All he wants is to be tied up, but his boyfriend is terrible at kink… Now what?!

All he wants is to be tied up, but his boyfriend is terrible at kink… Now what?!

A man who identifies as a “gay bondage bottom” says he’s super into being tied up during sex, but his boyfriend of four years is “100 percent vanilla” and it’s causing issues in their relationship, so he’s asking gay advice veteran Dan Savage for help.

“We solved the ‘problem’ of my need to get tied up–and it’s a real need–by outsourcing it,” the man explains. “I was seeing two regular FWBs/bondage buddies but that’s obviously on hold right now.”

In a brief side note, the man mentions he’s “reached out” to both of his bondage buddies to keep the relationship alive and let them know he’s thinking of them.

Then he explains that, with only his boyfriend around to have sex with, his kink fetish is not being fulfilled. And it’s driving him crazy.

“The issue is I still really need to get tied up and my boyfriend is willing, but he’s so bad at it,” the man confesses. “He’s hurt that I’d rather go without than let him put me in bondage that isn’t really bondage because I can easily get out.”

He continues, “We used to fight because I wanted him to tie me up and he didn’t want to do it, and now we’re fighting because he wants to tie me up and I won’t let him do it.”

In his response, Savage suggests the guy enlist one of his bondage buddies to give his boyfriend a few pointers.

“If people can teach yoga, give concerts and conduct first dates via streaming services, then one of your bondage buddies can – if they’re into the idea – give your boyfriend a few bondage tutorials online,” he writes.

He continues, “I’m glad to hear you already reached out to your bondage buddies … since now you’ll be asking them to do you and your boyfriend a favor. But I imagine it’s a favor they’ll enjoy doing.”

What do you think this guy should do? Sound off in the comments section below…

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Ousted HHS Vaccine Official Predicts ‘Darkest Winter in Modern History’ Without Coordinated U.S. Response, Will Testify Trump Administration Ignored All His Warnings

Ousted HHS Vaccine Official Predicts ‘Darkest Winter in Modern History’ Without Coordinated U.S. Response, Will Testify Trump Administration Ignored All His Warnings

Rick Bright
Rick Bright

Rick Bright, the former director of the Biomedical Advanced Research and Development Authority (BARDA) who alleged in a whistleblower complaint that he was ousted from his position after resisting the Trump administration’s efforts to allow widespread use of hydrooxychloroquine, plans to testify before Congress on Thursday that his urgent advice to ramp up production of respirators and medical supplies as early as January were ignored and that the U.S. faces the “darkest winter in modern history” if a coordinated national response is not implemented immediately.

CNN obtained prepared testimony which reads: “Our window of opportunity is closing. If we fail to develop a national coordinated response, based in science, I fear the pandemic will get far worse and be prolonged, causing unprecedented illness and fatalities. Without clear planning and implementation of the steps that I and other experts have outlined, 2020 will be darkest winter in modern history.”

Read Bright’s full opening statement here.

CNN adds: “Bright is seeking to be reinstated to his position as the head of the Biomedical Advanced Research and Development Authority (BARDA) and the Office of Special Counsel, which is reviewing Bright’s complaint, has determined there is reason to believe his removal was retaliatory and is recommending he be reinstated during its investigation, according to Bright’s attorneys.”

A May 5 report on Bright’s ouster:

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Ousted HHS Vaccine Official Predicts ‘Darkest Winter in Modern History’ Without Coordinated U.S. Response, Will Testify Trump Administration Ignored All His Warnings

HRC condena la legislatura puertorriqueña por intentar retroceder los derechos LGBTQ

HRC condena la legislatura puertorriqueña por intentar retroceder los derechos LGBTQ

HRC condenó los intentos de la legislatura puertorriqueña de despojar los derechos, libertades y dignidad de los puertorriqueños LGBTQ en una nueva versión reescrita del Código Civil. El Código reescrito pasó por el Senado de Puerto Rico esta semana y ahora será visto por la Cámara de Representantes de Puerto Rico. HRC hace un llamado a la gobernadora Wanda Vázquez para retrasar el proceso de ratificación de los códigos civiles para permitir un nivel de participación cívica que responda a las limitaciones presentadas por la pandemia global COVID-19 y vetar cualquier legislación eventual que amenace los derechos y la vida de las personas LGBTQ.

“Los puertorriqueños merecen un proceso de ratificación de su Código Civil justo y transparente, no un acuerdo apresurado y secreto por parte de la legislatura”, dijo el presidente de HRC, Alphonso David. “Condenamos los intentos furtivos de los líderes contra la igualdad por usar este proceso para atacar a los puertorriqueños LGBTQ. El secretismo que rodea los códigos y el proceso legislativo es particularmente preocupante en el contexto de la pandemia global de COVID-19, que ha obstaculizado críticamente la capacidad de los ciudadanos de participar y hacerse oír. La gobernadora Wanda Vázquez debe defender a los puertorriqueños LGBTQ y a la democracia al desacelerar este proceso y permitir que todos participen en la formación del futuro de la isla”.

www.hrc.org/blog/hrc-condena-la-legislatura-puertorriquena-por-intentar-retroceder-los-derec?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss-feed

The queer legacy of “How to Get Away with Murder”

The queer legacy of “How to Get Away with Murder”

ABC

For the last six years, ABC’s “How to Get Away with Murder” has rolled out some of the most twisted, thrilling, and over-the-top murder-mystery storylines on network television. Fans are getting ready to say goodbye to the series that centers around Annalise Keating, a bisexual law professor played by Viola Davis, and her faithful group of law students. The show’s “whodunit” moments have struck a chord with audiences, prompting many social media hashtags from #WhoKilledSam to #WhoDiedAtTheWedding.  However, no matter how many bloody messes Keating and Co. have cleaned up during the show’s 90-episode run, the series’ lasting legacy will lie in its commitment to creating compelling and diverse LGBTQ storylines.

Ahead of the May 14 series finale, Anthony Ramos, GLAAD’s Head of Talent, spoke to showrunner and creator Pete Nowalk as well as actors Conrad Ricamora and Amirah Vann, who portray queer favorites Oliver Hampton and Teigan Price, respectively.

Oliver is now married to Connor Walsh (played by Jack Falahee) and although the couple is in a much different place than in the beginning, Ricamora says that he thinks their relationship is “the heart of the show.” Then came season two, when we learned that Annalise Keating had a previous long-term relationship with a woman named Eve Rothlo (played by Famke Jansen).  Two seasons later, Annalise finally found “a unicorn” in powerhouse Teigan Price, who was in charge of a high-profile law firm and just happened to be Afro-Latinx and a lesbian.

Looking back on a show that ended up being beloved and embraced for its complex, queer storylines, Nowalk says that, surprisingly, it was not his original game plan to do so.

 “The LGBTQ legacy is something I am most proud of, but I never set out to make a show that was so LGBTQ.  What has been awesome for me is the self-discovery of what a queer point of view I have and to freely inject that into the show,” he said.

“How To Get Away with Murder” was an original member of Shondaland’s famed #TGIT Thursday night lineup with “Grey’s Anatomy” and “Scandal,” and Vann says that because the show aired on broadcast television, it connects with an audience of people that might be seeing a queer relationship for the very first time.

“This show is reaching so many people. It is necessary television. When people see two men or two women kissing on TV, those moments are seen around the world, and it sends a message that this is the world we live in,” she said.

Vann says she has been an ally to the LGBTQ community “since growing up in New York” and she hopes that her portrayal on the series gets people to stop discrimination against queer people..

“The LGBTQ community is a community of people who need to be treated with dignity and respect because they are human. They are no different than the rest of us,” Vann said.

“How to Get Away with Murder” won the GLAAD Media Award for Outstanding Drama Series in 2015, and it was that win that sparked the decision to make Davis’ Annalise Keating bisexual.

“I was actually at the GLAAD Awards that first season, and I told Viola that I had an idea for Season 2. I told her I think Annalise used to be in love with a woman and she just smiled! I think she really likes to be challenged. The whole journey for Annalise is for her to get back to who she is at her core,” he said.

In 2018, another pivotal moment that stands out in the show’s history was when Ricamora’s character came out to his traditional Filipino mother as HIV-positive.

GLAAD worked as an advisor on the episode, introducing the writers to people living with HIV so they could hear their personal stories of telling family members they were HIV-positive.

Ricamora spoke with GLAAD after the episode originally aired and said that it was imperative for him to show an HIV narrative that is not seen nearly enough.

“There is this tendency to approach storylines with characters living with HIV and AIDS with such a heaviness and I think that just in showing Oliver living his day-to-day life, even in episodes where we haven’t mentioned it, it is allowing people to see characters and a person living with HIV that is thriving and it’s not about them having a crisis,” Ricamora said.

Flash forward to today, Ricamora, who is gay, says that portraying Oliver, has helped him accept his own queer identity.

“The show has really healed a deep part of me.  I did not have a great coming out experience in high school. I lost most of my friends. When the pilot came out, I had a little bit of a panic attack after I watched it because I realized how many people were going to see this gay story. I felt exposed, the same way I did in high school. But to see the love and support that came out of that experience has truly healed a part of me that was really traumatized.”

In an earlier episode during its final season, Annalise finally opens up to her elderly, ill mother (played by Cicely Tyson) about her sexuality and talks about having been in love with a woman. Two episodes later, we see her declare in an open courtroom “I am a bisexual woman!” Nowalk says that it was important to see this side of her character through to the end.

“When Annalise tells her mother things, so much of the time, she is also really telling that to herself.  I finally found that with Annalise – she could own it and she realized that is a part of her. To love herself she had to share that with her mother,” he said.

Like so many shows, a fandom can continue to grow when people stream a series after it’s aired. Nowalk says that because the previous seasons are available on Netflix, he regularly hears from queer people all over the world who say the show finally made them feel seen and represented.

Ricamora says it’s these kinds of messages on social media that he has received for six years that is truly what he is the most proud of.

“On a weekly basis there will be people who say they have been able to see themselves in the character of Oliver, or that they have been made more comfortable with who they are because of Connor and Oliver’s relationship. People have also said that they have been able to come out to their friends and family because of these characters who they could identify with and gain strength from,” he said.

Check out Viola Davis, Pete Nowalk, Jack Falahee, Conrad Ricamora, and Amirah Vann speaking about the show’s LGBTQ impact:

The series finale of “How To Get Away With Murder” airs Thursday, March 14 at 10pm on ABC.

May 13, 2020

www.glaad.org/blog/queer-legacy-how-to-get-away-with-murder

Reality star takes polygraph test to squash gay rumors… then admits he’s fooled around with guys

Reality star takes polygraph test to squash gay rumors… then admits he’s fooled around with guys

Antonio Pavón is a retired bullfighter, TV personality, and contestant on the most recent season of Spain’s version of Survivor.

During the season, rumors that he and fellow contestant José Antonio Avilés engaged in a romantic relationship began circulating among cast members after Avilés alleged the two had dinner and hooked up in a hotel room prior to shooting.

Though Pavón vehemently denied the claim, the rumors followed him throughout his time on the show. In an effort to finally put them to bed once and for all, the 38-year-old father of one stopped by the show Sábado Deluxe to take a lie detector test.

When asked by host Jorge Javier Vázquez whether he ever had sex with Avilés, Pavón answered “no.” The lie detector test confirmed he was telling the truth.

Related: Spanish TV presenter Jorge Javier Vázquez talks about 21-year-old boy toy he met on Instagram

But here’s where things got interesting.

When asked whether he had ever had any homosexual experiences, Pavón answered “yes.” The lie detector test once again confirmed he was telling the truth, much to Vázquez’s excitement.

Asked to elaborate, Pavón made a not-so-subtle jab at Avilés, saying, “At the moment I am not gay. I am straight. If I take the step tomorrow, it will be with a handsome guy.”

He added that his first response to hearing Avilés’ outrageous claims was to laugh, but the joke has since grown old.

“I would like him to retract it,” Pavón said. “I didn’t have dinner with him at the hotel.”

Pavón also noted that, while it’s true he fooled around with a guy in the past, there was no penetration and it was mostly just touching and grabbing.

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Nosotros como SIEMPRE… JUNTOS Y FELICES!!!

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Supervivientes 2020

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Querer es poder Vamos vamos vamooos

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Maluma Baby

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De Málaga Malagueño

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Chicos SUPERCHEVERES ?

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Vamoooo MiKiiiiiiii Coñooooo

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