BuzzFeed holds first Queer Prom to promote acceptance for LGBTQ teens

BuzzFeed holds first Queer Prom to promote acceptance for LGBTQ teens

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Prom should be for everyone—that’s why BuzzFeed will host their inaugural Queer Prom in Los Angeles this weekend. The event will be not only a fun and rewarding gathering for LGBTQ youth, but, in the words of BuzzFeed Development Partner Eugene Lee Yang, “a cultural imperative that the entirety of our personnel, from our CEO to our interns, strongly believe in.”

For many high school students, the significance of prom cannot be underestimated. Months can be spent planning the event and attire, countless pictures are taken and shared, and it is the subject of what can seem like every springtime conversation at school. Prom is both a major social event and a space to celebrate students and allow them to feel special.

This is what it looks like to show up for LGBTQ youth. Thank you @BuzzFeed for providing this rite of passage for them to feel accepted. t.co/1hbWukFF1o

— Sarah Kate Ellis (@sarahkateellis) May 11, 2017

The significance of prom for young people is tangible, and necessarily interacts with one’s sexual and romantic identities. In Yang’s words, prom is “the character-defining moment at the end of life’s first act when we’re expected to formally present ourselves for the first time, not only in dress, but also in romantic preference.” For young queer and trans* people who are not out or do not feel supported in their communities, the deep connection between sexuality, gender identity and this milestone can be very problematic.

Many proms have failed to celebrate or even include LGBTQ young people. Proms are mired in heteronormative and cisnormative traditions—the rigid and often forced expectation of girls in gowns and corsages going with guys in tuxedos and bouttonieres—make many queer and transgender young people feel alienated and excluded.

Yang notes that “for queer-identifying high school seniors, prom can present an incredibly repressive hurdle in someone’s coming-out journey—less ‘rite of passage’ and more just another ‘night of normativity.’” Further, the intensity with which many people feel compelled to uphold prom traditions can and does lead to actively antagonizing and purposefully excluding LGBTQ youth. Still today, students around the country are being barred from bringing same-gender partners as dates

Watch BuzzFeed staff talk about their experiences with prom and what this event means to them:

In response to these issues, and his own experience having attended prom as a young and “sexually uncertain” person, Yang began to organize BuzzFeed’s Queer Prom. He hopes that this event will reach not only the young people who will attend, but people across the world. In an article he wrote for Huffington Post, he says of the prom, “it’s a way to show young people all over the world that ‘normal’ is relative and produce a point of reference they may not believe exists.” Undoubtedly, the Queer Prom will provide a space where all LGBTQ youth feel welcome to a tradition and milestone they are entitled to, and safe being their true, authentic selves.

Read more from Yang on BuzzFeed’s Queer Prom here.

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Shepard Smith on Coming Out at ‘Crazy’ FOX News

Shepard Smith on Coming Out at ‘Crazy’ FOX News

Fox News anchor Shepard Smith gave a speech late last month to his alma mater in which he discussed coming out as a gay man while working at the “craziest conservative network on earth.”

Speaking April 21 at the Meek School of Journalism at the University of Mississippi, with his partner in attendance, Smith expressed how being open about his sexuality allowed him to make it a non-issue in his career and everyday work life. “I don’t think about it,” he said. “It’s not a thing. I go to work. I manage a lot of people. I cover the news. I deal with holy hell around me. I go home to the man I’m in love with.”

Of course, getting to that point was long in the making. At first, Smith decided avoiding the matter of his gay identity professionally was the path of least resistance. USA Today reports:

The Holly Springs, Miss., native said that for his college years and the first two decades of his career, he didn’t hide his sexuality so much as he just steered clear of the issue entirely. He poured himself into his work because he was unprepared to deal with the consequences.

“A. You’re going to hell for it,” he said, listing the reasons he avoided the subject. “B. You’ll never have any friends again. C. What are you going to tell your family? And by the way, you’re on television on the craziest conservative network on Earth,” he joked.”That will probably put you in front of a brick wall. Of course, none of that was true, but that’s how it felt.”

That, he explained, was “why it wasn’t until seven, or eight, or nine years ago, I started living my truth … And when I told the truth, I guess it was considered that I outed myself. I didn’t even think about it because I didn’t think I was in.”

Things did get better after that point.

“Once I figured it all out, I wasn’t hiding anything,” he told the audience. “I was always as true to me as I knew how to be. If I was fibbing to you, it’s because I was fibbing to me. And I didn’t realize I was fibbing to you because I didn’t know I was fibbing to me. And I know that sounds like such a load of (expletive), but it really is my truth. And I don’t have to fib about anything ever again as long as I live and that really makes everything so much easier.”

Previously, Shepherd has denied that former Fox News chief Roger Ailes had prevented his coming out sooner, although his recent willingness to tackle the subject—he first explicitly acknowledged his orientation publicly in that October 2016 interview with the Huffington Post—seems to have come only after Ailes’s departure under pressure from the cable channel.

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Harsh Caning Sentence Is Sought By Prosecutors for Gay Couple in Indonesia

Harsh Caning Sentence Is Sought By Prosecutors for Gay Couple in Indonesia

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Prosecutors in Indonesia’s province of Aceh who have put two men, ages 23 and 20, on trial for the crime under Shariah law of gay sex have called for each to be punished with 80 lashes of the cane.

The maximum sentence allowable is 100 lashes. The lead prosecutor, Gulmani, said the two men had “confessed” in the face of video evidence taken under duress. The men are the first to be tried under the law.

The AP reports:

The couple was arrested in late March after neighborhood vigilantes in the provincial capital Banda Aceh suspected them of being gay and set out to catch them having sex. Mobile phone footage that circulated online and forms part of the evidence shows one of the men naked and visibly distressed as he apparently calls for help on his cellphone. The second man is repeatedly pushed by another man who is preventing the couple from leaving the room.

If found guilty, the men will be the first to be caned for gay sex under a new Shariah code implemented in Aceh two years ago. Aceh is the only province in Muslim-majority Indonesia to practice Shariah law, which was a concession made by the national government in 2006 to end a years-long war with separatists.

In Aceh, the Shariah court’s panel of three judges will announce its verdict next week.

Gulmani told reporters that the men did not accept the court’s offer to appoint a defense lawyer. He declined to elaborate but guilty verdicts are certain in most cases that reach the Shariah court.

The development is one of several in recent years that suggest Indonesia has taken a hard turn toward a more draconian interpretation of Islam, including the conviction Tuesday of the governor of Jakarta to two years in prison for the crime of “blasphemy.” This turn has included an intolerance for LGBTQ individuals, both in criminal crackdowns and policing of social media as well as in the inflammatory rhetoric of its political figures.

Human Rights Watch highlighted this worsening situation in its call for the two men to be released, in which they asserted that “These men had their privacy invaded in a frightening and humiliating manner and now face public torture for the ‘crime’ of their alleged sexual orientation.”

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Sean Spicer Had a Meltdown After Trump Fired Comey, Hiding in Bushes, Demanding Darkness

Sean Spicer Had a Meltdown After Trump Fired Comey, Hiding in Bushes, Demanding Darkness

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White House press secretary and former Easter Bunny Sean Spicer has a real tough job sometimes. And on Tuesday night, when President Donald Trump fired FBI director James Comey, it apparently became too much to handle. RELATED: Sean Spicer’s best moments are also his worst Spicer had planned to email out a statement announcing Comey’s termination,…

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