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Pray the Shade Away

Pray the Shade Away
Few things are worse — like natural disasters or emails typed in Comic Sans — than facing the reality that many feel inclined to corroborate the stereotypes bore by society. Especially in our media-inundated age and the ubiquity of social media apps utilized to amplify the monotony of daily life. Look, I’m quite open about my status as a pariah of the NYC gay community. I don’t listen to country pop amalgamation sensation Taylor Swift and the only time I’ve uttered ‘YAAASSS’ was when I got my tax return because I could finally afford a dinner that wasn’t a rogue M&M found at the bottom of my tote bag. I want to make it abundantly clear that there is nothing wrong with idolizing female pop icons (I totally have a slew of Beyoncé on my iPod), I’m just saying that my heroes are Joan Jett and Iggy Pop. However, it’s unequivocally clear that these stereotypes have festered into unspoken axioms that govern the NYC gay scene.

I can’t help but feel the gaze of disapproval or judgment because I’m not wearing a v-neck that’s so deep it has its own TED Talk or an exposed jock strap. For someone who has went from an 11-inch platinum blonde mohawk a la John Sex to black slicked-back greaser hair, going to get a drink at a gay nightclub in NYC is like trying to steal a coveted artifact from a museum in the middle of the night. Dodging those meticulously placed lasers is not too different than avoiding the smug glares shot at you from other gay men. As soon as you walk in or go to the bar it’s inevitable that you’re going to get classified, and it makes me want to stop, drop and roll after I get my drink.

It’s no secret that smartphone apps and astrological compatibility fuel dating in NYC. I’m aware that the image we cultivate on the digital landscape yields social expectations when we’re faced with the possibility of human interaction, but at the end of the day I’m just looking to enjoy someone else’s company who thinks I’m cool. Seriously, if the guy I like tells me I look cute I’ll jump so high from joy I’ll get a concussion from hitting my head on a satellite. However, the combination of social pressure born from stereotype and digital identity, along with living in a city where many romantic connections are bred from dating apps yield ambiguous boundaries and makes it difficult to foster a deep, genuine connection. And the criteria the gay scene evaluates each other on makes it that much more difficult to seek a healthy, happy relationship.

We as a community perpetually fight injustice, prejudice, and bullying everyday, yet fail to recognize the flagrant display of antipathy amongst us. There is way too much focus being placed on who you are, what you’re wearing, and how much money you have; too much energy wasted throwing shade. Let’s use that energy to promote compassion, strengthen our bond as a community, and pray the shade away.

www.huffingtonpost.com/greg-mania/pray-the-shade-away_b_5797740.html?utm_hp_ref=gay-voices&ir=Gay+Voices

Sam Smith Teams Up With A$AP Rocky For 'I'm Not The Only One': LISTEN

Sam Smith Teams Up With A$AP Rocky For 'I'm Not The Only One': LISTEN

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Openly gay crooner Sam Smith has been on a tear this summer with his wildly popular unrequited-love-themed-album In the Lonely Hour. Now he has teamed with A$AP Rocky for a new version of single “I’m Not the Only One.”

The rapper, who also enjoyed a successful debut after receiving a Grammy nomination this year, has spoken openly about his support for LGBT equality. He also had the misfortune of engaging in an extremely awkward, homophobic-seeming award show introduction with out NBA player Jason Collins (for which he later apologized).

These two make a wonderful odd couple pairing, then–and we think to great effect! 

Take a listen, AFTER THE JUMP…


Joseph Ehrman-Dupre

www.towleroad.com/2014/09/sam-smith-teams-up-with-aap-rocky-for-im-not-the-only-one-listen.html

15 Song Lyrics That Define Being Gay and Single

15 Song Lyrics That Define Being Gay and Single
“I’ve got all my life to live/ I’ve got all my love to give/ And I’ll survive/ I will survive!/ Hey/ Hey”

Gloria Gaynor’s “I Will Survive” remains one of the quintessential dating songs, as well as perhaps the most iconic gay anthem of all time, and is it any wonder? Its theme of survival in the face of heartbreak — or other insurmountable odds — rings universally true, but especially so for the gays. That disco crescendo doesn’t hurt either because empowerment is always better when you can throw in a twirl.

Speaking from experience, dating is terrible. I can’t speak for the straights, but as a gay there seems to be nothing but an endless parade of disappointment, sadness and frustration culminating in one big old “fuck this.” So what to do when dating’s got you on the ropes?

I’ve tried everything from drinking heavily to therapy to drinking heavily again to quitting hookup apps, but the only thing that ever seems to help is belting out a song about how awesome you are and how awful men are. So from hookups to heartbreak, here are 15 song lyrics that perfectly encapsulate gay single life:

So you log onto Grindr…

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Vanity 6, “Nasty Girl”

Or Scruff…

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Diana Ross, “Muscles”

Then maybe head to the bar for last call for something… anything…

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Christina Aguilera, “Your Body”

You find Mr. Right… or maybe Mr. Right Now…

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Cece Peniston, “Finally”

You hope it’s more than a one-night stand…

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Sam Smith, “Stay with Me”

But you never hear from him again…

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Macy Gray, “Why Didn’t You Call Me?”

So you resolve to be the dumper, not the dumpee…

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Britney Spears, “Oops! I Did It Again”

And so, determined again, you go out to the club…

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Robyn, “Dancing on My Own”

But finding nothing or no one, you head home…

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The Smiths, “How Soon Is Now?”

Pop an Ambien and hug yourself to sleep…

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Janet Jackson, “I Get Lonely”

But you’ll be fine…

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Madonna, “You’ll See”

Because you know what you want…

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Whitney Houston, “I Wanna Dance with Somebody”

And you’re not afraid to go after it…

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Paula Abdul, “Straight Up”

He’s out there…

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Liza Minnelli, “Maybe This Time”

But if all else fails…

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Peaches, “Fuck the Pain Away”

GIFs: Les Fabian Brathwaite

www.huffingtonpost.com/lester-brathwaite/gay-and-single_b_5792332.html?utm_hp_ref=gay-voices&ir=Gay+Voices

The Supreme Court Could Take Up a Marriage Equality Case (or Cases) In Less Than a Month (UPDATE)

The Supreme Court Could Take Up a Marriage Equality Case (or Cases) In Less Than a Month (UPDATE)

To date, four federal circuit court rulings in cases from five states have been appealed to the Supreme Court of the United States
HRC.org

www.hrc.org/blog/entry/the-supreme-court-could-take-up-a-marriage-equality-case-or-cases-in-less-t?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss-feed