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Ex-Cop Pretended To Be A Woman To Lure 60 Straight Men To His Glory Hole, Did Other Even Creepier Stuff

Ex-Cop Pretended To Be A Woman To Lure 60 Straight Men To His Glory Hole, Did Other Even Creepier Stuff

Screen Shot 2015-10-22 at 2.37.27 PMHere’s a general rule of thumb: If you arrange to meet someone to receive oral sex at their private glory hole, you can pretty much assume they aren’t actually who they claim to be. Especially, as is the case with this former Missouri police officer, if they claim to be a woman.

But somehow at least 60 “straight” men were lured into David E. Cerna’s trap with the promise of an nsa blowjob. Cerna then filmed the encounters and uploaded them to a porn site.

This one scheme alone already sends the creep-o-meter soaring into the red zone, yet a full investigation into Cerna revealed it to be hardly his worst offense.

On multiple occasions, Cerna used his authority as a police officer to molest boys. In one case, he detained an 18-year-old with a disability on Christmas day, took him into a private holding cell, and sexually assaulted him.

The mother of that victim spoke out on Fox Files, saying, “It’s messed my son up horribly.  He is paranoid all the time, thinking that someone is watching him, all the time.  He won`t sleep alone.  He thinks people are after him all the time.”

Cerna also set up a hidden camera in a convenience store bathroom, and uploaded those videos to a porn site as well.

He now faces way too many counts of far too many crimes for us to count.

Watch the Fox Files segment on Cerna below:

h/t FreeThoughtProject

Dan Tracer

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Randy Rainbow Trick-or-Treats Kim Davis: WATCH

Randy Rainbow Trick-or-Treats Kim Davis: WATCH

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Parodist Randy Rainbow is back and taking aim once more at anti-gay Kentucky county clerk Kim Davis.

In his latest comedic video, Randy goes trick-or-treating–at Kim Davis’s house. Those who have been following the Kim saga will immediately recognize many moments from the historical record being parodied.

Watch what happens when Randy meets Kim (and also Mike Huckabee), below:

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Randy Rainbow Trick-or-Treats Kim Davis: WATCH

Kim Davis: 'Soldier for Christ' Whose 'Battle Has Just Begun'

Kim Davis: 'Soldier for Christ' Whose 'Battle Has Just Begun'

Antigay Kentucky clerk Kim Davis has never been shy about using her religious beliefs as justification to defy federal law and refuse to issue marriage licenses to same-sex couples

But a series of emails obtained by the Associated Press illuminate the depths of religious fanaticism Davis and her supporters reside in, with Davis calling herself a “soldier for Christ” in the weeks leading up to her five-day stint in jail for contempt of court in early September

The emails, which the AP obtained through a Freedom of Information Act request of the Kentucky clerk’s office, show that Davis frequently turned to her faith when facing increasing national scrutiny for refusing to abide by the U.S. Supreme Court’s June decision bringing marriage equality all 50 states. 

The same day that four couples (two straight, two gay) sued Davis in federal court for denying them marriage licenses, Davis wrote to a supporter claiming “the battle has just begun,” the AP reports. 

According to the AP, Davis wrote the following to a supporter July 2: 

“It has truly been a firestorm here and the days are pretty much a blur, but I am confident that God is in control of all of this!! I desire your prayers, I will need strength that only God can supply and I need a backbone like a saw log!!”

As the backlash against Davis’s defiance grew and protesters started gathering at the courthouse in Rowan County, Ky., Davis reportedly complained about the noise demonstrators were making outside her office. 

Much of Davis’s correspondence obtained by the AP is with a supporter named Willie Ramsey, who the agency does not identify beyond his name and a note that he is from Somerset, Ky.

“Will your lawyers and several decent people be around you to protect you from the wicked threatening homosexual mob and their supporters?” Ramsey asked Davis, according to the AP. 

Davis replied: 

“They are going to try and make a whipping post out of me!! I know it, but God is still alive and on the throne!!! He IS in control and knows exactly where I am!!”

Davis’s lawyers, affiliated with the right-wing nonprofit Liberty Counsel, designated as an anti-LGBT hate-group by the progressive Southern Poverty Law Center, have indeed come to their client’s defense

In a series of appealsall of which were denied — Liberty Counse’s chairman and Davis’s lead counsel, Mat Staver, claimed that a federal judge’s order that Davis do her job and issue marriage licenses to all eligible couples, regardless of gender, would be a “searing act of validation that would forever echo in her conscience.” Staver further argued that Davis was physically unable to issue marriage licenses to same-sex couples, though the judge she continues to defy rejected that argument. 

Sunnivie Brydum

www.advocate.com/marriage-equality/2015/10/22/kim-davis-soldier-christ-whose-battle-has-just-begun

Memories Of Melodrama: The Unauthorized Lifetime Story

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“Memories of Melodrama” opens with a close-up of a young woman clutching an office landline phone. The camera zooms in on her lunch, iced coffee cup pooled with condensation next to a sad desk salad. A violin-heavy instrumental gallops into a distressing crescendo as the last lines of her call come into focus.

“I haven’t found anything,” she says, her desperation echoed by the bleak glow of unfortunate fluorescent lighting overhead. The music halts as a chilly voice on the other end cuts in. “And you never will.”

The words “Memories of Melodrama” flash across the screen in blood-red lettering, before the scene transitions to aerial shots of New York City.

“This was me, three months earlier,” I narrate, as the former child star playing me crosses a street in a flirty skirt. “I was a carefree reporter who thought it might be fun to write a story about Lifetime. I had no idea I’d become part of a Lifetime movie in the process of writing it.” 

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It all started back in August, when I was covering “UnREAL,” the Lifetime drama set behind the scenes of a fictional reality dating competition. My interview with co-creator Marti Noxon was fascinating, especially when she got candid about Lifetime’s reputation. She was respectful, but didn’t hold back her concern that the network might soften the feminist tones of the show she pitched.

“I have to say, the experience we had on ‘UnREAL’ was really new for everybody,” she said, emphasizing her pleasant surprise. “It was new for everybody on Lifetime, it was new for me working with them.”

Clearly, Lifetime has been going through some rebranding. Take, for example, Will Ferrell and Kristen Wiig skewering the stereotypes of a Lifetime movie in a Lifetime movie dubbed “A Deadly Adoption.” The channel — once known as a factory of made-for-TV movies about women getting murdered, or avoiding getting murdered, or doing the murdering themselves — is now creating space for one of the smartest female antiheroes to date on “UnREAL.”

I was interested in what was happening to foster this new space and set out to speak to a few executives. Unfortunately, Lifetime only offered one interviewee, who had been at the network only seven weeks at the time. Everyone else was “kind of on vacation.” I started reaching out to past executives. Lifetime found out, discouraged contact and even proposed rescinding my initial interview.

Stubbornly set on executing this piece (and jokingly wondering if Lifetime was trying to cover up a murder of its own), I started speaking to other people, people who shaped the early days of the channel. Spoiler alert: If a dark past exists, I didn’t unearth it. But what unfolded is a complicated history of “TV for women” as a genre, and a retelling of the way Lifetime created a brand out of that demographic.

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Lifetime didn’t set out to be a silo of movies about ladies triumphing over tragedy. Its mid-’80s origins were an obvious answer to a gaping hole in the emerging cable landscape: there wasn’t a clear channel for women.

Crafting a concept of TV “for women,” however, was as slippery then as it is today, particularly when Lifetime’s first head of original programming had to convince other executives that no, women do not need a special type of “news” (the news “for women” is just “the news”).

“TV for women” was treated as such a niche demographic at the time that it may as well have been for, say, left-handed libertarians with alopecia rather than half the population. Having a board of nine men dictating the network’s trajectory from its inception probably didn’t help much.

In interviews with The Huffington Post, four of the earliest Lifetime executives referred to the network’s early incarnations using the term “hodgepodge.” One reviewer referred to it as a “backwater” channel. Some casual viewers thought it might be religious. When it was created in 1984, as a combination of the Daytime and Cable Health Networks, a joint venture by ABC, Hearst and Viacom, Lifetime was more “loosely female-centric” than “for women.” There was some medical programming, “Good Sex! With Dr. Ruth” and, by 1985, a lady talk show called “Attitudes,” which was sort of like a less offensive version of “The View.”

For the most part, though, Lifetime’s first few years as a channel were the branding equivalent of throwing tampons at a dart board. Long before Lifetime was seen as a “weepy world” of things to “hate-watch,” it was a channel with no idea what it was or wanted to be.

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Lifetime was officially created in February of 1984. When Thomas Burchill was hired as president and CEO that April, he set about establishing an identity. He tried to figure out the network’s image by asking his four inherited employees to finish the sentence, “Lifetime is a … “

No one was able to fill in that blank.

Burchill came in with a background in radio. Given that radio was a multichannel medium, a number of high-powered executives were recruited to help manage the first days of cable television. As Burchill sees it, that meant he was more creative and faster-paced than alternatives might have been. He came armed with ideas for talk shows and understood that audiences and advertisers needed a way to choose Lifetime and keep coming back.

“If you remember, many of the successful early cable networks had a signature of some sort,” Burchill told me, referencing ESPN and MTV. “So, I thought we might try, ‘Lifetime: The network that has America talking.'”

That made sense, given Burchill’s previous experience, but radio’s format felt too antiquated in 1984 to be simply translated to the small screen. 

“What Tom wanted to do — what he knew how to do really well — was talk television,” said Doug McCormick, Lifetime’s first head of sales and Burchill’s eventual successor. “He thought you could just take the whole idea of talk radio and have people calling in.”

“It didn’t work so well,” Burchill admitted. Shortly after realizing that, another possibility emerged. “We began to see this big gap [in demographics],” he said. “There was a need to address women’s programming interests.”

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Burchill was focused on creating a channel that could be sold to cable distribution companies. Before Comcast emerged as the dominant provider, channels had to sell to 10 or 12 different distributors to reach the majority of the country. Burchill had to figure out how to pitch Lifetime to those companies, and fast.

Though dismissive of Burchill’s radio-to-TV model, McCormick used a radio comparison to explain their strategy in that ever-changing market. “You know, when you used to drive a new car out of the showroom, before satellite radio, you had five radio channels to pick,” he said. “We wanted to make sure women knew to pick Lifetime as one of those channels.” 

The landscape shifted dramatically as the number of television channels increased from 18 to 54. Today, there’s little point in even counting the total number of networks; as far as competition is concerned, it may as well be limitless.

“I saw a 500-channel layout coming,” McCormick said, reflecting on the way things had changed by the time he became president of Lifetime in 1993. “By then, we were able to save millions in advertising by making it ‘TV for women’ and selling the channel instead of original shows.”

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Again, it’s bizarre to discuss “women watching most of the TV,” as though women are some tiny group of the total number of humans and not more than 50 percent of them. The concept that lies somewhat deceptively in this rhetoric is that there were actually already a lot of shows for women, just none labeled as such. TV movies, which Showtime and HBO popularized a few years before Lifetime, talk shows and most daytime programing typically attracted a female audience.

Lifetime had to use the raw material of existing female-centric shows to create original programming and shape itself into a brand. They had to take the mass of generally lady-ish stuff on TV at the time and refine it into a product. To start that process, Burchill brought in Patricia Fili-Krushel from HBO as the head of original programming.

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Fili-Krushel, then Fili, was and remains a strong voice in TV. (When she went on to run ABC daytime in 1998, The New York Times dubbed her “the highest-ranking woman executive” in the business. She’s now the executive vice president of NBCUniversal.) When Burchill hired Fili-Krushel, she was excited by the challenge of creating a channel’s identity from scratch.

“It’s like anything else you create from a blank slate,” Fili-Krushel said. “I knew I needed to put it on the map in some way.”

“Part of that was explaining that a women’s network didn’t just mean shows that had women,” she said. “Yes, there was a female star, but she had to be complex,” she continued. “It was a lot about projecting what we felt as women.”

Fili-Krushel first made waves in July of 1991, when she resuscitated “The Days and Nights of Molly Dodd” on Lifetime after it was canceled on NBC. “A woman named Molly changed the face of Lifetime,” Susan King wrote of the acquisition in the Los Angeles Times. Fili-Krushel then focused on original movies, particularly ones that empowered a female protagonist.

Unfortunately, “strong female characters” was not a very sexy selling point when it came to filling ad space.

In defining what exactly a “women’s network” meant, there were two sentiments held between Fili-Krushel’s programming team and McCormick’s sales team. As Burchill remembers it, the former was interested in figuring out what the right kind of content for women was, while the latter “cared about ratings and how to get there.” The clash created a professional rivalry, ending when McCormick was named Burchill’s successor over Fili-Krushel in 1993.

Burchill referred to that early sparring as “healthy,” though it was much more complex than two employees vying for influence at a fledgling network. Fili-Krushel and McCormick’s dynamic was loosely representative of the struggle at the core of the Lifetime brand. The two are almost symbols for what the channel became in the early ’90s and its continued evolution decades later.

Perhaps there’s a modern-day Shakespearean telling of this story, in which Fili-Krushel is the tragic feminist hero, McCormick is a greedy villain, and women’s programming is the damsel in distress. That’d be entertaining literature. Maybe even a good show for the current Lifetime network. It’s also not what happened. 

Fili-Krushel and McCormick had — as everyone in this story had or have — a business to run. In a perfect world, there might be a channel called The Feminist Movie Network, only distributing films approved by a board of thought leaders headed by Alison Bechdel. A theoretical idea can never be pure in its execution. 

All this is to say, keep in mind, that the Lifetime narrative is a little black, a little white, and a whole lot of grey — reimagined in varying shades of pink.

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Of course, it’s impossible to discuss Lifetime without Lifetime movies, and the quintessential way to describe the Fili-McCormick struggle is with two of the earliest originals: “Wildflower” and “Memories of Murder.”

Memories of Murder” was the first ever original Lifetime movie, so the fact that it is so on-the-nose for the micro-genre is almost as terrifying as getting temporary amnesia while there’s a killer on the loose (the plot of the film, pretty much).

The writer, John Harrison, said he initially titled the movie “Passing Through Veils,” though he gave up the rights to dictate the way the story was told when he sold the script. Harrison doesn’t regret signing his script over, but the finished product was definitely a misstep for the channel, in terms of critical reception. (Entertainment Weekly gave the movie a “D,” writing, “[Star Nancy Allen] comes uncannily close to reproducing the state of catatonia that ‘Memories of Murder’ will induce in anyone who watches it.”)

Wildflower,” on the other hand, is the quintessential representation of what Lifetime movies might have been in their purest form. Directed by Diane Keaton, it tells the story of an abused, partially deaf girl played by Patricia Arquette, who finds herself and a place in her community with the help of a very earnest Reese Witherspoon. It has aggressive themes buried under its soft packaging. In a different world, it might have been titled something like “Sounds of Abuse,” maybe “Beaten to Deaf.” Thankfully it wasn’t.

“We had a rule about what makes a Lifetime movie,” Fili-Krushel said. “Originally, a Lifetime movie meant the woman couldn’t be saved by a man at the end.”

McCormick, however, understood Fili-Krushel’s goals less as moral standards to strive toward and more so as rules that could be bent.

“Not every show has to keep every promise, but no show should ever break a promise,” McCormick said. “In other words, we want to be uplifting to women; that’s great. But if I want to have a show on that is not uplifting to women, but on the other hand, it’s fun, you know, or a guilty pleasure that’s just lighthearted.”

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At this point in my discussions, Fili-Krushel and McCormick’s voices start to merge. Where they were disparate, they begin to overlap, with each understanding the other’s challenges and goals. It’s too easy to say “Wildflower” is to Fili-Krushel as “Memories of Murder” is to McCormick, though it’s obvious which won out. Even a deaf girl with amnesia could figure out the trashy thriller would perform better.

“‘Memories of Murder’ scored much better ratings,” Emily Yahr wrote in her history of Lifetime movies for The Washington Post. “The contrast helped the network decide what direction it wanted to go.”

Still, there was a lot of feminist content in those early years of Lifetime. It was just wearing a tighter dress. As a writer, that’s where things zoomed into focus for me. I can create this thorough, well-reported, multi-thousand word piece on Lifetime and call it “A History of Women’s Programming.” I could also call it “TV’s Vagina Vendetta.” Both angles have their merits. As the creator, should I be more concerned with the content or the way it’s distributed?  

Maybe there’s a future where a “History of Lifetime” piece goes viral and wine is zero calories and you don’t have to buy Hulu Plus to binge “Seinfeld.” But here, in real life, to make my work worthy of the time I’ve spent, it has to hit a huge audience. Or, as McCormick put it, “It’s the sound of a tree falling in the universe, if you can’t get people to see it.”

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Another movie, 1993’s “Stolen Babies,” sums up the dichotomy of Lifetime’s identity in those early films. Yes, it’s called “Stolen Babies.” And the title delivers on its sordid promise, offering viewers a glimpse into a black market baby ring. It’s also an independent film starring Mary Tyler Moore with a plot that addresses issues of motherhood and female agency.

“It’s a matter of making great content with great marketing,” Burchill said, emphasizing the value of compelling packaging.

That’s not to say everything on Lifetime is secretly a feminist masterpiece stuffed into Cosmo cover advertising. “There were showcase pieces, but there were also pure popcorn,'” McCormick said. “We wouldn’t have been able to do anything if it was all, ‘Eat your peas.'”

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A more recent version of what you might call the “Stolen Babies” phenomenon is “Anna Nicole” (2013). A movie about Anna Nicole Smith is, at first glance, so precisely a ripped-from-the-tabloids film it may as well be Harvey Levin reading TMZ’s old stories. It doesn’t even need a cheesy title. Her name alone is probably a bigger draw than something inflammatory like “Dead Gold Digger.”

But there’s a catch: the movie was directed by acclaimed “American Psycho” director Mary Harron. 

Harron struggled to make “Anna Nicole” her own, but she says she eventually created a movie she is proud of. “I felt like I was doing something undercover,” she admitted, recalling the process of making the movie.

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One aspect of the quiet clash between Harron’s style and the Lifetime mold came with the movie’s opening sequence. Lifetime wanted to start with a newscast announcing Smith’s death. Harron fought for more abstract, stylistic images of her body in the morgue against a white backdrop.

“You’re being held to this idea of, ‘This is how we do a film,'” she said. “If you come in with something different, then you have to sort of push them, if you can, or persuade them, hopefully, to go in a different direction.”

As the critic Matt Patches wrote in his review, the film “could have been another movie off the network’s conveyor belt. Yet with Harron, Lifetime finds a credible and sensitive filmmaker, able to elevate the material and mine its dramatic potential.”

To be clear, “Anna Nicole” was not, nor was it trying to be, anything so noble as Lifetime’s “The Gabby Douglas Story” (2014). There was and continues to be a spectrum of content on the channel. Still, both of those films are part of a holistic shift in quality that began for Lifetime in 2012 with a remake of “Steel Magnolias” featuring a primarily black cast. All three mark the distinct reclamation of the TV movie Lifetime began about three years ago.

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The TV movie is often seen as a lesser medium, though there’s no reason for that to be the case. Sure, there are reduced resources, but just because you’re not going to get a few million dollars to CGI some Transformers doesn’t mean there is a lesser opportunity for good storytelling.

“You know, it could have been on the big screen,” the director of 2012’s “Steel Magnolias,” Kenny Leon, said. “But, you know, for me, as a director, I’m shooting it that way anyway. I’m shooting it as a film. I don’t say, ‘I’m shooting it as a TV movie.'”

“It’s kind of like doing a low-budget movie,” Harron reiterated. “I never had any prejudices against working in television … I always thought it was a great medium. It’s just what you do with it.”

While they may have a smaller budget and cramped schedules — “Steel Magnolias” was shot in under 20 days — TV movies are often given a greater amount of freedom. TV remakes can allow more space for diversity, giving access to women and people of color who often can’t get past the roadblocks of dealing with big-name studios. Case in point, where the hell else are you going to see a female-centric story led entirely by women of color promoted for a mainstream audience?

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Talking to talents like Leon and Harron sets up a clear view of the channel’s movie-making process. Lifetime movies are understood as a mass of murder-y sameness, but each film is the work of a creator trying to do her or his best in the context of the network’s brand.

“I love movies for television, but I look at them as movies that are playing on television,” said David Rosemont, who produced “Steel Magnolias” and “The Gabby Douglas Story,” among other Lifetime movies. “I think that what is finally happening, especially with Lifetime, is that the broadcasters are allowing us a little more freedom to tell our stories … There is a much higher standard to strive for.”

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While there is still a whole slew of “unauthorized” films (“90210,” “Saved by the Bell,” “Full House”) on Lifetime, that seem to be created as intentional camp in the way of “Sharknado,” there is also a set of more mainstream efforts striving for a higher level of recognition, like Angela Bassett’s “Whitney” (2015) biopic or “Flowers in the Attic” (2014) starring Academy Award winner Ellen Burstyn. Such projects have been on the rise for the past three years, culminating in the much-talked-about “A Deadly Adoption.”

And then, there’s “UnREAL.”

“I think ‘UnREAL’ is a game-changer for us,” said the current head of programming at Lifetime, Liz Gateley. “It so much represents where Lifetime is headed and it’s squarely within my brand vision [for] the new Lifetime.”

Despite its ingenuity, “UnREAL” is still seen by some as a “guilty pleasure” show, with viewers fooled by its sly tone, one the New Yorker’s Emily Nussbaum described as “greasy bacon … at once sweet and salty, greasy and irresistible.”

It’s also not quite as “new” as it seems. Upon a closer look, “UnREAL” actually epitomizes the network’s paradox. Juicy packaging makes the show a Trojan horse of feminism, far better than but not unlike “Stolen Babies” or, more recently, “Drop Dead Diva.” (The latter is Josh Berman’s dramedy about a model who dies and is brought back to life as an overweight attorney, which advertised itself as magical realism with a ton of fat jokes and ended up being a fun, semi-intelligent take on body positivity.)

While “UnREAL” is groundbreaking in terms of acclaim, it’s actually very much in line with that early combination of Fili-Krushel and McCormick’s visions.

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Gateley came to Lifetime, by her own account, just two weeks before “UnREAL” began. She has a sense of rightful pride when talking about the network’s notoriety, though she can’t provide details on its history.

“For me personally, I can’t speak to the last three or four years,” she said. “I know that there’s been a concerted effort to bring the brand in a new direction since [CEO] Nancy Dubuc.”

Dubuc is the head of A&E, which bought Lifetime in 2009. The most current changes, along with a new Lifetime logo and tagline — “your life. your time,” all lowercase — can be traced to that deal.

“I think the goal was to make the movies more relevant,” said Tanya Lopez, senior vice president of original movies, in the aforementioned piece by The Washington Post.

“Look, I’m a big believer that a lot of the elements of the old Lifetime movie — like the melodrama and the female aspect of it — are really important,” vice president of original movies Lisa Hamilton Daly told Yahr. “It’s just finding a newer take on it and finding a new way to tell those stories.”

In writing this, I requested interviews with Lopez and Hamilton-Daly, among other executives who currently work for Lifetime, but was turned down. After speaking with Gateley, I emailed senior vice president of publicity Danielle Carrig for more sources. I explained to her that, as I mentioned at the beginning of this piece, Gateley had only been at the network seven weeks, so I wanted other voices for the story who could speak to the history of the network. That’s when she said everyone was on vacation.

In August, Carrig found out that I had reached out to past executives on my own, and she requested I send her a full list of my sources. I called to explain that a number of my interviews were off the record, so I could not provide names. She said she would retract my Gateley interview unless I handed over a full list of sources. At that point, I wondered if Lifetime had blocked me from speaking to a number of potential sources, a few of which Yahr was able to speak with back in January.

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Fili-Krushel and McCormick left the network by 1998, so there remains a decade-long gap in this timeline. It’s not too hard to fill in, simply by virtue of being alive as a woman has who watched Lifetime over the years.

Yahr summarized the late 1990s to mid 2000s, writing, “As the movies became more popular … [the network] became known for ‘teens in crisis’ and ‘women in peril’ themes.” So, yeah, nothing too shocking among the likes of “Mom at Sixteen” and “Cyber Seduction: His Secret Life.”

Before leaving, McCormick launched the Lifetime Movie Network, expanding the impact of Lifetime’s arsenal of content and its impact. Around that time, Geraldine Laybourne created Oxygen. It was less so competition than a solid reason for Lifetime to earn an increased budget. If there are key changes during this time, they have to do more with what was going on outside of Lifetime than within, the way ideas of the brand were spreading and warping.

Go on, do any general search for Lifetime Movies and the links not provided by the network itself are evidence of the way the channel may still be viewed. Almost all current coverage is an elbow-to-the-ribs mocking of the type. See: “How to Navigate the Weepy World of Lifetime Movies” by the A.V. Club, “The 10 Types of Lifetime Movie Titles” by Vulture, “7 Lifetime Movies That Aren’t Completely Terrible” by VH1 or  “The 10 Most So-Bad-They’re-Good Lifetime Movies of All Time” by Women’s Health Magazine. Admittedly, it’s a thing I, too, got somewhat wrong in writing “Think Twice Before You Binge-Watch All Those Lifetime Movies On Netflix.”

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This piece was inspired by the creative freedom Lifetime gave Noxon and “UnREAL.” It seemed a part of the same freedom that had allowed Wiig and Ferrell to make “A Deadly Adoption.” My plan was to put together a feature on how such a strategically laissez-faire attitude might have come to be. This could have been a quick, seven-hundred word recap of Lifetime’s current plans.

Then Carrig started dodging my reporting efforts, turning me into a Lifetime protagonist by virtue of having an antagonist to cope with. There may well be a more scintillating story I’m missing, but it is hard to imagine Lifetime executives committing the crimes upon which they base their movies, sacrificing virgins in exchange for ratings. More likely, the brand is focused on promoting its current iteration without delving into its development or highlighting the almost accidental way projects like “UnREAL” and “A Deadly Adoption” fell together to start the current conversation. 

But it’s hard to talk about the current face of the channel without revisiting its foundation. Lifetime’s place as the very first network “for women” is fundamental to Carrig and Gateley’s current attempts to sharpen the identity Burchill, Fili-Krushel and McCormick set out to build.

Lifetime’s history holds up a mirror to the hesitation some have talking about TV “for women.” The fact is, that qualifier hasn’t lost its stigma in the past 30 years. Thrillers and melodramas on Lifetime, and outside of it, are still dismissed for their inherent feminine appeal, seen as less-than because of their packaging. They are attached to “guilt” like a commercial about a woman eating chocolate in a bathtub. It’s valuable to strive for stronger content as well, but women are a massive demographic that doesn’t always need to be eating popcorn or peas.

“[The change] is an evolution with the times,” Gateley said. “We’re trying to be something for every contemporary woman.”

And that could be part of the problem. There’s not one thing that is going to satisfy the target group known as “women.” From goofy trash like “Restless Virgins” to meditations on female identity like “UnREAL,” there’s a wide range of types of entertainment Lifetime represents. Yet, they express a hesitation to own any of it, with the brand both shying away from addressing the well-known reputation of its made-for-TV movies and refusing to directly attach themselves to the word “feminist” (Gateley chose “ass-kicking” as her adjective of choice).

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But wouldn’t this current, more visible reworking of Lifetime be even stronger if it accepted the history of the brand while pursuing a brighter future? It would be empowering to see Lifetime own the sector of TV “for women,” to refuse to apologize for how that type of programming fits into pop culture, and embrace it. 

“Memories of Melodrama” draws to a close with the typing of these last few lines.

“Sometimes the best stories are the ones you least expect,” I narrate, as bright, hopeful stock music begins to play. The Lauren Duca character sighs, takes a sip of her tea and smiles.

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Open Question: How can Republicans have any chance of winning when they can't the get the votes of the majority of the population?

Open Question: How can Republicans have any chance of winning when they can't the get the votes of the majority of the population?
Republicans will in no way get the votes of

Black people
Hispanics
Asians
LGBT people
Most women
Young people

please explain Republicans how you think you have any chance of winning?

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Sam Smith Applies To Be The Gay Community’s Official Spokesperson

Sam Smith Applies To Be The Gay Community’s Official Spokesperson

ssI want to be a spokesperson. I want to be a figure in the gay community, who speaks for gay men. I sell records in countries where gay men get killed and that’s a big thing for me, because maybe one person in that country will pick up my album, realize it’s by a gay artist, and it might change their opinion…

I’m a gay man who came out when I was 10 years old, and there’s nothing in my life that I’m prouder of…. I didn’t want the album to appeal to just one community, I wanted it to appeal to all of them. I wanted anyone, gay or straight, to be able to relate to me singing about men, like I was able to relate to Stevie Wonder or John Legend singing about girls.”

Singer Sam Smith, who in 2014 stated that he “wasn’t trying to be a spokesperson” for the gay community, has consciously revised his stance in a new interview with NME

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The OXD Mirror: New Order and Hot Chip Get ‘Frutti’

The OXD Mirror: New Order and Hot Chip Get ‘Frutti’

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There’s something to be said for a band that’s been together for 35 years (for the most part, minus a few breakups here and there). New Order, known best for hits like ‘Blue Monday’ and “Bizarre Love Triangle,’ helped define a signature 80’s new wave sound, paving the way for other artists to embrace this genre and evolve it over the years, including modern day acts like Interpol and The Killers.

Last month they released their 10th studio album, Music Complete, the band’s first album without former bassist Peter Hook. The album includes the single ‘Tutti Frutti,’ which features vocals from La Roux‘s Elly Jackson. The song gets a remix treatment by Hot Chip, who just this past week debuted a cover of Bruce Springsteen’s ‘Dancing In The Dark’. Hot Chip’s remix nearly doubles the song’s length, which is given a whole new life as a winding journey, marrying elements of New Order’s traditional sound with Hot Chip’s innovative approach to electronic music.

  • If you’re a regular reader of this column, you’ll know that the three of us are big fans of Brooklyn’s 27-piece disco outfit Escort. Lead singer Adeline Michèle, who also happens to be the bass player on the Meredith Vieira Show, dropped her single ‘Redo’ back in February. The upbeat, R&B track shows off Michèle’s vocal chops while adding in bits and pieces of the disco sounds we’re used to hearing from her as part of Escort. The track was produced by Razor & Tape’s JKriv, who also contributes a deeper, extended version as part of the remix EP that dropped last week.
  • In 1998, DJ Dozia released ‘Pop Culture’, which has remained a standout deep house track track since its release 17 years ago. Usually I’d agree “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it,” however some of today’s most influential producers like Joris Voorn, KiNK, and Phil Weeks have done a great job at reinventing this classic.
  • Till Von Sein‘s soulful ‘It’s All In The Spirit’ features vocals from Russoul and premiered last week on the aptly named Suol records. Tanner Ross gives the song his signature haunting, deep treatment on this remix featured here, also out this week.
  • Situation‘s ‘Get To Know Me’ gets a breezy, disco remix by Hot Toddy that’s making me yearn for summer yet again.
  • We may have lost house music legend Frankie Knuckles in 2014, but his music continues to live on. His friend and colleague David Morales has commissioned some new mixes of his Director’s Cut track ‘Boyz!’, featuring Jamie Principle, on his Def Mix label. Farley and Heller contribute a slick dub remix to this vinyl release, which also includes a remix by Morales himself.
  • I first stumbled upon Bristol’s Applebottom purely out of curiosity for his chosen artistic name (and its similarity to my last name). He got his start doing some really cool bassed-out edits of some catalogue hits, like Liberty X‘s ‘Just A Little Bit‘. ‘Bottom (see what I did there?) has shown he’s more than a one-trick pony, with his latest original track, ‘Resolute,’ getting the attention of BBC’s Annie Mac.

 

This Weekend in NYC: Night Fever at The303

Night Fever FlyerThis Saturday night, Occupy The Disco’s monthly residency at The303, Night Fever, returns for another go-round at SoHo’s best subterranean dance den. We’ll be spinning plenty of house, disco and techno tunes, many of which you hear right here on our weekly Towleroad column. Admission is always free, so come down and dance with your fellow Towleroad readers!   10P-4A at the303 @ Louie & Chan, 303 Broome St.

OCCUPY THE DISCO (OXD) is a gay, New York City-based DJ collective who got their start curating alternative night life and music events for the LGBT community. The OXD Mirror serves to showcase house, disco and techno tunes that are definitely off-the-beaten-path but rightfully deserve the attention of the gay ear.

Check out these tracks and more on our Soundcloud. For more information on OXD, visit our website at www.occupythedisco.com, like us on Facebook, or follow us on Twitter/Instagram: @OccupyTheDisco.

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The Dos and Don'ts of Discussing HIV

The Dos and Don'ts of Discussing HIV

With HIV diagnoses up by 132.5 percent among young gay and bisexual men since the 21st century began, it has never been more evident that conversations about HIV among young people are painfully needed. And the best way for these discussions to begin is by empowering newly HIV-positive folks to use their voices to bring awareness to the communities they occupy. This, however, is easier said than done for many living with the virus due to the fear of being stigmatized for being HIV-positive by their family and friends. In order to foster an environment where people living with HIV feel comfortable talking about their experiences, here is a list of things you should never say to someone with HIV, and some helpful alternatives you may want to ask.

HIV

Don’t Ask: Have you learned your lesson?
This type of question is exactly the reason why people are afraid to talk about HIV in the first place. HIV isn’t a punishment and no one deserves to contract it. So quit talking about it like it is a consequence of being a bad person.

HIV

Do Ask: How are you handling it?
This will give your friend the opportunity to elaborate on the feelings he or she is going through. This is your opportunity to learn how they are dealing with the shame and self-stigma that they might be experiencing. This is also where you can learn how to affirm your friend in the way he or she needs at that time.

HIV

Don’t Ask: Who did you get it from?
Chances are they got it from someone they had sex with … duh. Don’t be rude by asking a person who is opening up to you about details that they may or may not be sure of. Instead, ask them how they are feeling. If your friend is comfortable talking about the details of transmission, they will bring it up on their own.

HIV

Do Ask: How long have you been dealing with this?
This provides a chance for you to learn how long your friend has been living with HIV without any support. Try following up with questions about who else he or she has confided in so you can possibly help with facilitating more opportunities for your friend to disclose their status in a safe and stigma-free environment.

HIV

Don’t Ask: (If they are in a relationship) Is your boyfriend or girlfriend HIV-positive as well?
Although you may be surprised, this is irrelevant to the conversation. Your friend is revealing his or her status, but it is not his or her place to reveal someone else’s. Don’t put them in an awkward situation of having to disclose their partner’s status if they aren’t comfortable doing so.

HIV

Do Ask: How are you protecting yourself from transmitting?
It is OK to be concerned about the health and safety of your friend, and that includes his or her risk of transmitting the virus to someone else. But make sure you do so in a way that doesn’t assume that they aren’t being safe. This question will give your friend the opportunity to share with you their safe sex practices and will allow you to lend your insight to the conversation without a judgmental tone.

HIV

Don’t Ask: Will you get AIDS?
Chances are, your friend will not be diagnosed with AIDS, which is merely a term used to classify the advanced stages of HIV. The term “AIDS” was created when HIV medications where not as effective as they are now. When a person’s T-cell count would dip below 200, they would receive an AIDS diagnosis, which meant that their body’s immune system was now vulnerable to opportunistic infections that could be fatal. The management of HIV has drastically changed since these days of AIDS, so you can wipe the term from your vocabulary.

HIV

Do Ask: How are you doing with your treatment?
A person who is diagnosed with HIV today can now expect to live a normal lifespan, but only if they enter treatment and stay on their medication. Unfortunately, only 30 percent of people living with HIV are properly managing their health, which often means as little as quarterly doctor’s visits and taking one pill a day. Make sure your friend is taking care of himself or herself properly and encourage them to invest in their health if they need it. 

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TYLER CURRY is an activist and the author of A Peacock Among Pigeons, a new children’s book that celebrates diversity. Get your copy at www.apeacockamongpigeons.com.
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Eating Disorders Are Rampant in Gay Men and These Are 5 Things We Can Do to Help

Eating Disorders Are Rampant in Gay Men and These Are 5 Things We Can Do to Help
When I came out of the closet at the age of 20, my body had already been through a lot.

In middle school, I was teased for having a “girl’s body.” Not only was I overweight, but also, I was biracial. The result was a body type that was easy fodder for my classmates: My ass was huge. My chest was swollen into “man boobs.” My face was round and full.

I learned to be ashamed of every step I took, to apologize for taking up space, to flinch whenever someone looked at me for too long.

Eventually, I got sick of being made fun of. I made the radical decision to starve myself.

If I ate too much, I threw it up. If I skipped a day of exercise, I punished myself twice as much the next day. If my body ached, if it was in pain, if it was begging for nourishment, I didn’t care — I wanted to look “normal.”

In all, I shed over 100 pounds.

But it didn’t matter. I was still trapped in my body.

We celebrate “coming out” as an act of personal liberation. And when I finally did, it’s true, a lot of things got better for me.

My eating disorder was not one of them.

When I came out, my mental health was fragile. I was dysmorphic, bulimic and eager to seek out validation for a body I had been conditioned to hate.

But validation wasn’t what I found. Instead, I found an environment where my body was even more inadequate than I had previously imagined.

I found a community full of damaged people like myself, people who, like me, were torturing themselves to conform to a very rigid definition of beauty. I found a community where only a select few body types were considered to be ideal.

I found a community that was sick like me.

Gay and bisexual men are 7 times more likely to binge and 12 times more likely to purge than heterosexual men. Despite making up 5 percent of the male population, some 42 percent of men with eating disorders are gay.

It’s clear we have a problem.

Here are five ways we can help.

1. Diversify the representation of bodies in gay media.

When we open up the gay male standard of beauty, we take a positive step for our community’s mental health.

How often do we need to see the same white, chiseled body upheld as the paragon of attractiveness? Why, when our community has so much diversity to pull from?

Not only is this lazy, but in a community with such staggeringly high rates of eating disorders, it’s also irresponsible.

Gay media should be taking the lead on this. Instead of heaping praise on just one kind of body, why not put a spotlight on people of different body types and ethnicities?

No matter your race, no matter what kind of body you have and even if you fit the profile of the Adonis that is typically featured in our media, affirming different kinds of beauty will take some pressure off all gay men trying to change themselves to look “sexy.”

It’s such a simple step, but we’re doing a terrible job at taking it.

2. Make mental health a priority in the gay community.

I’m proud of how the gay community is championing issues like HIV/AIDS awareness and challenging the stigmas associated with it.

But we need more campaigns tackling mental health in the gay community.

Beyond body image issues, gay men are also much more likely to suffer from depression and anxiety. Many suffer from PTSD and substance abuse.

We should be doing everything we can to tackle the mental health crisis that has plagued our community.

Body dysmorphia, eating disorders and bulimia are all issues that therapy can assist in treating. In my experience, group therapy can be especially effective. We need to be pushing for mental healthcare access for LGBT people and pushing for more gay men to seek treatment.

3. Normalize getting treatment for mental illnesses.

The above being said, there remains a stigma for people across all demographics in seeking mental healthcare.

And yet, one of my favorite things about being a part of the gay community is how we, when we put our minds to it, reject societal stigma and find empowerment. This is the essence of Pride.

So what we need to do, then, is be leaders on this issue.

Normalize seeing a therapist. Normalize talking about mental illness. Normalize getting help.

4. Tackle internalized homophobia.

Toxic masculinity plays a huge role in keeping men, both gay and straight, from admitting they have an eating disorder.

Many gay men are afraid of being associated with femininity for doing so, or they still believe mental illnesses aren’t real and that they should just suck it up.

This creates a perfect storm for gay men suffering from eating disorders: the male gaze puts the pressure on them to look a certain way, but masculinity dictates that they not seek help.

What we can all do to tackle this problem is deconstruct the rigid concept of masculinity and the internalized homophobia that stigmatizes eating disorders as “effeminate” and that perceives femininity as a weakness.

5. Validate each other.

This is probably the simplest thing we can do for each other.

I love being gay. I love being in the gay community. It has given me some of the most amazing friends and experiences of my life. But we can do better in validating each other.

It seems like we are quick to dismiss gay men we see as unattractive, quick to write people off if they don’t look a certain way, quick to judge someone on their appearances.

What we should be doing is creating an environment where people can be attractive in different ways. We should be building each other up, celebrating our differences and taking a critical eye to some of the attributes we hold to be positive — gaunt features, bulging muscles, etc.

None of this is a critique on the men we do celebrate. More power to them.

All I’m saying is, gay men, we have a challenge facing our community.

Let’s start working on solutions.

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