of being evaluated on a sexual scale.
Working for Non-Discrimination Protections in Montana
Proponents of Senate Bill 179 testified Friday, January 30 to add the words “gender identity and expression and sexual orientation” to Montana’s Human Rights Act.
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Frankie J. Alvarez Strips And Says He Doesn’t Want ‘Looking’ To Be Another ‘Will & Grace’
credit: Attitude/Kevin McDaid
A lot of LGBT people have been marginalized. Previously gay characters were played for laughs on TV or in movies, but we playing three-dimensional gay men and the audience can all see themselves whether they are straight, gay, black or white. LGBT culture has this reputation that is all drag. But we all put our pants on one leg at a time. We want to show real men and women as real people. We don’t want to give you another ‘Just Jack’ from Will & Grace. We’re past that! That’s not to say these characters can’t be seen or told anymore, but we’ve told them already.”
– Looking star Frankie J. Alvarez, in a revealing new interview with Attitude magazine
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