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Former “Ex-Gay” Activist Marries A Man And Finally Finds His Happily Ever After

Former “Ex-Gay” Activist Marries A Man And Finally Finds His Happily Ever After

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Smid and his husband, Larry McQueen, pose with their marriage certificate.

John Smid, who once claimed to have been “cured” of homosexuality and who worked with various “ex-gay” groups, is once again a married man. Only this time, he didn’t marry a woman. He and his partner, Larry McQueen, announced they tied the knot last weekend.

In 1980, Smid left his wife to be with guys, but he had misgivings and tried to go straight again by marrying a second woman and becoming a leading spokesman for conversion therapy. He ran Love In Action, an ex-gay ministry based in Memphis, and sat on the board of Exodus International for 11 years.

In 2011, he went ex-ex-gay, divorcing his second wife and admitting he “never met a man who experienced a change from homosexual to heterosexual.” He apologized for his past actions and launched a new ministry, Grace Rivers, which caters to the gay community.

“I believe that due to my former notoriety, my marriage will definitely have its impact,” he just told Towleroad in an interview.

He says he hopes it will encourage other self-proclaimed “ex-gays” to learn to accept who they are and lead more open and truthful lives.

“I believe it is encouraging for other former ex-gays, and maybe even those who are still trying to hold on to their ex-gay belief system,” he said. “We think our relationship reveals something very normal, not strange or deceptive gay stereotypes. We have come to realize that our marriage is very much the same as your average heterosexual marriage.”

When asked if there have been any people within the LGBT community who have given him grief over marrying a man, Smid replied: “No actually, I think that’s been worked out, but you never know, there may be some.”

Congrats to the happy new couple.

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Ex-Ex-Gays: Meet The People Who Tried To “Cure” You

Graham Gremore is a columnist and contributor for Queerty and Life of the Law. Follow him on Facebook and Twitter.

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Eli Lieb Wants You To Know You're 'Lightning In A Bottle' – VIDEO

Eli Lieb Wants You To Know You're 'Lightning In A Bottle' – VIDEO

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Out singer-songwriter Eli Lieb is back with another original song, “Lightning in a Bottle,” about believing in the power of your own unbridled spirit. Lieb told Out Magazine

“I want people to see the music video, hear the song, really listen to the lyrics, and live their truth. This is a celebration of people. I’ve lived promoting the idea of the authentic self and not to be afraid of who you are. It’s proven to be one of the key elements of my life and career. The song is about that: about being who you are.”

The music video for Lieb’s latest song, which just dropped today, features Shangela from RuPaul’s Drag Race, and professional dancers Jenna Riegel (Bill T. Jones/Arnie Zane Dance Company) and Caitlin Scranton (The Lucinda Dance Company). Lieb hopes this video will inspire people to be their truest selves: “It’s a feel-good video. I want people to be their brightest light.”

Watch the rousing video, AFTER THE JUMP…

And ICYMI, be sure to check out Lieb’s previous videos for “Zeppelin,” “Safe in My Hands,” “Young Love,” and a cover of P!nk’s “Try.”

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Sean Mandell

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Honoring Harvey Milk's Legacy in Europe

Honoring Harvey Milk's Legacy in Europe
Harvey Milk did something that few people ever do — he started a movement that changed the nation. His legacy lives on through the great work being done by his nephew, Stuart Milk, who accepted the Presidential Medal of Freedom on Harvey’s behalf posthumously in 2009, the same year that I humbly received the same award for my work with Susan G. Komen. Meeting Stuart that day changed my life, and gave me a new cause to pursue — achieving equal rights for the LGBT community in our nation and across the world.

Last month, I was extremely pleased to join the U.S. Embassy in Budapest to honor both the legacy of Harvey Milk and the incredible work that the Harvey Milk Foundation is doing to promote LGBT inclusion and acceptance across the globe. I did so not just as a former U.S. Ambassador, but as a proud American who believes in inclusion and not exclusion.

It is an honor to serve in a leadership advisory role and stand with the incredible Harvey Milk Foundation that is supporting LGBT visibility on all corners of the globe, doing so with a strong grace and successful efficacy. It is imperative to raise awareness about the LGBT community around the world, and the only way to do that is to educate those around us, everywhere we go.

One of the late Harvey Milk’s core messages was visibility. When I promised my sister, Susan G. Komen, that I’d do everything I could to stop the heartless progression and social stigma of this disease, the word “breast cancer” wasn’t even fit for polite conversation, let alone a national discussion. Slowly but surely, we changed that through visibility. And while the LGBT community has made enormous strides in the U.S. there still is significant work ahead at home and abroad.

36 years ago, Harvey Milk said:

You must come out. Come out… to your parents… I know that it is hard and will hurt them but think about how they will hurt you in the voting booth! Come out to your relatives… come out to your friends… if indeed they are your friends. Come out to your neighbors… to your fellow workers… to the people who work where you eat and shop… come out only to the people you know, and who know you. Not to anyone else. But once and for all, break down the myths, destroy the lies and distortions.

Today, we are seeing the incredible impact of those words. Just recently, Apple CEO Tim Cook announced publicly that he was gay. He did so because he believed that sharing his story with the world could “help someone struggling to come to terms with who he or she is, or bring comfort to anyone who feels alone.” He couldn’t be more right, and by coming out to the world, he paved the way for many others to be honest with their friends, their family and their peers about who they really are, and for them to be accepted with open arms by all.

The Harvey Milk Foundation is doing terrific work in helping people like Mr. Cook feel comfortable about being who they are by coming out to their friends and family. Recently, the Foundation helped establish the annual Harvey Milk Day in California. They were also successful in working with the United States Postal Service to issue a Harvey Milk stamp, which will go a long way in educating our nation about the decades-long effort to bring about real change for the LGBT community.

Today 65 percent of Americans say being gay is just the way some people are, not something people choose to be and they should be accepted and have equal rights. These are remarkable statistics because gay people like Tim Cook had the courage to be honest with themselves and their families. This turnaround is also due to the education work being done by the Milk Foundation and the other LGBT civil society organizations that move the LGBT community towards greater acceptance and equality every day. But the work is far from over – just last week a federal appeals court upheld gay marriage bans in four states. We must double our efforts to ensure that every American can spend their life with the person they love.

And although I have long supported LGBT visibility in everything I have done, it is personal for me. Not only because of dear friends who are members of the LGBT community but because one of the most important and inspiring people in my life, my son, is a proud and wonderful gay man. I could not be more proud of my son Eric, and am so pleased that he was able to join me in Hungary as we work for equality for the LGBT community in central Europe and across the globe.

There is much more to be done to ensure that the LGBT community is endowed with the same rights as all humans across the globe. But what I saw in Hungary last month gives me hope. People like Tim Cook give me hope. And my own son, who works tirelessly for the cause, helps me believe that we will someday bring about real change in the world for justice for all.

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Michael Sam Retires, Says There Are Closeted Players In Every Sport

Michael Sam Retires, Says There Are Closeted Players In Every Sport

2014 NFL CombineIt has been 18 exhilarating months since I came out in Sports Illustrated as the first openly gay man in one of the four major professional team sports. And it has been nine months since I signed with the Nets and became the first openly gay male athlete to appear in a game in one of those leagues. It feels wonderful to have been part of these milestones for sports and for gay rights, and to have been embraced by the public, the coaches, the players, the league and history.

On Wednesday at the Barclays Center, I plan to announce my retirement as an NBA player. …

… There are still no publicly gay players in the NFL, NHL or major league baseball. Believe me: They exist. Every pro sport has them. I know some of them personally. When we get to the point where a gay pro athlete is no longer forced to live in fear that he’ll be shunned by teammates or outed by tabloids, when we get to the point where he plays while his significant other waits in the family room, when we get to the point where he’s not compelled to hide his true self and is able to live an authentic life, then coming out won’t be such a big deal. But we’re not there yet.”

 

38-year-old Michael Sam, recently named one of GQ‘s Men of the Year, and the first openly gay NFL draft, announcing his retirement in a column he wrote for Sports Illustrated

Jeremy Kinser

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Houston Restaurant Apologized to Customer Who Complained About Their 'Faggot' Waiter: VIDEO

Houston Restaurant Apologized to Customer Who Complained About Their 'Faggot' Waiter: VIDEO

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A former waiter at Kelley’s Country Cookin’, a Houston restaurant, is speaking out about a disgusting incident that occurred during a shift he was working last week, ABC13 reports:

Blake Butler, 19, was a server at Kelley’s Country Cookin’ in Meadows Place up until last Wednesday when he says a fellow server got a note on the top of the receipt from two customers. It was about him and read “Don’t want to listen to a (faggot) through my whole meal.”

“I just thought it was disgusting,” said Butler. Butler says it was offensive but just as offensive was how the manager reacted. 

“Instead of having my back and be like, you know, ‘That’s my employee. I can’t have you talking about my employees like that.’ She was like, ‘Oh. It’s OK. I’m sorry,'” Butler said.

Butler also says that he came out to his parents because he didn’t want them to find out after hearing about it on the news.

Watch the report, AFTER THE JUMP

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Andy Towle

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Bette Midler on Girls, Gays, and the 'Love That Won't Shut the F— Up'

Bette Midler on Girls, Gays, and the 'Love That Won't Shut the F— Up'

The Divine Miss M dishes on her new album, It’s the Girls, and her joy watching the gay rights movement transform from the love that dare not speak its name to ‘the love that won’t shut the fuck up.’

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Jase Peeples

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First Same-Sex Marriage Licenses Issued In South Carolina

First Same-Sex Marriage Licenses Issued In South Carolina
CHARLESTON, S.C. (AP) — A judge has issued the first same-sex marriage licenses in South Carolina, ahead of a planned move by the state’s attorney general to block such unions.

Early Wednesday, the office of Probate Judge Irvin Condon in Charleston said that he had issued six licenses to same-sex couples.

The judge’s attorney, John Nichols, says the way was cleared for issuing the licenses by a decision in a case in Columbia. On Tuesday, the judge in that case ruled that South Carolina must recognize the marriage of a same-sex couple performed in Washington, D.C.

Last month, the South Carolina Supreme Court told probate judges not to issue any marriage licenses until there was a decision in that case. Nichols says Tuesday’s ruling was that decision, so Condon is issuing licenses.

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