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Queer Dance Party Comes Under Fire For Racist Theme And Imagery: VIDEO

Queer Dance Party Comes Under Fire For Racist Theme And Imagery: VIDEO

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Rayne Baron, better known by her club name Ladyfag, has made a name for herself with her extravagant raves, and underground fetes that have drawn the likes of Alexander Wang and Miley Cyrus.

Every month in New York City Baron hosts Holy Mountain, a massive, queer dance party themed after Alejandro Jodorowsky’s cult classic of the same name. The aesthetic specifics of each party vary from month to month but this month’s party in particular is coming under fire for being particularly offensive.

The party, which Baron describes as a celebration of Sakura Matsuri (the cherry blossom festival), is set to have a generally “Asian” theme. Everything from the party’s promotional posters to its pseudo art house teaser video is overlaid with stereotypical, racist imagery that has little to nothing to do with cherry blossoms.

What’s more–Baron has encouraged party goers to dress up as geishas and ninjas. Unsurprisingly, the event’s got a number of people offended.

As Phil Yu writes for Angry Asian Man, people have been taking to Baron’s personal Facebook page and the page for the event to point out just how problematic the theme is. In response Baron’s taken to deleting comments and further insisting that the party’s meant to be a celebration of Japanese tradition.

In the few days since Baron first began promoting this month’s Holy Mountain–which is set to take place tonight–the party’s Facebook page appear have to been taken down. Whether the party is still on is unclear, but if you plan(ned) on going let us know in the comments.

Watch the controversial Holy Mountain teaser, AFTER THE JUMP

(h/t Angry Asian Man)

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Holy Mountain – Journey VIII from Ladyfag on Vimeo.

 

 


Charles Pulliam-Moore

www.towleroad.com/2015/04/queer-dance-party-comes-under-fire-for-racist-theme-and-imagery.html

Gay Iconography: Michael Sam’s Historic Year

Gay Iconography: Michael Sam’s Historic Year

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It’s been almost one year since Michael Sam became the first openly gay player drafted by the NFL. The historic moment, punctuated by a televised celebratory smooch with Sam’s now-fiancé Vito Cammisano, established Sam not only as an athlete on the rise, but an icon in the making.

From stadiums to sit-downs with Oprah, Sam’s impact has been felt on and off the field. The seventh of eight children, he persevered through tragedy. He lost two siblings, watching one die from a gunshot wound, while two of his other siblings are in prison. He became the first member of his family to attend college when he was offered a football scholarship from the University of Missouri. He came out to his coaches and teammates, but then came out publicly ahead of the NFL via The New York Times in 2014, creating a media storm around his opportunity to make history. Even First Lady Michelle Obama shared her excitement.

Even though a poll at the time said 86 percent of polled NFL players would welcome an openly gay teammate, Sam did face his fair share of backlash and criticism. He was drafted by the St. Louis Rams in the seventh round, making his professional debut in August of 2014, but was released from the team later that month. Just two days later, the Dallas Cowboys added Sam to their practice team, but they would waive him the following October.

Despite these setbacks, Sam has continued to be a magazine coverboy and media darling. See some of our favorite Michael Sam moments, AFTER THE JUMP

 

Sam’s first big exposure came with his public coming out in February 2014. He gave an extended interview to The New York Times (which you can see some of in the clip above). “I don’t think I should be defined as Michael Sam, the gay athlete, the gay football player. I want to be defined Michael Sam for being a great person and having great character,” he said. “I want to be a football player. I want to be playing in the NFL … I may be the first, but I won’t be the last. and I think only good things are going to come from this.” In an interview late last year, he told GQ he regretted the way he came out, suggesting his public announcement hurt his position in the draft. “If I had it my way, I never would have done it the way I did.”

 

If Sam’s coming out made waves, his televised kiss with his boyfriend caused a tidal wave. The kiss aired live on ESPN, punctuating his historic draft pick with one of the greatest LGBT television milestones in history. Of course, it also drew the ire of conservative viewers, whose hackles were raised with the usual “Won’t anyone please think of the children?” rhetoric. The reaction to the kiss underscored the persistent discomfort audiences have with the LGBT community, despite advancements in equality. A poll following the broadcast of the kiss revealed that although 60 percent of Americans would approve of an openly-gay athlete on their favorite team, a majority said they felt it was inappropriate for the kiss to be aired. (This video hilariously addresses that discomfort while calling out the hypocrisy of sports fans supporting other athletes with much more morally questionable behavior.)

 

Part of what makes Sam such a powerful figure is his understanding of the responsibility he has as a trailblazer. For example, check out the emotional speech he gave (above) when he was awarded the Arthur Ashe Courage Award. In it he says: “Arthur Ashe said, ‘Do what you can.’ Those have been very meaningful words to me. The way I see it, my responsibility at this moment in history is to stand up for everybody out there who wants nothing more than to be themselves openly. Recently, a friend asked me to talk to his sister, a young woman who was considering killing herself rather than accepting and sharing with her loved ones the fact that she’s gay. When we spoke, she told me she would never consider hurting herself and that somehow my example helped her. It’s amazing to think that, by just doing what we can, we can all touch, change and even save lives.”

Not all of the media attention has been positive, of course. One of the most egregious examples was an ESPN report on Sam’s shower habits, further fueling the paranoia about gays in the locker room. Even when he’s been faced with ignorance or downright hate, Sam has responded with grace, wit and humility. His fans and community have also come to his side. When the vile Westboro Baptist Church attempted to boycott his return to his alma mater to accept the 2014 Cotton Bowl Championship trophy, a massive counter-protest shut them out and greeted Sam with a standing ovation inside the stadium.

 

Recently, Sam competed on the current season of Dancing With the Stars. Although he was eliminated in the fourth week, he and partner Peta Murgatroyd performed an emotional rumba that told the story of Sam’s father’s struggle to accept his sexuality.

What is your favorite Michael Sam moment?


Bobby Hankinson

www.towleroad.com/2015/04/gay-iconography-michael-sams-historic-year.html

Why I'm Unsubscribing From Ageism in the Gay Community

Why I'm Unsubscribing From Ageism in the Gay Community
There’s a saying that goes: the older a person gets, the less she or he cares about life’s small worries. For me, I’ve found that this is mostly true. Sure, the obvious things still terrify me like being trampled to death while reaching for a sample in Costco or being ravaged by horrible bees at gay pride, too drunk to escape their stings. Everyone has these fears.

Another thing I’ve stopped worrying about as I get older, is that I’m not worried anymore about getting older. I still take the typical precautions such as working out frequently and rubbing stem cell cream I’ve illegally acquired from South Korea on my smile lines.

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I have gray hairs that began to sprout years ago along with a couple of stray hairs on my shoulders and back. Five years ago, I would have nearly died seeing these, but I’ve since stopped caring. In fact, I think that my boyfriend’s salt and pepper hair is sexy, so maybe mine will be, too.

Unfortunately, almost every time I go out in the gayborhood, I experience some form of ageism. Most of it is self-deprecating, like a white-haired man in an Abercrombie polo shirt telling me how tens of thousands of years ago — when he claims that he was born — people didn’t have cellphones. I smile and explain that I, too, recall those days. Wide-eyed, he immediately asks, “Wait, how old are you?”

On the contrary, I have younger friends who called me an “Old Queen” the moment I turned 30. My Facebook feed filled with posts about my expiration date and the stench of my old man body wreaking havoc on Fifth Avenue.

I took these comments in stride that day, as age shouldn’t matter — because it doesn’t. I’ve met imbeciles both youthful and aged and wonderful friends 30-plus years my senior. However, I feel as though today’s culture magnifies our expectations of age. Madonna gets ragged on for kissing men younger than her, while pop singer Lorde gets applause for being a teenager. Guys at the bar scoff when their buddy dates someone 10 years younger than him. They chastise him for “robbing the cradle” and turn cold shoulders to his new boyfriend.

I don’t get it. Why are we placing any eggs in the age basket? Especially since many of us — if we’re lucky — will live into our 80s and 90s. It’s the 21st century, and the only things truly dated about us are our idealisms. It doesn’t matter if we’re brown, black, white, blonde, silver, brunette, gay, straight, bisexual, transgender, cisgender, intersex — you get it. All of our clocks are ticking, and there’s no amount of negative, angst-filled forum rebuffs to this post that will ever stop that.

Honestly, I’m excited about the day that I’ve worked enough years to retire. Why shouldn’t I be? My retired mother has tons of free time to enjoy water aerobics, playing with her grandkids, and watching baby animal videos on Facebook.

If ageism continues as it is, I’ve decided to retire in the lovely heat of Palm Springs where I can safely unsubscribe from society’s ageist pressure. There, I plan to wear denim shorts that reveal my leathery thighs, buy drinks with my government subsidies, and no one around me will give a crap about it. If the pool boy calls me an “Old Queen” as I stare at his tanned body in a tight black Speedo, I’ll smile and say: “Yes, darling, I am an Old Queen and I’m wondering why you aren’t kneeling.”

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Opposition to Houston’s Equal Rights Ordinance Fail to Meet Requirements

Opposition to Houston’s Equal Rights Ordinance Fail to Meet Requirements

Today a Texas district judge ruled that opposition to Houston’s Equal Rights Ordinance (HERO) failed to meet the minimum signatures required to put the ordinance up for a ballot initiative.
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