The Buttigieg Campaign Says No to a Gay Bar’s Stripper Pole

A Rhode Island campaign event was moved at the last minute, allegedly because of the pole.

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Diego Sans Offers Some Tips for Kissing Men: WATCH

“I feel like kissing is more intimate for me, so I feel like when I’m having sex I’m not much of a kisser,” admits Men.com performer Diego Sans in an instructive new clip from Davey Wavey called “How to Gay Kiss.”

How does one become a better kisser? Is eye contact important? What about anticipation and foreplay? What’s the eight-inch rule? What about kissers who try too hard? Who leads and who follows? How do you tell someone they’re a bad kisser? Where’s the best place to kiss? How do you properly nibble a lip?

If you’re in need of some improvement in these areas, you may want to watch the below clip. Or, you may just want to enjoy some eye candy for the next 8 minutes (note: wk-unfriendly dialogue).

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Diego Sans Offers Some Tips for Kissing Men: WATCH

How do I apologize to other gay men for being homophobic when younger?

A man has prompted a big response online for acknowledging he acted in a homophobic manner when younger. He now wonders if there’s any way he can suitably make amends.

The Reddit user posted on the weekend in the gaybros sub-Reddit: “When I was young I used to hate gay guys and make fun of them because I was afraid to admit to myself that I’m gay.”

He says he even joined protests against Pride parades. He’s now had a change of heart.

“I was influenced by bad company and nationalists. Now I live in western Europe I’m jealous of gay couples. I would love to apologize to them.

“I’m in my 20s, but only thing that I do is going to gym, going to university and playing football with my colleagues. Sometimes I don’t deserve to be happy I think. I’m afraid to date guys. I’m so discreet sometimes even though I live in open-minded city. I seem happy and quite social to other people but I’m stuck inside my head.”

Fellow Reddit users responded with a variety of answers. Most suggested he should not beat himself up about his actions when younger.

“Apologize by living your best life as a gay man,” suggested one. “That’s about as much as we can ask and expect of you. We all have our own paths towards acceptance, and people can’t begrudge you for being raised in an environment that wasn’t tolerant about LGBT.

“You can’t change your past, but you are responsible for your present and future. So live free from all that baggage that you have been carrying. Everyone deserves to be happy, and you owe it to yourself to give you a chance for it. That is what gay pride is about.”

Related: Closeted gay teen finds homophobic dad on Grindr

Other reassured him that he wasn’t the first queer person to express homophobia when younger.

“Don’t be hard on yourself,” said another. “I live in the US. In high school, I used to be a bit homophobic, had a girlfriend and was super closeted. People change. Take your time. Maybe try to join a gay sports league or go to meetups.”

Related: Ex-Bully Comes Out As Gay, Apologizes For Homophobic Torment

Another user said it’s unavoidable that we will hurt other people at some point in our lives. If we can’t apologize in person, the next best way to make amends is through actions.

“If you hurt others, volunteer at a LGBTQ+ suicide hotline,” suggested one of those to comment beneath the original post. “If you hurt others, donate to programs that develop anti-bullying and inclusion-based curricula for schools. If you hurt others, volunteer for mentoring programs and give time back to kids who don’t have the option of hiding behind a mask of CIS rage.

“You did what you did. It was not good. But you probably did your best with the tools you had. And now you have more tools with which to cope. The world needs your action more than your sorrow. Who knows? By volunteering your time to help LGBTQ+ causes, you might make gay friends. And you might feel a little more like you can be who you are.”

In a similar vein, another Redditor said, “I had some stuff in my past I carried guilt from. Finally, I set a goal, not an easy one, and forgave myself. My goal was good deeds to balance the wrong I had done.

“I met my goal and kept on doing good, because, I’d found a better place for myself…I became the guy who is kind to everyone. Great place to be.”

Others reinforced the notion that living his best gay life was the way forward.

“Discreet is a code word for “I’m ashamed”,” cautioned one. “You know yourself that being happy involves being open and doing what you actually want. We’re all, to some extent, the product of our environments and you’ve recognized that so the next step is living that.

“As a community, we do NOT need any more crestfallen gays throwing perpetual pity parties, we’re all full up on those. We need more people living their true selves without shame, so if you’re feeling guilty over whatever know that is all it takes to undo the harm, I doubt honestly anyone remembers anything you said or did, but I can remember nearly every out gay person I met or saw when I was growing up. All for the low low price of living happily as yourself.”

Related: Man’s homophobic childhood bully hits on him on Scruff

Ultimately, many people reminded the user not to dwell on the past too much.

“All of us make bad mistakes in life,” offered another commentor. “What happens next is what defines us. Don’t let yourself be defined by your past and don’t ruin your future in a futile attempt to atone for something that you can’t put right. Be sorry for what you did and be the best yourself you can be.”

Did you ever behave in a homophobic manner when younger? Do you have any advice to add?

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The 5-Part Documentary Series ‘Visible: Out on Television’ Chronicles How LGBTQ People Were Finally Seen on TV: TRAILER

AppleTV+ is premiering the five-part documentary series Visible: Out on Television on February 14, and a new trailer for the special event, exec. produced by Wilson Cruz, Wanda Sykes, and Ryan White was released over the weekend.

Deadline reports: “White said he was inspired by the 1995 feature film The Celluloid Closet, but added that the focus on TV allows the project a unique view, and with five episodes ‘allowed us the real estate to tell that story in full.’”

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The 5-Part Documentary Series ‘Visible: Out on Television’ Chronicles How LGBTQ People Were Finally Seen on TV: TRAILER

HRC Honors Life and Legacy of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. With Day of Service

Today, HRC announced that hundreds of HRC volunteers will take part in nearly 30 community service events across the nation in a day of service and action honoring the life and legacy of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

“More than half a century ago, our nation was moved by a preacher who stood on the steps of the Lincoln Memorial and shared his dream of a day when his children would be judged not by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character,” said HRC President Alphonso David. “Since the Reverend Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. spoke those words in 1963, we as a nation have made great progress in our journey toward full equality, but we know that we have much further to go.”

“Today, as Americans across the country come together in a day of service to celebrate the life and legacy of Dr. King, we must all recommit ourselves to making his dream of justice and equality a reality for all,” David said. “At the Human Rights Campaign, we are fighting for a future where every LGBTQ person is able to live up to their full potential without fear of discrimination. It was Dr. King who said that ‘human progress never rolls in on wheels of inevitability.’As our community faces some of our toughest battles yet, let us keep Martin Luther King’s vision at the center of all that we do as we continue our efforts to make his dream a reality for all.”

Joining national movement partners such as the NAACP, the National Black Justice Coalition, the NAACP Legal Defense Fund and organizations across the country, HRC is proud to celebrate this day of service that honors the powerful legacy and transformative vision of Dr. King. 

With the support and involvement of HRC members and supporters, volunteers nationwide will be giving back to their communities through a range of service projects and amplifying the work that local organizations and leaders are undertaking for the most marginalized groups of the LGBTQ community. Efforts include organizing clothing and toiletries donation drives; assembling and distributing care packages of travel-size hygiene items, school supplies and winter accessories; and participating in beautification and small renovation projects.

HRC will partner with over 30 service providers and local organizations across 27 cities and regions in living out the values of justice and equality that Dr. King so tirelessly championed. 

As we honor his legacy of service, HRC is also working to carry forward Dr. King’s vital work for justice and access at the ballot box. Ahead of the critically important upcoming 2020 election, HRC and Stacey Abrams’ Fair Fight are partnering to help combat voter suppression. This partnership is bringing together the organizations’ expertise in voter protection and voter mobilization to ensure fair and open elections in 2020 and beyond.

For more information about service projects around the country, visit hrc.org/MLKDayOfService.

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