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High School Wrestler Comes Out To Homophobic Coach, Who Also Happens To Be His Dad

High School Wrestler Comes Out To Homophobic Coach, Who Also Happens To Be His Dad

11136557_884565284919048_1730854831_o.0.0Don Bosco Catholic High School is serious about their wrestling. Over the last two decades they’ve won eight state dual championships and were the runners-up four more times. But it was one senior’s moves off the mat that have caused a stir recently.

There had been rumors quietly circulating for years about Cole Fox being gay, and he would always confirm them when asked directly. But there remained one hurdle of coming out that posed especially challenging — his father Ray, who also happens to be the assistant wrestling coach at Don Bosco.

Cole had ample reason to be anxious. He’d heard his dad throw around homophobic language, at school and at home. “He had always made homophobic comments,” Cole told OutSports, “and I could tell that the comments even made my mom uncomfortable at times.”

In a letter secretly secured in Ray’s jacket pocket before he left on a three-day trip, Cole shared his truth with his dad.

It read in part:

“Any anger, humiliation, sadness, happiness or whatever you’re feeling is completely valid. As far as I know, you have no ties to anyone LGBTQ. I just want you to know that it took me nearly 17 years to accept me. I’m going to give you time and space. You don’t have to talk about it. You can bring it up as much as you wish. You can talk to mom or April. You can completely disregard this letter. I will still love you regardless of what you think or what you do.”

cole_wrestling.0Later at school, Cole’s phone buzzed with a text from Ray. He had to leave class to open it, terrified of what it might say.

He read the words, “You are still a great son and I am proud of you,” and knew everything was going to be alright.

For his part, Ray was reportedly disappointed in himself that he created an atmosphere for his son that made him think he’d be loved any less if he were gay, and has been actively trying to show support for Cole.

Cole has since received the Matthew Shepard Scholarship, and the award offers his Catholic high school the chance to make a statement to LGBT students that there is nothing wrong with who they are.

“A student from my school received the scholarship 10 years ago,” Cole said, “and the feedback from the community 10 years ago was unacceptable. The school did not present the award and did not acknowledge the student’s accomplishment. This is a chance for Don Bosco to show its progress over the last 10 years. The way my family and community have reacted so far is a great sign.”

Dan Tracer

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Marco Rubio Talks 'Religious Freedom' and Gay Marriage with NPR

Marco Rubio Talks 'Religious Freedom' and Gay Marriage with NPR

GOP presidential candidate Senator Marco Rubio (R-FL)  sat down with NPR’s Steve Inskeep yesterday and the topic of “religious freedom” bills and gay marriage came up.

RubioFrom the transcript:

NPR’s INSKEEP: Let me ask about a domestic issue. In recent weeks, the state of Indiana passed a Religious Freedom law, which was interpreted by many as discrimination, by others, as protection for people who don’t want to take part in gay marriage. You defended the law and spoke about the hypothetical example of a florist who was asked to participate in a gay marriage and wanted to refuse. You said that person should have the right to follow their religious beliefs. Indiana, though, has since changed the law. Do you still support that concept?

SEN. RUBIO: Well, to be fair, I haven’t read the change in detail to give you an opinion on it specifically, but I’ll tell you where I stand. I don’t believe you can discriminate against people. So I don’t believe it’s right for a florist to say, I’m not going to provide you flowers because you’re gay. I think there’s a difference between not providing services to a person because of their identity, who they are or who they love, and saying, I’m not going to participate in an event, a same-sex wedding, because that violates my religious beliefs. There’s a distinction between those two things. So, certainly, you can’t not — it’s immoral and wrong to say, I’m not going to allow someone who’s gay or lesbian to use my restaurant, stay in my hotel, or provide photography service to them because they’re gay. The difference here is, we’re not talking about discriminating against a person because of who they are, we’re talking about someone who’s saying — what I’m talking about, anyway, is someone who’s saying, I just don’t want to participate as a vendor for an event, a specific event that violates the tenets of my faith.

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INSKEEP: What if two gay people get married and then they go that night to a hotel. Can the hotelkeeper refuse service to them?

RUBIO: That’s not part of an event. Again, I mean, that’s, there’s a difference between saying, we’re not going to allow you to stay in our hotel, common lodging establishment where people have a right to shelter, food, medical care, and saying we’re not going to, what we’re not going to do is provide services to an event, to an actual event, which is the wedding itself. And I think that’s the distinction point that people have been pointing to, and, because mainstream Christianity teaches that marriage is between one man and one woman. People feel very strongly about that. And to ask someone to individually provide services to something of that nature, I think violates their religious liberty.

INSKEEP: There’s a big question lurking here, which is that most Americans, according to surveys, now support gay marriage. A large minority of Americans still oppose gay marriage. The question is, that people seem to be wrestling with, is, what ground do opponents of gay marriage have left to stand on? What ground should they have to stand on?

RUBIO: First of all, if the majority of Americans support gay marriage, then you’ll see it reflected in changes in state law, which has always regulated marriage. And so at the end of the day, if a majority of people in any given state in this country petition their legislature to change the definition of marriage to include the marriage of two people of the same sex, that’ll be the law of the land. And that is what it is. Separate from that, there’s a constitutional protection of religious liberty that allows people to live by the tenets of their faith both in their public and in private life. That doesn’t mean that you’re allowed to go in and disrupt a gay wedding. But by the same token, it doesn’t mean that someone’s allowed to come to you and force you to be a participant in a ceremony that violates the tenets of your faith. And to be honest, in the real world, 99.9% of the time, a same-sex couple doesn’t want a florist or a photographer at their wedding that doesn’t agree with the choice that they’ve made. So we’re really talking about an issue that in large part is really not going to manifest itself in daily life, but in the instances that it does, there are individuals that don’t want to be compelled by force of law to participate in an event that puts them in the position of violating their religious faith. There’s a difference between that and discriminating against an individual because of who they are.

INSKEEP: Are there are other specific situations on your mind where you feel that people who are opposed to gay marriage would need some kind of protection from, from it?

RUBIO: Well, I mean, that’s the one that’s in the news today. Again, I don’t, we can always sit here and engage in hypotheticals, this, that, and the other, but at the end of the day, I mean, that’s the one that’s emerged because there’s real cases behind people being fined for not providing services to a, to a ceremony as opposed to individuals.

Good As You’s Jeremy Hooper let Rubio have it:

This is far-right fantasy. This idea that individuals cease to become individuals when their consumer request is of the wedding-centered variety is not a serious idea for serious people. The idea that vendors who are rarely at the actual ceremony or reception somehow become participants in either or both is an even more ludicrous notion.

And nice try with the distinction about public accommodations having to provide rooms to honeymooning same-sex couples, Senator, but the very same people who are championing these so-called “religious freedom” laws—the very same groups, individuals, and political allies who are forcing you to have this conversation on NPR—have all made the case for innkeepers and other shelter-providers having the supposed “right” to turn away gay couples. In fact, Mary and Jim O’Reilly, the Vermont innkeepers who attempted to turn away a lesbian couple (and who lost, obviously), were the anti-LGBT movement’s big champions just a few years back. In 2012, anti-gay organizations used them in campaign ads! Those of us who have been in this conversation for more than a month remember that all of the anti-LGBT organizations and media outlets rallied around this couple, just like they rallied around similar couples in similar situations.

But if the junior senator from Florida is going to align himself with this movement and keep defending discrimination like this, he’s going to keep finding himself in rhetorical traps. Why? Because the other side has created a flimsy defense of an easily perceptible problem, with their nuance coming in the form of rhetoric rather than reality.

Read Jeremy’s full post here.


Andy Towle

www.towleroad.com/2015/04/rubiofreed.html

POLL: Hoosiers Reject Business Discrimination, As Indiana Spends Millions on Damage Control

POLL: Hoosiers Reject Business Discrimination, As Indiana Spends Millions on Damage Control
The state hires a prominent PR firm to help rebuild its image, while a poll finds most residents don’t approve of faith-based antigay discrimination. read more

www.advocate.com/politics/2015/04/14/poll-hoosiers-reject-business-discrimination-indiana-spends-millions-damage-cont

WATCH: Fired for Refusing to Wear 'Women's Clothes,' Louisiana Trans Man Files Suit

WATCH: Fired for Refusing to Wear 'Women's Clothes,' Louisiana Trans Man Files Suit

A week into his job for First Tower Loan, Tristan Broussard says he was told to sign a form saying he would dress and act like a ‘female’ at work.

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Mitch Kellaway

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Hillary Clinton's Campaign Ad Slapped With Adults-Only Rating In Russia Because It Features Gay Couple

Hillary Clinton's Campaign Ad Slapped With Adults-Only Rating In Russia Because It Features Gay Couple
Despite plenty of statewide buzz, Hillary Clinton’s 2016 presidential campaign announcement ad isn’t going over well in Russia.

An opposition-minded independent television station, alternately identified as TV Rain or Dozhd TV, slapped the video with an “18+” age rating because it features a soon-to-be-wed gay couple holding hands, ABC and CNN are reporting.

The move, of course, is in line with Russia’s controversial “gay propaganda” laws. The legislation, which came under intense global scrutiny during the 2014 Winter Olympics in Sochi, imposes fines on those who expose gay “propaganda” to minors.

“There are no legal precedents for this law, so we just don’t know what comes under this law and [what] doesn’t,” a TV Rain spokesperson told CNN. “Therefore, fearing to break the law — especially given the high attention to TV Rain from the supervising authorities — we decided to put a marker [on the video].”

Jared Milrad and Nate Johnson, the two gay stars of the video invited Clinton to their wedding in a tweet on Monday:

Thanks for inviting us to your big day @HillaryClinton. We’re returning the favor & inviting you to ours. #wedding pic.twitter.com/paMtBFLLUW

— Jared Milrad (@JaredMilrad) April 12, 2015

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Elizabeth Taylor’s Grandkids Carry On Her Work To End AIDS

Elizabeth Taylor’s Grandkids Carry On Her Work To End AIDS

NPK001409It was our grandmother’s greatest wish to see an end to AIDS within her lifetime. Sadly, in the four years since she passed away, more than 200,000 new HIV infections have occurred within the U.S; and more than 60,000 Americans have lost their lives to HIV. Her work goes on. The shocking reality is that the majority of new infections in America are in young people, and its estimated that 50 percent are not even aware of their status. Our generation is most at risk and needs to be engaged in this conversation. Her work is now our work.

There has also been great progress in these four years: The Affordable Care Act has made health insurance available to hundreds of thousands of individuals living with HIV who were previously denied. We have seen continued advancements in treatment, and a better understanding of the epidemic.  In 2011, research proved early treatment not only extends the lives of those living with HIV, but reduces the likelihood of transmission to the uninfected by more than 96 percent.  Yet shockingly, that same year, only 37 percent of those living with HIV in the US were on treatment.

There are real solutions at hand, but we need our Congress to act: To once and for all permanently remove the ban on use of federal funds for syringe exchange, to ensure comprehensive sex education for youth, to adequately support housing for those living with HIV, and to invest in the solutions we know work.

At AIDSWatch, we will join more than 400 advocates as they raise their voices and educate Congress on the issues impacting their lives. Advocates joining us represent over 30 states and territories across the U.S, that account for more than 95 percent of the U.S. HIV epidemic, an epidemic that now infects over 1.2 million individuals, 1 in every 300 Americans.

 

Read the full joint statement from Naomi Wilding, Laela Wilding, Tarquin Wilding, Quinn Tivey and Eliza Carson, grandchildren of legendary entertainer/activist Elizabeth Taylor, here

Jeremy Kinser

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Watch LIVE: SpaceX Falcon 9 Set for Lift-off, Landing Attempt of Reusable Rocket

Watch LIVE: SpaceX Falcon 9 Set for Lift-off, Landing Attempt of Reusable Rocket

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The SpaceX rocket Falcon 9 is scheduled for lift-off at 4:10 pm EDT today. It is carrying the Dragon spacecraft with two tons of supplies headed for the International Space Station.

Once again, shortly after the launch SpaceX will attempt to successfully land the first stage of the rocket vertically on a drone barge floating in the Atlantic. Previous attempts have failed (exploding on the barge), so a good landing will be a groundbreaking moment for reusable spacecraft.

Watch, AFTER THE JUMP

Broadcast live streaming video on Ustream


Andy Towle

www.towleroad.com/2015/04/f9sx.html