Dan Savage Invites Ben Carson To Suck His D*** — To Prove A Point (Mostly)

— Syndicated sex columnist and ornery gay Dan Savage challenging noted presidential hopeful and actual doctor, Ben Carson, to submit the receipts following his comments that prison (presumably among other things) makes one gay.

Les Fabian Brathwaite

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Rape Happens In Gay Relationships Too
About two years ago I moved in with my boyfriend of three years. We were gross—the kind of couple you hate standing behind in a line. I couldn’t walk down the street without being attached to him in some way. He was my first love, and I’ll never forget or be able to fully explain the feeling of wholeness just walking around with him brought me.

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13 Guaranteed Ways To Fail At Picking Up Someone Up At A Bar From A Castro Bartender

For a nearly a decade Yuri Kagan, author Vodka & Limelight, has slung drinks at watering holes, from the gay male variety to the sexually ambiguous sort. 

He collected some of his best tips on how to get lucky or go home alone…

1. Boy you must be tired… of running through my mind all night… Those cheeks look good enough to eat off.

So your once trusty pickup-lines are now greeted by an awkward stare? Stop using them. There are great conversation starters, others linger like bad gas. A great pickup-line that works for both sexes: You look familiar, do I know you from somewhere? It works even if you know you have never met. It’s an easy way to start a conversation, casually flirt and put feelers out with little risk. If after two words you aren’t into it just apologize and go back to fishing the cherry out of the bottom of your drink. Awkwardness minimized.

2. While on a date where booze is involved don’t blame booze for everything you fuck up.

I didn’t mean to grab your butt, I’m drunk. First off, know your limits and take responsibility for your own actions. Second, blaming booze doesn’t make sense. I wouldn’t blame Sake for Pearl Harbor or Tequila for stealing American jobs so leave booze alone. On this topic, if you don’t live in dorms don’t act like it. It’s not a drinking competition. No one cares how much you drink unless they have to take care of you.

3. Don’t send anyone to do the flirting for you.

This is true for any type of relationship.  You aren’t in study hall anymore so don’t send your gal pal up to tell me how you think I’m cute and ask what I think. If you want to know, do it yourself or live wondering forever.

4. See that bitch at Starbucks on his phone even while ordering coffee?

The one where it’s hard to tell who she is talking to or about? The barista has to ask this person to repeat their drink so you just roll your eyes. Don’t be that person on a date. Put the phone away period.

5. Do not talk about you exes, people you have slept with, your painful corns, the co-worker that always steals your parking spot, your opinion on abortion, the death of your sister or cat.

Keep your baggage to yourself like that bald spot you may have and only you notice. Like Santa, slowly gift your baggage out of your large bag of crap one item per date. It’s too much to hear all of another person’s problems in one sitting because we are usually more preoccupied with ourselves.

6. You know what’s hot on a date? Tipping.

Seriously, people that visibly tip get more play. It shows they are generous and care enough to pay for service. Bartenders don’t make the rules, it’s just the way it is. Also, don’t tell the other person how to tip. No one likes a backseat tipper.

7. Don’t ask the so why ya’ single? question unless you want to stay single.

It’s a pretty dumb question to which there is no good answer. No one wants to hear the response to which is the truth about how the love of your life dumped you at Ikea because you didn’t like his taste in paisley sheets.

8. Offer to pay now and again.

It’s about offering — with the freedom-based, rule free gay culture it’s sometimes hard to figure out the rules. Here is how it goes: If you invite the person out, you should at least offer to buy them a drink even if you know he will pay because of that great job as a Facebook programmer or Apple engineer. It’s about manners. This goes for both gay and straight relationships. Nothing is harder to watch then a woman who assumed her date was buying her a drink and doesn’t have enough cash. Also, if someone buys you drinks you don’t technically owe him anything but it could be considered common courtesy to let them at least cop a feel or more if you are feeling it after a few of those drinks.

9. Again, get off that phone!

Straight, gay or greedy it doesn’t matter. If you are out at a bar or place with a lot of single people, get off of Tindr, Grindr, Hookd or any variation/combination. It’s a bit redundant to be in a virtual bar in a real bar. Save that for when you’re at home or at work and there is slim-pickin if you are not interested in the boy next door or your roomie. No one want to walk up to you if you are absorbed in your phone, especially if you are on one of those apps chatting up the guy at the bar next door or in the townhouse up the street. We all know what you are doing as your finger slides across that screen. It’s especially annoying if we walk right past you and see a dick photo on your phone of a guy who is literally across the room.

10. Don’t talk to the bartender more than the person you are with.

Also, make eye-contact. Not the creepy, couple seconds too long eye-contact. Just enough to show you care. On a side note: You won’t go home with the bartender so stop being rude.

11. Don’t be too quick to casually announce you don’t believe in condoms.

First off it could be considered irresponsible, depending on the circumstances, and is a case of putting the cart before the stallion or something like that.

12. A date is not the time to officially come out.

If you are new to gay, we already know cause you still have that new car smell.

13. Don’t pretend not to eat.

You aren’t a Ken doll. Nothing is more sad then watching a woman or a gay man out on a date with a tiny salad while their date has the surf n’ turf. We know you are stuffing your fat gourd behind closed doors so keep it real.

Check out Yuri Kagan’s Vodka & Limelight on Amazon

Chris Bull

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Former Romney Advisor Backs Away From Gay Marriage Advocacy As He Preps Jeb Bush's 2016 White House Run

Kyler Geoffroy

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9 of Ellen's Cutest Animal Jokes on Instagram

Need a dose of adorable? Ellen’s got you covered.

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Allegra Ringo

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HRC Remembers Selma’s Bloody Sunday

Today, HRC honors the 50th anniversary of Bloody Sunday in Selma, Alabama.
HRC.org

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12 Unfortunate Assaults On Taste And Culture Made By LGBT People — And Cher

According to stereotype, gay people are the ultimate tastemakers and creative trendsetters. Our keen eyes for detail and ability to think outside the box provide us with an aptitude for identifying trends, uncovering talent, and coming up with creative ideas and designs, particularly when it comes to art, culture, and fashion.

While it’s true that in generate we dominate the creative world, we can be just as tacky as everyone else. In fact, our fails tend to be even more spectacular. Usually, we know the difference between good taste and intentionally bad taste, known in sociology as “camp.” For instance, the cult classic Pink Flamingos is so bad it’s good, which the great John Waters totally got. Unfortunately, we’re not always that lucky.

Scroll down for 12 of our worst contributions to American culture and style. Please add your own examples in the comments section below…

Mesh underwear

Whatever queen is responsible for this shockingly awful trend should have his gay card revoked immediately. ‘Nuff said.

Carson Kressley’s “Perfect” QVC clothing line

The year was 2006. Carson Kressley was at the top of his game as fashionista on Queer Eye for the Straight Guy. So he did what every successful D-list celebrity does and launched a QVC fashion line. The line was called “Perfect” and featured “basics with a twist” geared, apparently, towards Midwestern suburban housewives. Items included pleaded khaki capri pants with a side buckle, T-shirts bedazzled with rhinestones, white denim jackets with polkadots, and stretch jeans to name just a few examples of the horror. We love you, Carson, but, please, you’re hurting our eyes!

David Bromstad’s “fine art” collection

Looking for a glossy mixed animal print canvas to hang over your sofa? Search no further! David Bromstad, host of HGTV’s Color Splash, has no shortage of affordable “fine art” for sale, in addition to a line of bathroom accessories sold exclusively at Bed Bath & Beyond, and a limited-edition collection of Coffee-Mate® creamer bottles (yes, we said Coffee-Mate® creamer bottles) that he designed for Target.

Darren Star’s Cashmere Mafia television series

Sex and the City producer Darren Star hoped to recycle the HBO phenomenon on network TV in 2008 when he signed on as executive producer of ABC’s Cashmere Mafia. The show followed four fashion-obsessed career women as they navigated through life in New York City. It was a familiar formula, and one not many viewers seemed interested in. The show, packed with outdated fashions, ugly sets, and bad one-liners, bombed both in the ratings and the reviews, surviving barely seven episodes before ABC pulled the plug.

The music of Colton Ford

The adult film star released his first album Tug of War in 2008, which featured 12 original electronic dance songs. A year later, Ford released his sophomore effort, Under the Covers, a collection of 18 cover songs, including Aailyah’s “Rock the Boat,” Britney Spears’ “Trouble,” and Mariah Carey’s “It’s Like That.” A third assault came in 2013, when Ford released yet another album of original dance tunes called The Way I Am.

Dante’s Cove

The gay-themed supernatural/gothic soap opera aired on the network here! for three seasons between 2005 and 2007 and centered around a young gay couple, Kevin and Toby, whose love was constantly being challenged by dark mystical forces conspiring to tear them apart. After the third season ended, here! announced plans to produce a fourth, but something happened (we’re not sure what exactly) and the new season mercifully never came to light, though the show’s official website still says it’s “coming soon.” Perhaps it’s being held captive in the evil House of Shadows.

Liberace’s mirrored piano

It’s not surprising that someone with an ego the size of Liberace’s would want a grand piano covered entirely with mirrors so he could admire himself, and be admired by others, from every angle at all times. The problem isn’t so much the piano itself, but what it led to, and we’re not just talking about the elevator music that’s about as pleasant as fingernails on a chalkboard. Thanks to the bejeweled one, some people now furnish their entire homes with mirrored decor. Mirrored tables. Mirrored dressers. Mirrored headboards. Mirrored armoires. Department stores now carry entire lines of mirrored furnishings.

 

Cher’s gay anthem “Pride” 

We love Cher. But her gay anthem “Pride” from the deluxe edition of her most recent album Closer to the Truth was bad even by EDM standards. “We got pride,” the diva belted over a synthetic dance beat, “We own the night! We are the light!” Had it been released in, say, 1996 it might have resonated more deeply with gay audiences. But by 2013, we didn’t need another shrieking club track telling us to be proud.

Lady Gaga’s ARTPOP

While we’re on the subject of bad music, to call Lady Gaga’s 2013 album ARTPOP a “misstep” would be an understatement. The album, along with its promotional campaign, was an utter disaster, plagued by poor single choices, infighting with her management, and disappointing sales figures, not to mention bizarre media appearances where Gaga claimed she was addicted to marijuana and made jabs at Madonna’s age. But the root of ARTPOP‘s problem was probably the songs themselves, many of which sounded like throwaway tracks from her previous effort Born This Way. Oh, and don’t even get us started on that whole collaboration with R. Kelly and the rapey music video. We still cringe every time we think about it.

The interior designs of Bobby Trendy

Self-proclaimed “top interior designer of Los Angeles” Bobby Trendy first gained notoriety after appearing on The Anna Nicole Show in the mid-2000s. Trendy designed a tufted Pepto-Bismol pink bed for Smith with matching feathered pillows and satan bedding. He later went on to call himself “the most famous designer in the world” before appearing on the short-lived Gimme My Reality Show!, in which D-listers compete for their own reality show. (He didn’t win, unfortunately.)

Madonna’s film The Next Best Thing

This 2000 calamity starring Madonna and Rupert Everett revolves around Abbie (played by Madge) and her gay best friend Robert (played by Everett) who decide to make a baby together. Things don’t work out and a nasty custody battle ensues. Critics called the film “astonishingly bad,” a “tone-deaf disaster,” and a “depressing, lugubrious film experience.” Roger Ebert described it as “a garage sale of gay issues, harnessed to a plot as exhausted as a junkman’s horse.” Perhaps the only good thing to come from the entire debacle was its soundtrack, which featured two new songs from Madge, “Time Stood Still,” and a cover of Don McLean’s “American Pie,” which became an international hit.

 

Rainbow flag & swag

We know Gilbert Baker had the best intentions when he designed the Gay Pride flag in 1978. And to be clear: We totally understand and appreciate what the flag represents. But we still hate it. The colors are, in a word, garish. They are too bright. Not to mention, there are too many of them. (Believe it or not, the original design had even more colors, but two of them had to be removed for production purposes.) On top of that, the whole rainbow thing has gotten way out of control. There are now entire online stores dedicated exclusively to selling personalized rainbow gear — T-shirts, jewelry, keychains, belt buckles, water bottles, bumper stickers. It’s become a real problem.

Graham Gremore

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