Transgender, Bisexual Individuals Recognized For First Time Ever In A State Of The Union Speech

Transgender, Bisexual Individuals Recognized For First Time Ever In A State Of The Union Speech
WASHINGTON — President Barack Obama pushed for protections for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender individuals Tuesday evening, making it the first time bisexual and transgender individuals have ever been recognized directly in a State of the Union address.

“As Americans, we respect human dignity, even when we’re threatened, which is why I’ve prohibited torture, and worked to make sure our use of new technology like drones is properly constrained,” said Obama, adding, “That’s why we defend free speech, and advocate for political prisoners, and condemn the persecution of women, or religious minorities, or people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender. We do these things not only because they’re right, but because they make us safer.”

Obama is also the first president to ever mention transgender individuals in any public speech, having done so in past contexts other than State of the Union addresses.

Obama declared marriage to be a “civil right” Tuesday night as well, just days after the Supreme Court announced it would take up the issue of marriage equality. This spring, it could finally rule whether it’s unconstitutional to bar same-sex couples from getting married.

“I’ve seen something like gay marriage go from a wedge issue used to drive us apart to a story of freedom across our country, a civil right now legal in states that seven in 10 Americans call home,” said Obama.

Obama, who came out in support of same-sex marriage in May 2012, also tied gay rights to the civil rights fight in his second inaugural address. He said it was “our generation’s task” to carry on what was begun at Seneca Falls, Selma and Stonewall — centers of the fight for women’s rights, African-American rights and LGBT rights, respectively.

“Our journey is not complete until our gay brothers and sisters are treated like anyone else under the law –- for if we are truly created equal, then surely the love we commit to one another must be equal as well,” he said.

It was the first time that a president had ever mentioned gay rights in an inaugural address, although some advocates were disappointed that he didn’t include transgender rights as well.

Masen Davis, executive director of the Transgender Law Center in California, was thrilled with the inclusion of transgender and bisexual individuals in Tuesday’s State of the Union speech.

“I listened to the State of the Union with bated breath. President Obama’s public recognition of transgender people in his State of the Union address was historic,” he told The Huffington Post. “It is time for the American public to become aware of our stories and struggles both at home and around the globe.”

Last year, Obama took a number of steps to ban discrimination against the LGBT community, in particular transgender Americans. In July, he signed an executive order making it illegal to fire or harass employees of federal contractors based on their sexual orientation or gender identity. The order also explicitly banned discrimination against transgender employees of the federal government.

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President Obama Reiterates Support for Marriage Equality During State of the Union

President Obama Reiterates Support for Marriage Equality During State of the Union

Tonight marks the first time a President has called marriage a civil right to Congress & the first time a State of the Union has referenced bisexual or trans people.
HRC.org

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LIVESTREAM: President Obama's 2015 'State of the Union' Address

LIVESTREAM: President Obama's 2015 'State of the Union' Address

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Tonight, President Obama will address a joint session of Congress and deliver his sixth State of the Union address. The address is set to begin at 9 PM ET.

The President has been urged to address LGBT issues in tonight’s address by key advocates, particularly the question of non-discrimination protections for LGBT Americans as The Washington Blade notes.

Andy also reported earlier that Congresswoman Debbie Wasserman Schultz has invited a gay couple from Florida who were the second same-sex couple to wed in the Sunshine State after its ban on gay marriage came down earlier this month. Be sure to watch for them in the chamber.

Watch the livestream of the President fulfilling his duties under Article II of the Constitution, AFTER THE JUMP…

Do you think President Obama will address protections against discrimination for LGBT Americans? If so, will the President (and any proposed legislation) receive applause from both sides of the aisle? Or will Congress continue to make us sick? Watch tonight to find out.

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Sean Mandell

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Wearing Dad Jeans and Other Premium Benefits of Mentoring a Young Gay Man

Wearing Dad Jeans and Other Premium Benefits of Mentoring a Young Gay Man
I recently had lunch with Griffin.* He was back in Nashville to start his final semester as an undergraduate. During his break he found out that he didn’t get accepted into the grad school of his choice. His sister, who’s a heroin addict, stole some of his Christmas gifts to fund her habit. And he filled me in on his burgeoning relationship with Paul,* whom he met when he was home over the summer. They felt a spark during the holiday, and he’s really in love, he said, but he’s nervous about the distance between them over these next few months.

My 23-year-old friend is going through some major growing pains. All Griffin’s plans for the future are suddenly in the air, and he’s not sure how to factor Paul into plan B.

My advice to him: Keep putting one foot in front of the other. Focus on graduating, and keep an eye open for internships in your field. Trust that everything happens as it should, and that your right path will be revealed. Enjoy being in love, but make fulfilling your own life your top priority. As for your sister, forgive her, set good boundaries, and keep praying that she’ll find her way back.

I hope my words to him made a difference. And if not the words, then at least the time I spent with him.

I met Griffin when he was a sophomore. A mutual friend introduced us at the Nashville AIDS Walk. We hit it off immediately. Soon after, we developed a strong friendship with lots of texting (as the young people do) and occasional dinners and movie nights. At some point, he started referring to me as his “gay dad.” It shocked me until I did the math and realized that I am reasonably old enough to be his father (I’m 42). To add insult to injury, I showed up to dinner one night, and he asked me, “What’s up with the dad jeans?” I looked down and realized that I hadn’t updated my denim in about eight years. In a world where hipsters and skinny jeans rule, I am now a break-a-hipster. The boot cut is the deepest.

Aside from the clanging chimes of aging doom, my role as Griffin’s gay dad has been one of the most rewarding of my life. I get to share with him some of the wisdom I’ve gleaned over the years: how to navigate the brutal and egocentric world of gay dating, what it means to have integrity, how to keep a healthy sense of self while wading through narcissism in social media, and why he should look on the bright side of whatever life throws his way.

Griffin is close to his own parents. They love him and are supportive in every way. But they don’t know what it’s like to be gay. Griffin has told me time and time again how meaningful it is to have a gay mentor in whom he can confide. While his parents took him and his boyfriend on a mini-vacation to Florida over the holidays, he can’t talk to them about the complexities of gay sex. He feels reticent to share the depth of his emotions with them. With me, he can be frank about anything.

While I judge that our relationship is good for Griffin, it is healing to me as well. When I think back to my own life at his age, I would have given anything to have an older gay friend to show me the rainbow ropes. I wish I’d had a shoulder to cry on after every false start at love. And, as for those couple of years I spent as a go-go dancer, I wish I’d had someone to tell me that to shine in the world, I could be so much more than my body, that my intellect and my humanitarian gifts were more than enough to light my way.

I don’t think we, as a community, offer enough support to youth who are navigating the world as LGBTQ adults for the first time. There are no healthy rites of passage for young people as they emerge from the closet. To gather as gay people, we mostly meet in bars, which promulgate all the human vices and prove over time to be our only enduring social structure.

My own early years acclimating as a gay man carry some of the deepest wounds of my life. For a while, I sacrificed my education, carried shame about my sexuality, made horrible dating choices, and looked for my self-esteem in the nightclubs. Now, through Griffin, I have a golden opportunity to bring light into those dark places. I have a deep and visceral need to give him the advice and friendship from an older gay man that I didn’t have.

I’m glad I can now dust off my past — with all my mistakes and failures — and use it constructively to mentor Griffin. I know I don’t have all the answers he seeks, but I always have a listening ear.

Maybe, though, it’s time I listen to him and get rid of those dad jeans.

*Names have been changed to protect privacy.

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Alexis Arquette Drops Another Big Bombshell About Sex With Jared Leto

Alexis Arquette Drops Another Big Bombshell About Sex With Jared Leto

alexis-arquette-jared-leto-sexMeanwhile, people are asking about Jared Leto’s penis size. Is that what it’s come to? I wasn’t trying to get people to believe anything. I mentioned it in passing at the end of the interview. I was dressed as a man when it went down. I was trying to give some hope for the gay men out there! But the idea that the dude could be bisexual — whoa, that’s just too much for people to handle. I did find out after our tete-a-tete that he did end up with a trannie I know, and she was on top.”

 

Alexis Arquette, who during an interview with Michael Musto expressed surprise that her previous revelation about hooking up with Oscar winner Jared Leto generated so much attention

 

Jeremy Kinser

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Billy Crystal's Homophobic Remarks Require Context

Billy Crystal's Homophobic Remarks Require Context

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As we are all fully aware at this point, legendary comedian Billy Crystal wedged his foot down his esophagus during his Television Critics Association press circuit, saying that gay characters on television are “a bit too much,” “Sometimes, it’s just pushing it a little too far for my taste,” and of course the old saw of ‘shoving it in his face.’

The Hollywood Reporter figured that the remarks had to be taken out of context, particularly given that Crystal had played one of the first openly gay characters on primetime television, and investigated further. Crystal clarified, saying:

What I meant was that whenever sex or graphic nudity of any kind (gay or straight) is gratuitous to the plot or story it becomes a little too much for my taste.

Huffington Post editor Noah Michelson had similar concerns and also went looking for further context, though whereas the The Hollywood Reporter was willing to take Crystal’s statement to them at face value, the interview Michelson found at Xfinity’s tv blog was more damning. There, Crystal said:

But when I feel it’s a cause, when I feel it’s “You’re going to like my lifestyle,” no matter what it is, I’m going to have a problem and there were a couple of shows I went ‘I couldn’t watch that with somebody else.’

[…]

We live in a very scary time in many ways. You can’t say this, you can’t say that, you can’t offend this group, that group. People come up to you and ask if you were offended. I don’t understand that. I understand it why everyone is watching out for the other person. That’s offensive to me.

Which brought Michelson to his conclusion:

Beneath all of the progress we’ve made, the shit — from disgust with our sex lives to frustration with our wanting to push our “cause” and “lifestyle” — still exists. We can pass all of the laws we want and we can give queer people all the same rights as non-queers, but if the fundamental feeling about us is still “Ew! Yuck! I don’t want to see that!” or “Stop shoving that in our faces!” I hardly call that progress.


Christian Walters

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