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Gay Iconography: Michael Sam’s Historic Year

Gay Iconography: Michael Sam’s Historic Year

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It’s been almost one year since Michael Sam became the first openly gay player drafted by the NFL. The historic moment, punctuated by a televised celebratory smooch with Sam’s now-fiancé Vito Cammisano, established Sam not only as an athlete on the rise, but an icon in the making.

From stadiums to sit-downs with Oprah, Sam’s impact has been felt on and off the field. The seventh of eight children, he persevered through tragedy. He lost two siblings, watching one die from a gunshot wound, while two of his other siblings are in prison. He became the first member of his family to attend college when he was offered a football scholarship from the University of Missouri. He came out to his coaches and teammates, but then came out publicly ahead of the NFL via The New York Times in 2014, creating a media storm around his opportunity to make history. Even First Lady Michelle Obama shared her excitement.

Even though a poll at the time said 86 percent of polled NFL players would welcome an openly gay teammate, Sam did face his fair share of backlash and criticism. He was drafted by the St. Louis Rams in the seventh round, making his professional debut in August of 2014, but was released from the team later that month. Just two days later, the Dallas Cowboys added Sam to their practice team, but they would waive him the following October.

Despite these setbacks, Sam has continued to be a magazine coverboy and media darling. See some of our favorite Michael Sam moments, AFTER THE JUMP

 

Sam’s first big exposure came with his public coming out in February 2014. He gave an extended interview to The New York Times (which you can see some of in the clip above). “I don’t think I should be defined as Michael Sam, the gay athlete, the gay football player. I want to be defined Michael Sam for being a great person and having great character,” he said. “I want to be a football player. I want to be playing in the NFL … I may be the first, but I won’t be the last. and I think only good things are going to come from this.” In an interview late last year, he told GQ he regretted the way he came out, suggesting his public announcement hurt his position in the draft. “If I had it my way, I never would have done it the way I did.”

 

If Sam’s coming out made waves, his televised kiss with his boyfriend caused a tidal wave. The kiss aired live on ESPN, punctuating his historic draft pick with one of the greatest LGBT television milestones in history. Of course, it also drew the ire of conservative viewers, whose hackles were raised with the usual “Won’t anyone please think of the children?” rhetoric. The reaction to the kiss underscored the persistent discomfort audiences have with the LGBT community, despite advancements in equality. A poll following the broadcast of the kiss revealed that although 60 percent of Americans would approve of an openly-gay athlete on their favorite team, a majority said they felt it was inappropriate for the kiss to be aired. (This video hilariously addresses that discomfort while calling out the hypocrisy of sports fans supporting other athletes with much more morally questionable behavior.)

 

Part of what makes Sam such a powerful figure is his understanding of the responsibility he has as a trailblazer. For example, check out the emotional speech he gave (above) when he was awarded the Arthur Ashe Courage Award. In it he says: “Arthur Ashe said, ‘Do what you can.’ Those have been very meaningful words to me. The way I see it, my responsibility at this moment in history is to stand up for everybody out there who wants nothing more than to be themselves openly. Recently, a friend asked me to talk to his sister, a young woman who was considering killing herself rather than accepting and sharing with her loved ones the fact that she’s gay. When we spoke, she told me she would never consider hurting herself and that somehow my example helped her. It’s amazing to think that, by just doing what we can, we can all touch, change and even save lives.”

Not all of the media attention has been positive, of course. One of the most egregious examples was an ESPN report on Sam’s shower habits, further fueling the paranoia about gays in the locker room. Even when he’s been faced with ignorance or downright hate, Sam has responded with grace, wit and humility. His fans and community have also come to his side. When the vile Westboro Baptist Church attempted to boycott his return to his alma mater to accept the 2014 Cotton Bowl Championship trophy, a massive counter-protest shut them out and greeted Sam with a standing ovation inside the stadium.

 

Recently, Sam competed on the current season of Dancing With the Stars. Although he was eliminated in the fourth week, he and partner Peta Murgatroyd performed an emotional rumba that told the story of Sam’s father’s struggle to accept his sexuality.

What is your favorite Michael Sam moment?


Bobby Hankinson

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Why I'm Unsubscribing From Ageism in the Gay Community

Why I'm Unsubscribing From Ageism in the Gay Community
There’s a saying that goes: the older a person gets, the less she or he cares about life’s small worries. For me, I’ve found that this is mostly true. Sure, the obvious things still terrify me like being trampled to death while reaching for a sample in Costco or being ravaged by horrible bees at gay pride, too drunk to escape their stings. Everyone has these fears.

Another thing I’ve stopped worrying about as I get older, is that I’m not worried anymore about getting older. I still take the typical precautions such as working out frequently and rubbing stem cell cream I’ve illegally acquired from South Korea on my smile lines.

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I have gray hairs that began to sprout years ago along with a couple of stray hairs on my shoulders and back. Five years ago, I would have nearly died seeing these, but I’ve since stopped caring. In fact, I think that my boyfriend’s salt and pepper hair is sexy, so maybe mine will be, too.

Unfortunately, almost every time I go out in the gayborhood, I experience some form of ageism. Most of it is self-deprecating, like a white-haired man in an Abercrombie polo shirt telling me how tens of thousands of years ago — when he claims that he was born — people didn’t have cellphones. I smile and explain that I, too, recall those days. Wide-eyed, he immediately asks, “Wait, how old are you?”

On the contrary, I have younger friends who called me an “Old Queen” the moment I turned 30. My Facebook feed filled with posts about my expiration date and the stench of my old man body wreaking havoc on Fifth Avenue.

I took these comments in stride that day, as age shouldn’t matter — because it doesn’t. I’ve met imbeciles both youthful and aged and wonderful friends 30-plus years my senior. However, I feel as though today’s culture magnifies our expectations of age. Madonna gets ragged on for kissing men younger than her, while pop singer Lorde gets applause for being a teenager. Guys at the bar scoff when their buddy dates someone 10 years younger than him. They chastise him for “robbing the cradle” and turn cold shoulders to his new boyfriend.

I don’t get it. Why are we placing any eggs in the age basket? Especially since many of us — if we’re lucky — will live into our 80s and 90s. It’s the 21st century, and the only things truly dated about us are our idealisms. It doesn’t matter if we’re brown, black, white, blonde, silver, brunette, gay, straight, bisexual, transgender, cisgender, intersex — you get it. All of our clocks are ticking, and there’s no amount of negative, angst-filled forum rebuffs to this post that will ever stop that.

Honestly, I’m excited about the day that I’ve worked enough years to retire. Why shouldn’t I be? My retired mother has tons of free time to enjoy water aerobics, playing with her grandkids, and watching baby animal videos on Facebook.

If ageism continues as it is, I’ve decided to retire in the lovely heat of Palm Springs where I can safely unsubscribe from society’s ageist pressure. There, I plan to wear denim shorts that reveal my leathery thighs, buy drinks with my government subsidies, and no one around me will give a crap about it. If the pool boy calls me an “Old Queen” as I stare at his tanned body in a tight black Speedo, I’ll smile and say: “Yes, darling, I am an Old Queen and I’m wondering why you aren’t kneeling.”

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Opposition to Houston’s Equal Rights Ordinance Fail to Meet Requirements

Opposition to Houston’s Equal Rights Ordinance Fail to Meet Requirements

Today a Texas district judge ruled that opposition to Houston’s Equal Rights Ordinance (HERO) failed to meet the minimum signatures required to put the ordinance up for a ballot initiative.
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Uber, Lyft Laws May Shuttle Gay-Rights Fights To Red States

Uber, Lyft Laws May Shuttle Gay-Rights Fights To Red States

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As ride-hailing services like Uber and Lyft continue to grow in popularity, more and more states are considering legislation to regulate them. 

The goal is to establish statewide standards and bar cities — some of which have stopped Uber and Lyft from operating — from regulating the services. 

Uber and Lyft both include sexual orientation and gender identity in their nondiscrimination policies, and because they’ve been involved in drafting the legislation, LGBT protections are generally included. But that isn’t going over well in places like Oklahoma, where the Senate voted this week to remove sexual orientation and gender identity from the state’s ride-hailing bill. The Associated Press reports: 

The House-passed version of the bill included language that prohibited the companies from discriminating against customers based on sexual orientation or gender identity. But Sen. Jason Smalley said he rewrote the bill to eliminate that language and allow private businesses to establish their own policies regarding discrimination.

“I believe if a private business owner wants to serve or not serve an individual, they have that purview right now,” said Smalley, a Republican.

One Democratic senator unsuccessfully tried to amend the bill to require drivers wishing to discriminate against LGBT riders to post notice on their vehicles. More from the AP:  

“Uber’s policy is to serve every neighborhood, every driver and every person who needs a ride,” company spokeswoman Jennifer Mullin said. The company will continue to enforce its current terms of service, “which make clear that discrimination in any form is not tolerated and will result in removal from the platform,” she said.

Troy Stevenson, executive director of Freedom of Oklahoma, said in a statement that the group does not “understand why a member of the Oklahoma Legislature wants to remove protections for (lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender) Oklahomans from a bill that is specific to an industry that already protects them, in their corporate policies. Oklahomans do not believe in discrimination, and it is time for ideological law makers to quit trying to distract from the real problems of our state by attacking the LGBT community.”

It’s unclear how many states have passed LGBT-inclusive legislation regulating Uber and Lyft. But it’s safe to say that in some red states, it would amount to the first time sexual orientation and gender identity have been mentioned in statute.  

Texas, for example, is considering a similar bill, which currently includes sexual orientation and gender identity. But it’s hard to imagine Republican lawmakers — who are seeking to bar cities from enacting LGBT protections — won’t try to remove sexual orientation and gender identity from the ride-hailng bill.

Would it be too much to ask for Uber — which actively opposed Indiana’s “religious freedom” law — to insist that LGBT protections remain in the bills? 

Stay tuned. 


John Wright

www.towleroad.com/2015/04/uber-lyft-regulations-could-be-new-battleground-for-lgbt-rights-in-red-states.html