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How LGBT History Can Inspire Hope, Support Health, and Even Prevent HIV

How LGBT History Can Inspire Hope, Support Health, and Even Prevent HIV
“A people deserves a history.”

That’s how Larry Kramer–Tony and Emmy-winning playwright, author, and America’s best-known HIV/AIDS activist–spoke about the just-released first volume of his two-volume novel The American People. Kramer has labored over the book for decades, fine-tuning his sometimes fanciful American history from a gay point of view.

“I want every gay person to be aware of our history,” Kramer told me, “whether or not I’ve fictionalized it.”

He added, “You should know your history. I want gay history taught in schools. And they don’t teach it.”

I interviewed Kramer in his Manhattan apartment on July 29 for the Los Angeles Review of Books and for my forthcoming book about building gay men’s resilience.

Being familiar with, and drawing inspiration from, our history as LGBT people can contribute tremendously to our personal resilience.

We are heirs of what I call “LGBT America’s heroic legacy,” the acts and words of men and women who chose to stand up for their humanity, integrity, and fully equal American citizenship–rather than accept the shame and silence they were told was their lot in life for being “different.”

They often paid a steep price: Diagnosed by psychiatrists as mentally ill because they weren’t heterosexual. Condemned by religious institutions. Disowned by families. Even left to fend for themselves in the face of a terrifying new disease called AIDS.

Before President Ronald Reagan’s health department in 1982 declared AIDS the nation’s “number one health priority,” Larry Kramer and five other gay men in New York began raising money for research and formed Gay Men’s Health Crisis (GMHC), the world’s first–and still largest–organization to advocate and care for people living with HIV/AIDS.

Nursing homes, used to caring for elderly patients, were not prepared in the early eighties (or today) to care for young men in their twenties, thirties, and forties. So gay men and their friends created from scratch a parallel network of health care and social service organizations, like GMHC, to care for their own.

Back then advocacy included arguing with ambulance drivers to take deathly sick people with AIDS–mainly gay men–to the hospital. Care meant doing errands and arranging doctor visits for clients who were terminally ill, at some stage of cancer, dementia, or pneumocystis pneumonia.

By the end of 2011, HIV/AIDS had already killed an estimated 311,087 gay and bisexual American men. Fifty-seven percent of the estimated 500,022 persons living with an HIV diagnosis at the time were gay and bisexual men.

Two-thirds of all Americans living with HIV, and newly infected each year, are still gay and bisexual men–even though we account for only an estimated two percent of the population. (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention)

Black gay and bisexual men accounted for the largest number of new infections (10,600, or 36 percent) in 2010. Among them, young black males between age 13 to 24 made up nearly half the total–a 20 percent increase from 2008.

For any of us who lived through the dark years of the 1980s–and particularly for those of us living with HIV, including myself–despair can seem a natural response to numbers like these.

They certainly make one thing very clear: America is still failing to stop the spread of HIV and is far from achieving the ‘AIDS-free generation’ envisioned by the Obama administration.

As I examine HIV prevention education aimed at gay and bisexual men for my new book, one thing is clear: to work, prevention education must go beyond PrEP and condoms. It has to address the drivers of risk behavior–the feelings and needs in our hearts and minds that compel us to engage in sex the way we do, even to attribute meaning to particular sexual acts.

Earlier prevention efforts, growing out of a desperate wish to arrest the spread of HIV as quickly as possible, were based on a “deficit” model. They told us simply “use a condom every time.” No questions asked. They assumed we couldn’t be trusted to make healthy choices based on factual information, and frequently invoked fear to douse our libidos.

Newer efforts, in contrast, draw upon what is referred to as a “strength-based” or “resilience-based” model, aimed at strengthening our confidence, pride and resilience.

Starting from a place of respect and validation, these interventions work essentially to build hope. Their premise is simple, really: Men who are hopeful about their future will naturally want to protect themselves to be here for it and healthy enough to enjoy it.

“You’ve got to give them hope,” is how Harvey Milk, America’s first openly gay elected official, put it in a 1978 speech. Milk understood that inspiring hope in a gay boy’s heart could mean the difference between a happy future–and suicide.

In this LGBT History Month, claiming as our own the powerful legacy of people like Harvey Milk and Larry Kramer, who stood up and now stand out in our history, offers a powerful source of hope and resilience, a solid foundation for HIV prevention and for good health.

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WATCH: 'Funny or Die' on How Kim Davis Met the Pope

WATCH: 'Funny or Die' on How Kim Davis Met the Pope

In case you’re wondering just how antigay Kentucky county clerk Kim Davis managed to have a private meeting with Pope Francis, the answer is that she arranged it the modern way — via Pope-Meet.com.

Well, that’s the premise of a new Funny or Die video, which depicts the non-Catholic Davis beating out people who help the poor, visit prisoners, or devote their lives to the Catholic Church for the privilege of a clandestine meeting with, as the parody version of Davis calls him, this “guy in a funny hat.”

“Davis” also tells of her habit of watching Brokeback Mountain just to yell at the gays. Watch the hilarious video below.

 

Trudy Ring

www.advocate.com/comedy/2015/10/01/watch-funny-or-die-how-kim-davis-met-pope

Watch: Gay CNN anchor asks Trump if he is homophobic

Watch: Gay CNN anchor asks Trump if he is homophobic

US presidential candidate Donald Trump on Wednesday (30 September) night was asked if is homophobic by openly CNN anchor Don Lemon.

Lemon told the Republican that he hears LGBTI people talking about him and they liked what he had to say, but they were ‘concerned.’

‘If I ask you this question, will you answer directly? Do you think that you are homophobic?’ he asked.

‘No. I think that I’m a very nice person,’ the billionaire responded, claiming he is loved ‘across the board.’

Trump then went off on a tangent about how the Tea Party and evangelicals and love him.

‘You know why? They think I’m going to do a great job for the country,’ he said.

‘The far right does like me. But you know who else likes me? Democrats like me. Liberals like me. It’s straight across the board.’

Watch the interview below:

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Darren Wee

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9 Things Introverts Can Do To Make Their Weddings Less Overwhelming

9 Things Introverts Can Do To Make Their Weddings Less Overwhelming

Weddings can be a stressful, overwhelming time for anyone, but particularly for brides and grooms who identify as introverts. 

Why? Because typically, introverts aren’t comfortable being the center of attention. They try to avoid small talk and require quiet alone time to gain energy and recharge their batteries. This, of course, poses a big challenge during the wedding chaos: all eyes are on you, your second cousin twice removed is trying to chat your ear off and you’re surrounded by people. Constantly.

So we asked experts, wedding planners and brides to share their best tips on how introverts can stay cool, calm and collected throughout the planning process and especially on the big day. Take a deep breath and find out what they had to say below: 

1. For starters, plan a wedding that suits your personality — it can be as low-key as you want it to be. 

“Remember that the only thing that absolutely, positively must happen for a wedding to be successful is that you end up married at the end of the day,” Sophia Dembling, author of Introverts in Love: The Quiet Way to Happily Ever After, tells The Huffington Post. “So you can make your wedding anything you and your betrothed want: a quiet sunset ceremony on a beach or a small backyard family gathering. Even the frou-frou, attention-grabbing dress is optional. It’s your wedding, make it an event that will bring you true joy.” 

2. Opt to do a “first look” before the ceremony. 

“For introverted brides terrified of walking down the aisle, I recommend a first look with their partner before the ceremony,” wedding planner Tracie Domino of Tracie Domino Events says. “This private time between the two of you is incredibly sweet and allows you to experience seeing each other for the first time without all of your guests staring at you. Walking down the aisle will still be incredibly special, but you will feel like you are in it together this way.” 

3. Schedule some “you” time on the big day, so you can take a breather (or two).

“Introverts need some quiet time away from social activities, so make sure to take breaks throughout the day,” self-proclaimed introvert and founder of Intimate Weddings Christina Friedrichsen tells HuffPost. “This could mean escaping to the powder room or to a quiet place in your reception area. Having some quiet one-on-one time with your sweetie during the big day can also help you recharge.”

“And don’t feel bad about doing this,” Dembling says. “If you take little breaks, you’ll be able to keep going longer, without getting cranky.” 

4. It may sound like just one more thing on your already busy schedule, but consider planning a casual pre-wedding get-together with family and friends.

“This will sound counter-intuitive, but try to organize an event or informal gathering the day before the wedding so that you can see as many people as possible in advance,” Fusion anchor and recent bride Alicia Menendez says. “People are there to see and celebrate you and your partner, and if you maximize their opportunities to do that, it actually lowers the pressure on the big day.” 

5. Consider having a smaller bridal party. 

“Big bridal parties often lead to bigger problems,” Domino says. “From trying to find a dress that will fit everyone to one of your girls complaining that her hair appointment is too early, the less opinions the introverted bride has to deal with the better.”

“Keep your getting-ready squad as small as possible,” Menendez adds. “You’ll want and need that calm, quiet time before things really kick off.”

6. Limit the amount of input you’re getting from well-meaning friends and family — you’re the decision maker here! 

“If you involve mom and grandma and Aunt Jane and his mom and grandma and Aunt Jane too, while also getting ideas from friends and coworkers, you’ll be begging for head space before you know it,” Dr. Laurie Helgoe, psychologist and author of Introvert Power, says. “Introverts are good at listening and really thinking about what others say. When the ‘others’  become too many, there’s no room left for your own thoughts. Be selective.”

7. Skip the sweetheart table at the reception.

“Introverted brides tend to love the idea of a feasting table — where the bride and groom sit with the bridal party and their dates,” Domino recommends. “With this option, the bride and groom don’t feel as much like they are onstage and more like they are having a dinner party within the wedding reception with their closest friends.”

8. If you’re marrying an extrovert, let your partner do the talking.

“If your spouse-to-be is less introverted than you, let him or her take on more of a social role in the wedding,” Friedrichsen suggests. “This might mean he is the one that makes small talk with guests and thanks everyone for coming out. Also, your wedding attendants are great allies for fielding requests, making introductions and organizing people, which are all things introverts generally find difficult. A day-of coordinator or wedding planner can also help you deal with vendors, so you don’t have to.”

9. Make sure you have plenty of time to chill before and after the wedding. 

“Make a point of giving yourself at least a day of serious downtime before everything gets going so you can store up some energy,” Dembling says. “Then, if you don’t head out for your honeymoon right away, take another day or two after the last guest heads home to regroup and rest up. If you do leave for your honeymoon right away, try to schedule a few quiet days at the beginning to rest up before any sightseeing or other action.”

Remember: This may be the only time in your life that you will be surrounded by this many friends and family on both sides.

“Don’t fight it,” Dembling says. “Try to soak in the goodness of it. If anything is worth the effort, this is it. You can rest later.”

And who knows, it may turn out to be much easier and much more wonderful than you ever anticipated. 

“Here’s what I was not expecting,” Menendez says. “At some point, gratitude takes over and you are genuinely happy to be surrounded by so many people who you love and who love you.”

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Jennifer Grey says Oscar winning dad is ‘a lot more gay’ since coming out publicly

Jennifer Grey says Oscar winning dad is ‘a lot more gay’ since coming out publicly

A lot of people were happy for 83-year-old Joel Grey when he decided to publicly come out as a gay man earlier this year.

Bujt according to the Oscar winner’s daughter, Dirty Dancing star Jennifer Grey, there’s no one happier than her father himself.

‘He’s a lot more gay! she joked this week at the premiere of her new series Red Oaks. ‘The truth is, he’s a lot happier. He feels very light, his energy feels light and joyful.It feels like there’s just more of a skip in his step. And it just feels like he’s alive.’

She added: ‘When he came out, I was so thrilled for him and for anybody who is able to fully be themselves without having any secrets and without having to make any excuses and without having any loss of self-esteem, and just declare, this is who I am.’

Joel Grey won the Oscar and Tony for playing the Master of Ceremonies in Cabaret on Broadway and in the 1972 film version. He was married to actress Jo Wilder for 24 years and are the parents of Jennifer and son James Grey,who is a chef. They divorced in 1982.

He was at the Red Oaks event in support of his daughter and said of life since coming out:
‘No different! I’m the same guy. I’m pretty happy.’

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Greg Hernandez

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Chris Pratt’s Bushy New Beard Makes Him Sexier Than Ever; James Franco Considers Becoming A Woman

Chris Pratt’s Bushy New Beard Makes Him Sexier Than Ever; James Franco Considers Becoming A Woman

Sean Hayes and hubby Scott Icenogle are it again, lip-syncing to “BurnItUp!” the hot new single from Janet, Miss Jackson if you’re nasty.

 

“BURNITUP!” by Janet Jackson feat. Missy Elliott (S&S Lip-Sync). Go ahead…lip-sync, if you’re nasty.

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In what might be his most revealing interview yet, the always unpredictable James Franco conducts a chat with his female alter ego, who at one point tells him, “Cut your dick off and call yourself a woman.”

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Last month we speculated that that dinner party Barbra Streisand hosted at her Malibu mansion for John Travolta and Lady Gaga signified they might be chatting about joining the superstar in her long-awaited remake of Gypsy. It seems we were right. JT just revealed that’s the cast Babs has in mind.

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Today marks 80 years that the greatly talented and much-loved Julie Andrews has been delighting people of earth. Check out a clip from her most famous role as Maria in The Sound of Music, when the Mother Superior calls her a shockingly rude name.

Yesterday was the 60th anniversary of the death of James Dean and fans around the world celebrated, even actor Maxwell Caulfield who visited Fairmount, Indiana, where the late actor was raised, and even helped dedicated a memorial monument at his birthplace in nearby Marion, Indiana.

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If you need prove you can’t keep a former child pageant queen from the South down for long, Honey Boo Boo has released a music video. If you can translate what the hell she’s singing rapping mumbling, let us know. On second thought, please don’t.

In Logo’s new series Beautiful As I Want To Be, gorgeous supermodel Geena Rocero, who just happens to be transgender, will help trans* youth explore how they define beauty and identity. Interesting fact: The production featured a crew of almost all transgender entertainment professionals.

Let’s face it, we’d still think Chris Platt was a sexy guy if he worked for Kim Davis, but this bushy new beard he’s sporting for a film opposite Jennifer Lawrence has made him

Jeremy Kinser

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Nick Jonas Says He’s Not Intentionally Queerbaiting You

Nick Jonas Says He’s Not Intentionally Queerbaiting You

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Last week we learned that Nick Jonas’ character on Ryan Murphy’s soapy horror show Scream Queens is gay. It’s the second gay role for Jonas, following his turn as a closeted boxer in the MMA drama Kingdom.

Jonas, who has spoken of his love for his LGBT fans and has been accused of queerbaiting in the past, told USA Today his decision to play a role is “not based on whether the character is gay or straight” but instead focuses on “what the story is and what the audience is going to get out of it.” He added:

“In the case of Scream Queens, there’s comedy within the role and I think at its core it really is a social commentary about stereotypes and breaking down some of those barriers. Ryan Murphy obviously does that so well.”

RELATED: Yes, Nick Jonas Is (Sort of) Queerbaiting His Gay Fans. So What?

On the choice to play gay in Kingdom, Jonas remarked:

“With ‘Kingdom’, my character is going through a really different journey where he’s struggling with who he is. I think that’s a highly relatable story line that a lot of my fans, both gay and straight, have come and told me that that’s been incredibly important for them: to see the journey he’s on and to know they’re not alone, whatever it is that they’re going through in their life that makes them feel different or strange. There’s real peace and a community and a story being told that feels honest and grounded.”

We look forward to see what else Jonas’ gay roles have to yield.

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Sean Mandell

Nick Jonas Says He’s Not Intentionally Queerbaiting You

Oregon's Bisexual Governor on 'Heartbreaking' School Shooting

Oregon's Bisexual Governor on 'Heartbreaking' School Shooting

At least 13 people have died after a gunman opened fire on the campus of Umpqua Community College in southwest Oregon at 10:38 a.m. local time today, injuring as many as 20 other people, reports the Associated Press

Douglas County Sheriff John Hanlin told reporters the gunman was killed while exchanging gunfire with law enforcement officials, according to NBC News. Police are currently investigating social media posts the suspect allegedly made Wednesday night that may have indicated his plans, notes CNN.

In a short address to media this afternoon, Oregon Gov. Kate Brown announced that the gunman was a 20-year-old male but declined to offer additional details about the shooter’s identity or possible connection to the school, according to the AP

“Today is heartbreaking for Umpqua Community College, the greater Roseburg community, and all of Oregon,” Gov. Brown said in a statement before she addressed the media. “My heart is heavy as details of today’s shooting become available. While it is still too early to know all of the facts, the effects of an incident such as this one are long-lasting. Please join me in keeping the victims and their families, as well as first responders, in your thoughts.”

Law enforcement officials speaking with reporters outside the two-year school located 180 miles south of Portland acknowledged that Umpqua Community College was a self-described “gun-free campus,” with a policy in place informing its roughly 3,300 full-time students that firearms were forbidden on the campus. However, the AP notes that the grounds are currently protected by a single security guard who does not carry a gun, despite recent conversations within the school community about strengthening security before the fatal attack. 

Shortly after Brown was sworn in as governor in February, making her the first openly LGBT governor in American history, she signed into law a stringent gun-control bill that requires universal background checks on all private gun sales. 

At press time, it was unknown how, when, or where the gunman acquired his weapon, and whether he did so legally.  

Sunnivie Brydum

www.advocate.com/crime/2015/10/01/oregons-bisexual-governor-heartbreaking-school-shooting

Jennifer Finney Boylan Talks Transgender Equality and Honored By GLAD (AUDIO)

Jennifer Finney Boylan Talks Transgender Equality and Honored By GLAD (AUDIO)
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I talked with Jennifer Finney Boylan, the first best-selling transgender author in the U.S. whose writings, teachings and activism have significantly illuminated and articulated the transgender experience. Jennifer is being honored by GLAD (Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders) with the Spirit of Justice Award on October 16th at Boston Marriott Copley Place in Boston, Massachusetts. Jennifer Finney Boylan is the author of the best-selling memoir She’s Not There: A Life in Two Genders and a contributing opinion writer for The New York Times. A novelist, memoirist and short story writer, she is also a nationally known advocate for transgender rights. She sits on the board of trustees of the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender and Reproduction as well as serving as the National co-chair of the board of GLAAD, the LGBT media monitoring organization. Recently Jennifer had an ongoing role on the groundbreaking E TV Network Reality Show I Am Cait and serves as a consultant on the Amazon Emmy and Golden Globe award winning show Transparent. I talked to Jennifer about being honored by GLAD with their Spirit of Justice Award and her spin on our LGBT issues.
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When asked what her personal commitment is to LGBT civil rights Boylan stated:

It’s what I’ve given my life to. After raising my children and being married to my wife I feel like LGBT rights are achieving the goal of a fair world. Especially for transgender people, it’s the mission that I have undertaken. Look, things went relatively well for me here in this little state of Maine in my town of Belgrade Lakes. I didn’t lose my family, I didn’t lose my job and I was able in fact to publish a book about it and tell that story and tell it the way I wanted it told. My experience especially in the first decade of this century may well have been atypical. The stories we tend to hear of transgender people are often the other kinds of stories. Particularly when we talk about transgender people of color, we’re talking about people who are on the receiving end of violence, who are likely to be homeless. All across our community you hear stories of people who have suffered loses and abuse of one kind or another and it’s intolerable and it has to stop. So I’m hoping to use my power as a storyteller to bring about that end. It can be a frustrating end and discouraging fight sometimes because there’s so much work to do and there’s so much hatred out there; but in my own experience there’s also love and understanding as well and what I would hope is true for me can be true for everyone.

Jennifer Finney Boylan is currently the Anna Quindlen Writer in Residence at Barnard College of Columbia University. Before coming to Barnard she was Professor of English for 25 years at Colby College in Maine. As an advocate for transgender equality she has addressed the National Press Club, been the keynote or plenary speaker at gender conventions nationwide and spoken on hundreds of college campuses including Harvard, Yale, Cornell, Columbia, Barnard, Wesleyan, Amherst, Duke and Dartmouth. Jennifer Finney Boylan will accept the Award at the 16th Annual Spirit of Justice Award Dinner at the Boston Marriott Copley Place at 110 Huntington Avenue in Boston, Massachusetts on October 16th and then on Saturday, October 17th a Reading and Conversation with Jennifer Finney Boylan will take place at Danger! Awesome Event Space at 645 Massachusetts Ave at 11A in Cambridge, MA.
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REVIEW: Jefta van Dinther – Platform Theatre, London

REVIEW: Jefta van Dinther – Platform Theatre, London

This is an ambitious project from Swedish choreographer Jefta van Dinther.

His latest work, As It Opens Outplays with scale, dimension and time – blurring boundaries and confusing the senses.

Van Dinther has created a technically impressive work – effectively using combinations of light, sound, and voice to create a context for the physicality of the dance and movement.

While there were some moments that really shone, overall this piece lacked the narrative or points of focus needed for it to be really engaging.

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Gareth Johnson

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